I'm unique, my life experience has led me down a path and the journey has been enlightening. I've come to find that the typical dynamic of relationships in Australian culture just doesn't feel natural and I have never felt comfortable and myself when in this kind of relationship. I'm an intelligent, calm and nurturing personality but I don't like being restricted in how I experience life or imposing my view of the world upon others.

I think its more important to be human than it is to be what others expect, the human want for intimacy, companionship and lust are primal, everything else constructed around that is socially imposed and really isn't real, we've just been brought up to believe to do otherwise makes you a bad person.

I'm separated with two young kids whom I take care of Friday - Sunday unless I make plans and get a sitter. Most of my free time is during the weekdays.

I've recently left my career with the Police after a decade in that field. I have little interest in drama, I have experienced the hardship of that world and I think life is too short to let every little thing bother you. I was medically discharged with PTSD and have income protection insurance for a few years while I reskill for another career.

Financially secure, drives and can host on a Wednesday during the day and Thursday till 7pm

I've had a membership here which recently lapsed, I'm not inclined to waste more cash at the moment but if I find someone worth speaking to I'll happily put in the funds to get in contact, its pretty cheap really.

Just because I'm open sexually does not mean I don't consider my health. I wear a condom at all times during play even though I've had a vasectomy. Virus spread because people allow them to because they don't know they have them. Regular checks and protection.

SEXUAL INTERESTS:

What gets me off is more personal than the simple bumping of bodies. Nude photo's can be sexy but genital photo's are not very interesting or alluring. A persons smile and eyes will captivate way more than simple nudity. When I lay with another I'm looking to make them cum and relish in the feel of their body as it twists and stretches, watching her eyes roll back as she bites her lip and gasps at the last... that's sexy, that is what will make me cum in turn.

I have other interests and experiences non of which are mandatory,

Everyone likes dom's these days, I'm no expert though traditionally dominant, strong voice, control and your body is mine to play with, your cum is my reward as my cum is your reward. I'm not into humiliation or derogatory play. My role as a dom is to bring forth your sexual nature and help you feel liberated and confident. Restraints may be used with trust, spanking, choking and toys.

MFM. FFM, groups and swinger parties. I've done all these over life securing some recent friendship with others to attend the odd party here and there. I've no anxiety performing with others watching or participating. I'm not bi, but I don't get nervous performing moves like double penetration (anal / vaginal or double vaginal).

Mentor / Daddy: I like to teach and bring others into sexual confidence. you could be an older woman who isn't well versed sexually or a young lady looking to learn.

The vanilla: This comprises all the regular sex acts, the simple in out in out, oral, kissing and embrace.

Public fun: There is an allure to fun in places we are not supposed to have it. Its kinky as hell.

Photo's and vids: I'd like to make some vids and take photo's to upload to a porn website. Of course these would be out of my sphere of control once uploaded but what is uploaded would be consensual with identity markers removed or cropped. Its always better to have a camera man / woman handy to film and join so get in touch if you're interested in helping here.

WHAT I SEEK:

I'm here to find a sexual partner(s) of quality not quantity. Different people offer different experiences and I don't want anyone that would limit my journey as I would not limit theirs. This could take the form of a friends with benefits or even a polygamous relationship.

What we do is consensual and this is a place where no sexual interest is off limits, so speak your mind and know I will not judge you for wanting what you want.

I want to be wanted and want to want, lol, so letting me know you're feeling lust and want me is very alluring and can become intoxicating. I cant be with someone who doesn't let me know they want me as I'm sure a partner would want to be wanted by their lover and be reminded regularly.

Someone who doesn't define themselves by their job or their family. Sure these factors make up a very small percentage of your personality but I'm more interested in getting to know you the person and bringing to bear that primal self and indulging.

Someone that can converse. If I ask a question I do expect an answer. Even if its "I'd prefer not to answer that." acknowledgement of the question is paramount and builds trust and sets boundaries.

The only way to test chemistry is in person, so if we get along online I'm happy to setup a meet in a public place over a hot drink. We meet, we talk and if we like one another we go forward. If there are no sparks we politely decline and move on with a smile knowing we ventured.

If you're "attached" or "married" or "its complicated" its really none of my business, I consider that personal business and I don't judge another for making choices in life.

There are scammers everywhere on these sites. If you ask for my email straight away and you're a new member with a very model like photo and no information I will not respond. If you ask me to go to a website to "authenticate my age" I know you're a scammer. My background is in intelligence...