"why are single guys so disliked here", was the topic. Because they dont turn up. You dont need a encylopedia to find that out. The first identifier is when they expect others to have profile photos but dont have any them selves and also hide the locality. The best is to block them on the first contact.
god this makes me laugh i help host a play party here in melb and we allow single guys now alot are from this site and have the utmost manners and know when no means no so just remember there is alot of gr8 single guys still on this site
Quote by Bikie god this makes me laugh i help host a play party here in melb and we allow single guys now alot are from this site and have the utmost manners and know when no means no so just remember there is alot of gr8 single guys still on this site
That is cool Bikie. But the question has to be asked, we are not talking about a commercial venture here, are we? Suffice to say all of your guests are paying an equal monetary contribution, or is it that swingles are paying a few cents more? If so why?
Well the plot thickens. So now we have stereo type male groupings as well. Gee this is getting more complex by the minute, LOL.
Sadly in our experience, a smidgin of swinging couples are not quite up to par either. Little gems like, "I want several football teams to fuck my wife and see her gushing cum from every orifice in her body", or "I want to see my husband humiliated cause he cannot get it up anymore", don't quite do it for us either.
Single guys are different at a sex party swing night as they pay to get in and they know if they stuff up they are out and after all they do get ripped off by paying a lot more than a couple or single fem so have more to loose
But off a sex site where there is no charge they have nothing to loose so its a totaly different scene
The first part of respect to single guys at parties is to stop RIPPING THEM OFF and put every one on a per head cost
We know running the parties and allowing single guys is only for making money and as much as can be made quickly as possable and nothing more
We know people that ran parties in the past and know how it all works
Melbcpl01
Quote by melbcpl01 We know running the parties and allowing single guys is only for making money and as much as can be made quickly as possable and nothing more Melbcpl01
Well to us that is not swinging, perhaps a tad more closely aligned to prostitution. Bottom line is one of exploitation and that is very sad.
Hawkesbury Couple, you indicated that you recently changed your profile so as to be receptive to approaches from single guys. Without getting into the reasons for your change of heart, could you enlighten our readers through your experience as to the substance behind successful approaches from single blokes. If you like, a dummies guide for single blokes seeking to play with the Hawkesbury Couple. If you could highlight what they should say, it might be beneficial to the multitudes of single blokes seeking your favour, and those of other likeminded couples as well.
BTW please reply only if you are comfortable in doing so!!
number 1 : have a picture! its hard to trust someone who doesnt have a face :P
and on that note, has anyone ever taken a poll to find out why blokes dont put up a picture,
a " 'TOP 10' reasons why I am too chicken shit to put a picture of me on a sex site" would be elightening
We just love the samples given by nomads_oz like: fill my ear with cum until it comes out the other ear, can we read any more of these ?
Sure, single guys can be a problem as they have nothing to loose on this site, some are single with a crying wife at home and some are couples where only the male turns up, claiming his wife is at the moment overseas. But- couples can be the same problem where a oversaturated husband just wants some thing better to what he has with no interest in sharing.
Each to his own, it can take a very long time for the right connections to be found and on this site it could take for ever.
We can blame the guys, the couples, but waht about the site? A friend of ours, a single male, was here a member for 10 hours and then he left.
If this site insisted on photos and locality to be given to accept a profile, then every thing would be different. We would know if some one is located in Brisbane or Perth and we would know if we are looking at a person or a ape.
Quote by walwal We just love the samples given by nomads_oz like: fill my ear with cum until it comes out the other ear, can we read any more of these ? If this site insisted on photos and locality to be given to accept a profile, then every thing would be different. We would know if some one is located in Brisbane or Perth and we would know if we are looking at a person or a ape.
Thanks for the reply walwal. Yes we have many more treasures like that in the vault. Perhaps we need a thread on great come on lines, LOL. We could not agree more with the lack of personal details issue on profiles. Ni discernible location equals a no reply from us. Sure we understand the need for circumspection but it does not take to much imagination to give a reasonable hint as to location. But of course that subsumes we are all here for the same reason, which of course is not the case.
