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Fake 'Couple' Profiles - thoughts?

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To me its seems like there are a lot more fake couple profiles lately, where it is really only a guy, or guy pretending to be the female, obviously, when chatting or looking at a profile you can sometimes see the red flags, sometimes it takes a little bit longer. I just don't get it or the mentality of it, such a waste of time for everyone that is genuine and looking for real people. I despise such deceptive behaviour and is probably why I prefer M&Gs. 

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A pet hate of mine is guys profiles saying they're straight and then wanting to hook up to play. Just say you're bi or curious. 

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What would you consider as a red flag On a profile?

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To me its seems like there are a lot more fake couple profiles lately, where it is really only a guy, or guy pretending to be the female, obviously, when chatting or looking at a profile you can sometimes see the red flags, sometimes it takes a little bit longer. I just don't get it or the mentality of it, such a waste of time for everyone that is genuine and looking for real people. I despise such deceptive behaviour and is probably why I prefer M&Gs. 
PS: Here's to all the great, fun and fantastic people out there who makes this place great thumbup

 

What are the red flags Jessie?, why make such statements like you have and not tell the readers what they are I'm sure we would all like to know

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Hi there Luvcurves,

I suppose to me, red flags on a profile are things like lack of detail, half filled out profile/s, no pictures, of just a picture of the male and when requested for a couple picture, there is always an excuse to why they don't have one etc.... Then there's the being in the chatroom and whispers for red flags, but that would be a topic on its own lol. What would you consider red flags? Have you experienced an individual with a fake profile?

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Hi Playtime 9,

I'm a little confused by the tone/rudeness of your comment, unsure why its directed to me in that fashion. 

I decided to put this post up as I have had discussions with others and they have also been chatting about it too. So, I was interested in seeing what others in this community have experienced in this matter and their thoughts on. 

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Hi Jessie, Im pretty sure there was no malice intended by Playtimes comment. Well I hope not anyway.

We’ve seen exactly what you are talking about and thats why we decided to add our particular situation into our profile so there is no confusion or misleading information. And we have been nothing but transparent with anyone who has contacted us. 

My concern is the lack of profile pic or even a profile. Single or couple, makes no difference, if someone has bothered to join, why not put something down so we arent left guessing when a random friend request comes our way.

But, on the other hand, we have received messages where they have used the default message and not bothered to even type a single character to personalise it. Thats sad and only goes to show that not everyone reads our profile.

I suppose red flags are a subjective issue as what you or I see as a red flag may not be to others. The best we can do is have our own set of rules we live by and if that raises a red flag.......

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Jessie

No rudeness or malice was intended, it is just a simple question/request in answer to your post, therefore we are just a little bewildered with your reaction. 

We know that all the mods here do there utmost trying to keep the profiles honest and as true as they can be, and from talking to them it is a lot of work every day. Well done Mods keep up the good work worship.

The green tick (approved) is a good guide to the genuine profiles (couples or singles) but so few members seem to do it, so a red flag? it could be it is so easy to do, there are people here that only contact other verified profiles.

Information withheld on there profiles is a red flag coupled with no pic's defiantly move on.

They are the points that we shy away from (or weary of) . As Kitten_Sir said make up your own rules of why you do or don't pursue a profile.  

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ok .yesterday we got accused of being  a "FAKE"  that we weren't a real couple  but a single male  who got of wanking to  this cpls vids and pics (they must seeing totally different things to us ) . well that really pissed the both of us off . who the hell is anyone who is also not verified (we are now because of these keyboard wankers )to call us fakes ...  they were the ones sending us msgs . yes we responded  but when they sent this  msg saying unless we did a phone call with them they could no longer continue ... we dont do phone calls we meet in a public place  . thats just what we do ....  so we just didnt respond anymore . then we get this msg  with  a question mark . so  we sent back  " we dont do phone calls so no we wont be going any further .  well  then we get the rant about  "didnt we read their profile " and then that we are fakes . to cut it short we returned fire and  blocked this pair of dictators . 

. no body on here should think they have the right to judge or accuse anyone without proof .   we are on here to have fun and do what pleases us , not to  do as others tell us too. if you dont like us and dont like what we do move on,  plain and bloody simple .

 we are now verified  i bet they still arent 

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hehe, this one has been done to the death over the years. Yep I'm hear as a male profile,  but as it has been said on numerous occasions,  the easiest way for proof is to web cam or meet at a cafe or something along those lines. If the member always has an excuse as to why their partner is not present then just say " no thanks" if an abusive response ensues, then copy the conversation and report it.  9 x out of 10 profiles, gets banned. Try not to take it too seriously,  I know some can be nasty as I have had a few when camming was a big thing with local rooms in the Chat arena.


Yob 

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I would agree with those examples of red flags.

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Hi justus02

Sorry to hear you have been abused from as you say a wanker. but we are so happy that you did something about it instead of just getting angry and doing nothing.

Report the Profile that will help the Mods out with there work, then to get verified helps all of us out.

Excellent response!!, we wish there was more people like you that do the same to weed out fake profiles.

