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To be honest Dr Baa ,, prevention is always better than cure , and to that end i suggest swallowing that load rather than risking it getting in those fine dark locks in the first place  

Player from a fellow manwhore you cut straight to the point. 

The best remedy indeed. 

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Dr Baabaa, any tips for having a ffm threesome? 

 Ahhh ... the ffm 3sum. A wise old sage once told me that the key to any enjoyment is finding the one thing that matters ... but I am not that old so I'll go to my list ..

1. Make sure everyone is comfortable and relaxed ... it cannot simply be the fantasy of one of the parties. You all must share the same desire

2. Define your boundaries - better yet find someone who has none ;)

3. Communicate even during sex -- yes its hard when there is a pussy in your mouth and a cock pounding away but its a skill well worth learning

4. No jealousy - if this exists in anyway it may not bite you on the night but it will surely rear its ugly head in the future

5. Don't expect it to be perfect on round 1 - hey that's what rounds 2, 3 and 4 are for

6. Try to please everyone - it's not about you but if you do this you will generally have more pleasure for yourself

But above all have fun  ! and if all else fails I can wear a dress and pretend to be that extra female for scientific research only ;)

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Dr Baabaa, whats the best thing a girl can do to a guy sexually to absolutely blow their mind?
 

 Another interesting question and I must say answering a question from someone who describes themselves as a freakish fetish fucker leaves me wondering why you need such advice.

But we all have our needs and yes again you have come to the right place.

Now trying to divorce my own mind blowing experiences from creating bias I shall try and speak from the many journals I have written ....

Imagine this ... you are both enjoying an evening of hot sex and you go through your normal repertoire of moves ... you know the drill but this time she turns you over and places a pillow on your stomach. You are now facing the bed with your back arched so that you arse is angled slightly. She pulls through your cock so that she can play with as you are face down. She has control over you as she sucks the head and shaft .. her mouth and tongue do not forget your balls as she continues your pleasure. As you find a rhythm she then moves her tongue down from your balls and between your arse cheeks ... her tongue works its way to your hole as she rims you. This is the same sweet girl who has never done this before .. she surprises you with her new sexual energy. 

Now the above may or may not be tame for you but its the concept that blows the mind not necessarily the action ... a woman blows your mind when she can venture into another area .. where she gives into a sexual fantasy or desire that you did not think was possible. The surprise and the willingness to grow sexually is what blows the mind.

Dear Dr Babaa.. Long time listener .  First time caller.. ?

Love your work BTW...? ?

Just a quick question. I have a 'friend' attending her first ever organised 'Gangbang' very soon.. Was just wondering if you could give her some tips, advice on what she should be doing or what to expect during her time at said GB... She's a little nervous from what I can gather.. Babbling on about shower caps and raincoats. Tbh I have no idea what she's on about.

She's a great lay but you know being a first time gangbanger could have its perils if your not cumming fully prepared! 

Some clarity from an experienced manwhore/Dr as yourelf might just help me put her mind to rest.. 

Thankyou in advance ?. HEAVENS ? 

Dear Heavens

As a long time listener and first time caller be sure to come back later for your special gift. No need for that shower cap. 

Now onto your .... ahem your friends dillema. 

Firstly being nervous can also elicit a lot of erotic energy so be sure that this is harnessed and enjoyed. Some people often thrive of this energy alone and without it are lost. 

Now my advice is to take charge. She has the power in this situation and even though at times it may seem like she’s the one being serviced she holds the power. 

Now don’t think of that as additional pressure but more so as a means to gain confidence in the situation. You can set the pace so to speak. 

Start the evening out nice and early. Don’t be the last to arrive as you don’t want to be devoured by a group of horny men as you enter the door (unless of course that’s her thing). 

By all means have a glass of courage but don’t overdo it as you want the perfect mix of pleasure. 

Now as the group arrive the butterflies will begin (and of course that’s an extension of what you will feel in the lead up). 

Each door knock and entry will bring forth another person. I’m sure you’ll feel all the eyes on you. Each will mentally undress you already. But as I said they are all awaiting you. Only you can start things off. 

There will be small talk and a few laughs. Nervous chat on both sides. Each guy will also be nervous even the experienced ones as everyone has their insecurities and uncertainties. 

The dance will begin. Flirting and sizing up so to speak. This is where you ahem I mean they have to start taking a lead. 