Quote by hawkesbury_cpl Hawkesbury Couple, you indicated that you recently changed your profile so as to be receptive to approaches from single guys. Without getting into the reasons for your change of heart, could you enlighten our readers through your experience as to the substance behind successful approaches from single blokes. If you like, a dummies guide for single blokes seeking to play with the Hawkesbury Couple. If you could highlight what they should say, it might be beneficial to the multitudes of single blokes seeking your favour, and those of other likeminded couples as well. BTW please reply only if you are comfortable in doing so!!
We would have thought that would have been pretty simple for anyone to work out from our profile and posts above. Wouldn't you guys be in a far better position to put up such a post if you feel that one is needed. Hawkesbury we are not seeking the single guys, you are!! And we did ask you not to reply unless you were comfortable in doing so, and it would seem you are not, but did, LOL. But for a reasonable consideration we would be delighted to write the singles dumnnies guide for singles wishing to play with the Hawkesbury Couple, LOL. It would of course be an expurgated version subject to your approval. So what are you offering for the comission, LOL????????? P.S. The above is very much tongue in cheek!!
We looked at single men, thought it be good, find a nice guy similar age to join us, The issue is when you have on your profile that your also looking for single men, you get bombard with so many messages and winks, you dont bother to even answer or even look at them. Then when your in a chatroom, you get men attached and unattached, thinking this will be easy fuck tonight and treating you like this place is a brothel that requires no money, or questions as to why you looking for males, asking if hubby is not man enough to please anymore ect ect. Its a joke and your treated with no respect whatsoever, so in the end you either block them or go back as hard and get mean and nasty, which makes what should be a fun experience into a stressful experience. The three plus weeks we have been on this site, we have decided to give singles a miss and hope to find some nice couples that both play. That also has been a problem, aint it funny when they ask to meet, but the female partner is sick, gone away for the weekend or allows him to play alone as she is not yet decided to join in . Whilst single men have been an issue we no longer what to deal with, pretend couples are also an issue. Maybe the site needs to look into all these issues as well as the growing number of under age people on here just looking at the cams, we hope this site gets a tidy up and soon.
we do address each and every one one of those issues husbandandwife
You can report people if they hassle you or abuse you
You can also report people who are only pretend couples
and you can also report people on suspicion of being underage
People who hassle and abuse others get warend then banned, if they continue they get longer and longer bans till its then permanent
People who are pretend couples get asked to verify their acocunt and if they fail to do so their accounts get changed to a single account.
Underage people end up with permanent bans.
If you see someone on cam in a room who looks underage - let a member with a blue star know, we may have not seen it yet or we can let you know if we have already verified their age.
and in case you didnt know,
On every members profile is the ability to report them for abuse, please do so, so then we are aware as we dont always have the time to go find all the fakers ourselves.
Quote by Penrith_guy Just throwing the question out there I know the obvious reason is that they are only on here for sex and not genuine about swinging. I would just like to say not all of us single guys are like that. Some of us like myself are very genuine about the whole swinging experience not here just for the sex but the friendships you can also build. Tell me your thoughts!!!
Penrith guy you are probably one of the most respectable single guys i have spoken to on here, i would have no hesitation with swinging with you or anything else for that matter.... xxx wedreamz
Not disliked here - more of what I am seeking than someone already involved in a relationship.... Afterall, may only ever be a once-off experience, depending on how it turns out
Bring on the single guys (that suit my profile requirements)....
Well I guess there are some who are the exception to single guys and swinging, but I tell ya from a mature woman's point of view a lot of them are too young inexperienced and looking for a mummy and I ain't looking or no babies when it come to sex!
That's my thoughts and opinion!
Personally i love single men lol
BUT only those who respect me first as a person and then as a sexual being, if all you want to do is talk dirty or ask about my sexual reume and then expect sex within a hour of starting a conversation you will be sorely disapointed .
Unfortunatly the type of guy as i describe above outweighs the respectul socially skilled men by a long shot but this site has many ways to control such unwanted behavoiur.
Simply put from me in answer to the original question, it comes down to a lack of respect in some single mens attitude that gives the whole a bad rep.
Also i would like to add that married men who play behind their partners back, it is your decision and i respect your right to make it. But please give me the same respectful consideration when i say i do not want to be involved.
thank you to all that agree single guys get a bad rap well the decent ones anyway . It should always be that respect and getting to know the person should be 1st priority so you understand the person.
