Shy wife

1 like 12 Sep 2013

Hi, I just got back with my smokin Hot wife after being separated for a while and the sex is better than love to ramp it up some more, however she is a shy personal type , don't quite know how to get her interested. I will introduce her to the web site soon, do you have any advice for me on the best way to go here? Regards 50_Shades

Firedragon2

Sexlightened

1 like 13 Sep 2013

Slowly......maybe attend a local meet and greet? Most importantly discuss it with her, perhaps pretend to be a stranger one night and see where it goes from there.

Unknown User

0 likes 13 Sep 2013

Our suggestion is to get a book of erotic short stories involving a variety of antics including some swinging. Read the stories to each other, in bed, and see what gets the two of you excited. It's a safe way to explore different ideas without putting an awkward suggestion to your partner. Saying "Wow, that story turned me on" or "That sounds fun" is much less confrontational than saying "Honey, I'd love to see a dozen guys gangbanging you in all holes - how about it?"

stustu45

Forum Virgin

1 like 13 Sep 2013

Great advice TT

Tab

Warming the Bed

0 likes 7 Nov 2013

i like your style mate..

OKandQ

Master of Sex

1 like 13 Nov 2013

mr_twonewbies

Orgasminator

0 likes 14 Nov 2013

Quote by OKandQ

yes there is lol

beach_voyeur

Sexpert

0 likes 15 Nov 2013

Quote by kimno13
Let her meet me then I can play with her

:roll::doh::doh:

Unknown User

0 likes 4 Dec 2013

What's after the book? How do you move slowly into that next stage, or do you just jump in?

Haidee

Orgasminator

1 like 4 Dec 2013

After the book. I would find some quiet time with the two of you, have a pen and paper each, and write down the things you would like to try. Read your lists to each other and decide which one/s you would like to try first. Think up some rules that you would be comfortable with (ie: kissing/no kissing, where is acceptable touching, that kind of thing) Once you know in the general direction you would like to go, jump into the chatrooms, talk to people and get a feel for the ones you think you would like. Email/chat/whisper them , arrange a coffee meetup - strictly no play (you can always change your mind later smile

) and see how it goes. Very importantly, know each other's boundaries and make sure the new person knows them too, last thing you want in the bedroom is unwelcome surprises in the middle of things. DISCUSS them with all people concerned, they may have rules of their own. Talk beforehand so that everyone knows the general 'script' and is happy with it. Have safe words for when something might be a little too much. Good words are the traffic light colours - green (ohmigod, do that again), yelloow (that may be skirting my comfy zones) amd red (oh, hell no! get that out of there) Just be warned, these are only my opinions, others may think differently. Just be sure that everyone is comfortable before the green light :) and have fun

Hardwired

Forum Virgin

3 likes 18 Sep 2014

Hi We have been to Swinger Parties and meets over the years and are very communicative when it comes to our fantasies. We have many a night Role playing with dress up's involving lingerie, the receptionist, corporate woman etc to fantasies off being watched, videoed, another male/ female enters the room to having a 3 some and then simply having a night of tantric sex or watching porn which inc our own home home made porn.. I have no inhibitions with looking at sites or porn tho, hubby tends to be more proactive in talking to ppl. I have always been shy to jump in I'm more the chat and see where it leads. At times I feel this is not the norm on these sites as how quickly numbers are exchanged for either face time, texts, calls and meets. Which is fine as I understand that ppl don't usuallly come to these sites other then to find like minded ppl because it is a sex site not a general chitchat site.. I believe I am quite sexual, we have attended parties but, I go with the mind set purely to see what things are all about... Yes, I know hubby does not have any reservations but, for some reason I just don't want to join the party.. We have had 3somes and Thoroughly enjoyed it but, I am shy I get all worked up on the initial " beginning" So, for those that get worked up and tend to back off from the initial - who starts it well, I just wanted to say being with other men/ladies other then my husband is a big deal as I adore the sex we have and I suppose it's more about acting out a real fantasy!! Very exciting and very horny! At times I think I should just dive in and not give a rats but, Gee I do get nervous and Shy! Thanks

melbcpl01

Sex God

1 like 23 Sep 2014

OP's profile gone maybe it didnt go too well by the looks of it

fusiongames

Forum Virgin

0 likes 6 Aug 2018

Great idea, an anyone recommend any books?