Now taking a lead might not be natural if she is predisposed to being one who prefers to take direction. This then takes some tact. 

You will need help here and perhaps pick someone who will take the lead for her. She can whisper in his ear to signal her intention. Now he can take the physical lead but she remains the one in control of the flow. 

As you begin with one the mood of the room will indeed change. The group will be become transfixed with the action and will want to get involved. 

You ahem I mean she will be surrounded by choices and can continue to set the flow. They will be respectful to your needs and if they are not they will be told otherwise. 

Now your pleasure is all that remains. The nervous energy has transformed into pure lust and sexual passion. Wave after wave of orgasmic delight will fill her. 

The night will go quickly and be prepared to be exhausted. 

Be also be prepared to duck a dodge some stray liquid a few times. 

Now as prep jaw exercises are often neglected. Have some thick crusty Italian bread before hand. It gives the jaw a real workout. 

Now it’s up to her. 

I’m sure she will enjoy it. 

Just remember practice does make perfect so hopefully this is a nice start to a new adventure. 

And as always the Dr is here to lend any support. Even if he has to lend a hand and take that “lead” it’s all part of the job. 

Feel free to call the manwhore line for any more info. 

And to your “friend” all the best. 

Hopefully no need for a shower cap. But do tie back the hair and bring the Decore‘

Yours sincerely Dr baa 

G'day Baabaa5,

I joined swingers heaven as a single man looking to broaden my experiences, live out some fantasies but mainly to become a better lover. And for the most part I am doing that having met some fantastic members. 

However appart from gaining more confidence from these experiences I have been reading up on how to improve performance as in, I read its possible to have full control over when I ejaculate. Some information claiming that the male orgasm and ejaculation are 2 very different things. Meaning it could be possible to achieve multiple orgasms without stopping.

Is this true??

I feel this topic has a million quick fix's like bonner pills, gells, desensitising creams. And that's not becoming better or improving at all.

Do you or any of the readers know first hand about the best way to learn how to obtain full control and achieve orgasm without ejaculation? If it is true I would like to hear about it.

Thank you

Ahh the days of enlightenment from the good Dr baa

Hi BaaBaa I’ve been trying for a while now to get to see my wife with another guy but she doesn’t want to try it. She says she shy and it would feel totally embarrassed She’s never been with another guy but me before we have been married to 42 years now when we play in fore play me rubbing her pussie or having a vibrator on her and chatting about another guy touching her licking her to cum she will cum really hard ( back arched very heavy breathing) type orgasm then when I’m Inside her start chatting again about a guy doing her she will cum if I’m doing her doggy she will almost cum every other stroke of me fucking her which makes me cum. I think she wants to but I think she needs that little push making her comfortable with the idea. I know it’s sounds like it’s a me thing and it’s just I want

Is it me or am I just wasting my time

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Hi BaaBaa I’ve been trying for a while now to get to see my wife with another guy but she doesn’t want to try it. She says she shy and it would feel totally embarrassed She’s never been with another guy but me before we have been married to 42 years now when we play in fore play me rubbing her pussie or having a vibrator on her and chatting about another guy touching her licking her to cum she will cum really hard ( back arched very heavy breathing) type orgasm then when I’m Inside her start chatting again about a guy doing her she will cum if I’m doing her doggy she will almost cum every other stroke of me fucking her which makes me cum. I think she wants to but I think she needs that little push making her comfortable with the idea. I know it’s sounds like it’s a me thing and it’s just I want

Is it me or am I just wasting my time

Hey Big T

Welcome to the advice line .. it's great to see a question after all these years.

I think you need some challenges, and they may just open up the world a little. These things will take time and you need to get her comfortable and for her to be in control.

Play it slow with some flirting and games .. make her flirt with another guy when you are out and reward her for naughty behaviour. Make it rewarding for her and you too will benefit.

If you need a stooge I'm happy to offer my services .. playing the "stranger" where you know it is safe and can let your wife explore.

One time I was in a similar scenario with a friend who invited me to dinner as a work colleague/friend they hadn't seen for many years. We had dinner at his place and he laid the foundations for his partner to dress seductively and flirt during the meal (no bra bending over etc). His partner after that night fucked him silly and that was the start of more memorable nights.

Guide her along .. but don't push

Good luck and feel free to reach out

Dr baa