The single guys should also remember No means No respect the ladi's or couples feelings about things and deal with it
THANK YOU TO THOSE WHO SUPPORT SINGLE GUYS AS DECENT PEOPLE
Reminds me that an S.A couple i met on here are now like family to me !!
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I'm a single guy and not getting anywhere. I don't really prefer sex but get enjoyment from pleasing and pleasuring the woman. If there are a couple of guys all focused on her enjoyment then thats just as good.
Yes Im not a social creature with conversations but love to have fun and laugh etc.
I would like it if girls couples let me know when I'm being too jerky.
Online text isnt a good medium for me to express myself.
Ideally want a girl or female part of couple I can indulge in with foreplay and just experience her naked sensual body for hours, no fucking required.
WTF Why berry park? lol
Edit: If a girl says no I leave her alone as that is just the gentlemanly thing to do. No point keep on trying!
i am married, but my wife is not the least bit interested in anything. if i cant bring my wife, am i single? if you call me single, can i still qualify as a swinger?
Quote by CoupleCentCoast What's even worse is places such as the Couples Club in Sydney that treat single males like lepers. They have to sit in their car till 930pm, then knock on the door, then pay the outrageous sum of instead of for a couple, only for a chance to have some fun!
Yet the single guys still go ahead and do all that, which only shows how desperate they are. And desperation is generally not very sexy. That desperation is also why many come across as "pestering" women and couples or following them around like a creepy stalker, and why they then get treated like lepers. Most of them should go home and make an effort to seduce their own wives instead. ;) There's a venue in Melbourne that claims to charge single guys $350. Their stated rationale is that it's cheaper for guys to hire a hooker. Yet they still get a significant number of single guys, so I'm not sure if they actually do charge them the sum they claim or if that's just marketing to fool couples into thinking it's a good place to go.
Quote by CoupleCentCoast What's even worse is places such as the Couples Club in Sydney that treat single males like lepers. They have to sit in their car till 930pm, then knock on the door, then pay the outrageous sum of instead of for a couple, only for a chance to have some fun!
Yep, after reading their website they hardly seemed welcoming for a single bloke. And it would seem too they only let in single guys to just get some extra cash in with couples overwhelmingly preferring other couples and single girls at these sorts of venues. I'd much rather pay $190 for a guaranteed 30 minute good time up the road at Tiffany's Girls with a high class escort.
I think that in my brief experience most of the single guys are nice, but do have a tendency to push for you to go on a cam chat/give them your msn details within 5 minutes of them chatting to you, which as someone who is still relatively new here, it's a bit intimidating.
We have found over the years the majority of single males are just plain rude or pushy. The experience we have had in the past with single males does them no favours, ranging from them not turning up to meet us, or at parties they get very pushy even to the point of pushing said husband out of the way. When Mrs Bay is on cam, they pm her without first asking in addition to trying to direct her. Now that we have got on our high horse and had a plug at the single males, there are a few which which are decent. So its not like we dislike all single males but it seems the actions of a few rather rude single males are felt but all.
The Bays
Quote by CoupleCentCoast What's even worse is places such as the Couples Club in Sydney that treat single males like lepers. They have to sit in their car till 930pm, then knock on the door, then pay the outrageous sum of instead of for a couple, only for a chance to have some fun!
thats why its called the couples club. if it was for singles it would be called the singles club. we went saturday night because its couples only night. we had a blast. nobody was pushy or rude, loved being watched. mr two was a real slut lol
Quote by twonewbies What's even worse is places such as the Couples Club in Sydney that treat single males like lepers. They have to sit in their car till 930pm, then knock on the door, then pay the outrageous sum of instead of for a couple, only for a chance to have some fun!
thats why its called the couples club. if it was for singles it would be called the singles club. we went saturday night because its couples only night. we had a blast. nobody was pushy or rude, loved being watched. mr two was a real slut lol Thats right mrs 2. The point of the couples club is for couples to play. I know a few girls that go on the Sunday night and play with everyone. Im single and I have friends on here who only play with couples so I don't get to play. But we still hang out and habe a beer sometimes. I have even introduced a few to nudism. Another area where single blokes get a bad wrap because of the actions of others.
just spent an hour or so reading this entire thread ,,,,and it all boils down this ,,,,
single blokes are not hated.
we as the vast majority , are simply not wanted by many of those we seek.
the problem occurs when a few individuals, and there is always some in any class or group of people, behave in a way which inappropriate to that which is expected.
how long would it take for the general perception to change on single blokes, if we all behaved the right way, behaved the way guys like baa, smokey, or azeasy ,,to mention just a couple do ,,,if we all only message those who plainly state they are willing to meet a single bloke ,,,,and remember to ,, meet , does not mean sex ,,,it simply means ,,,yes we will meet with you , take some time to know you ,,,maybe we will walk away maybe we will play,,but nothing is guaranteed.
also if we only replied to ads asking for single blokes. I reckon the general perception would quickly change from that of dislike to very much in demand ,,,improveing experiences for all .
The silent majority here are the blokes who do read profiles and do not message, at your request , you will have seen them ,but never heard from them , and that is as it should be ,,admittedly I read not so much to see what you want , but to see if you are what I want, your choices are secondary to me ,,,but should you state no single bloke ,,then I have a little cry if I liked your profile and move on ,,,saying that in open chat ,well your fair game and I have a lot fun chatting with couples and single ladies, many of whom do not look for single blokes.
perhaps if couples and females and yes even single blokes reported more "fucktards" whether they be the ignorant rude bloke the fake couple or god forbid the single ladie out of control then maybe the mods and admin will have more success in weeding out those deemed "undesireable" , and make the whole experience of being here so much better, but this tricky as for some out there those you and I see as unfit to be here due to there expectations and behaviour are also sometimes exactly what someone else is actually looking for .
as for previous comments as to possible reasons why singles are here ,, I would of thought that was obvious ,,,we wish to make contact and make friends with others who think feel and act the same way you do ,,and yes to hopefully enjoy some hassle free uncomplicated sex ,,,just like you ,,,if I liked jewellery I would join I gem club ,,,would it matter if I single or married there ,,,no of course not ,,so why should it matter here ??
as for terminology ,well words are forever being taken , adopted , twisted and changed ,,,prime example ,,,gay ,,,who uses the word gay to mean happy or joyous nowadays
also social ineptness inability to snag a woman of our own ,,,,,bollocks ,,,I was married 12 years ,,,unfortunately it ended badly but does that now mean I should put myself on a shelf and no longer enjoy the pleasures to found in another lady or couple ,,,,no fuck that ,,,,I am single now because I choose to be , perhaps ,,in years to come I may choose to take another partner or possibly even a wife ,,,,but if I do ,,will I suddenly become a better person or more desirable ,,,pffft doubt it . although having said this I will admit that at the moment after the end of my marriage I do find it difficult to approach single women ,,,regardless of how desirable I find them or how well they or I fit each others profile. :sad:
as for clubs ,,single blokes attend in order to meet others and get massively ripped off in order to do so ,,,does this make us desperate ,,,or show that we wish to meet folk and possible form friendships of whatever nature ,,,,this won't happen with the whore down the road,, and if blokes didn't go ,,,how much more are you lot prepared to pay to keep your clubs going .
don't get me wrong , I don't and can't speak for all single blokes ,,,but I bet masses of them out there agree with me, yes I do acknowledge that many are there too just for the sex ,,,,but lets face it ,,,is sex better paid for with a whore ,,,or with a lovely ladie who also wants good hot sex ,,,,,no brainer I think
we all have choices here just as we do out in the real world and as soon as all learn to respect each others choices the better it will be ,,, respect the wishes of those you seek , and you may just find more who willing to accept you too
lets try and stop the group bashing and focus on the individuals who ruin it for all ,,,because should it come to war ,,,well us single bloke would annihilate you all ,,,by sheer force of numbers
rant over ,,,,take care have fun be safe enjoy
Great rant Dad.
A big yes to all you've stated. We've met you a couple of times now and have found you to be a great guy (even with the denim lol).
Guy - go out an meet others if you're looking to hook up. You might be pleasantly surprised by the results.
To all those fantastic single guys we've met - keep up the good work
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rant over ,,,,take care have fun be safe enjoy