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lol we dont think they r fakes . Just dictators in our opinion  . We have no malice . . We just move on 

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Not sure if we have encountered fakes or not, but we have uncounted lots of ignorant people. I mean how hard is it to send a reply when you contact some one? surely that is just common courtesy. We stipulate, "a thanks but no thanks" won't offend, maybe those who don't reply are the fakes, any way we just block them, not worth our time. We often send a message to couples who "like" our profile/pics, and never hear anything back, more fakes maybe? Oh well its all part of the game isn't it lol.

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As I have a male only profile I can honestly say that I have been approached by “couples” who stated they wanted to meet me but they first wanted to see a number of pics of my previous plays.   I was cautious on all occasions and did not give much info out, certainly none that would point the finger directly at anyone on this site or others.  Over a period of weeks these “couples” all fizzled out and disappeared, some to resurface with different profiles. 

What annoyed me most is that I had gone to a lot of trouble in a couple of instances arranging plays for these “couples” and they backed out on the morning of the planned meet.

People who know me also know that I am genuine and that if I am arranging a meet then it will happen.  

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As I have a male only profile I can honestly say that I have been approached by “couples” who stated they wanted to meet me but they first wanted to see a number of pics of my previous plays.

 I'm heading you.

Though as a bisexual male and really satisfied and has a strong relationship with my wife, my profile clearly states what I'm looking for. All my "play" pics are of the mm nature,  these definitely weed out any tire kickers, though some are very much still closeted and, me thinks they just go batting with them. I don't know if it is a virile thing and don't want to be classified as anything else than straight. But trying to organise a meet can be challenging at times. 

Yob

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Yob, Likewise I am honest in my dealings with anyone on this site and others,  I am married, wife does not play, and I state this. However most couples look down on me as if I had an infectious disease.   If anything I have more to protect such as health and discretion all round, yet most couples see me as cheating.   I wonder if they changed their mind if the shoe was on the other foot?

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lrig is at the moment sitting on the fence when it comes to playing. I have no fears if she decides to give it a go.  Either way when I try to organise a meet then she is  involved most if the time or I try to have a meet soon after with her. This helps but yes, some still see it as cheating. Where I see it as, "I'm  bisexual, she doesn't have the equipment I desire and quite frankly, dildos and strap-ons  just aren't the same" if people don't like that, then all I ask is for them to move on.

Yob

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Yob, pity you do not live closer, I think we could arrange some plays together.   I do play bi too if the situation calls for it, however ladies are my first preference.

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tis the way. Though I do service work in Hospital operating theatres all over NSW. It is one if the other reasons I can sort through the undesirables. With my profile as a Single Bi Male, it is usually me making first contact with other profiles. I usually write more than just a hello and do set out my agenda for contact with a mainly positive response.


Yob

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Seems to be a lot of fake single female profiles popping up lately too. They are usually from Sydney, have random letters and numbers for a profile name, and are spamming for a pornsite. 

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Hey Justus02

Sorry to hear you had to endure this kind of pathetic human behaviour. This is what things have come to since they invented the World Weird Web. Where there is no accountability, they can, and do, do whatever they want as you are never gonna track them down and beat the fuck out of them. It is never gonna stop.

My solution to the fakes and abuse, once you realise whats happening, block and report. Dont sit back and wait for them to escalate into complete fuckwits, just block and report. Most times, the reason they carry on like children is that they are attention seeking and the more you respond, the more they get a kick out of it.

And please dont take their abuse personally, they are not worth your heartache.

We plan on becoming verified in July and have decided that we will change our stance. We will only speak with either other verified members, or at a minimum, paid up, profile pic and an actual profile. 

Noticing that so many long-time, paid up members are clearing their profiles out. What gives with that?

Cheers,

John

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Seems to be a lot of fake single female profiles popping up lately too. They are usually from Sydney, have random letters and numbers for a profile name, and are spamming for a pornsite. 

  SH has been bombarded by scammers from Russia, I understand that Admin has been blocking them, yet they have started to appear again.   All fake scammers.

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We have been paid up members since the beginning, (it was free when we joined, gives you an idea how long ago that was) We have never ever experienced any abuse, not ever had any thing derogatory said about either of us. Yes, there has been the odd fake profile, but even then we have not been abused. We did get banded once, that was my fault, cant remember why, think I mentioned a fake profile name in the main room, my bad, lol. So, if you are getting abused, maybe you are interpreting the messages wrongly, it can be difficult with the written word. We have blocked people, usually because we don't get a message back, or we get a thanks but no thanks, this is so we don't inadvertently click on their profile again. We also block those who keep looking at our profile, but don't respond to our messages, if you are not interested in chatting, go look some where else. We will not play with married people with out their partners, just doesn't sit right with us, even if they say their partners know of their activities. We also will not play with a "couple" if they are married (not each other) but are FB's, there is a very big difference between sharing some one you love and sharing a FB. We all have our boundary's, and the best way to get along is to respect those boundary's.

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cmon guys   There’s a lot of fake empty profiles  like online 6months to years ago  never seen never online 

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I probably now fall into this category, I've changed to solo because at the moment we're also separated by isolation rules.

I am hope to expand our horizons with swinging and public fun, however an anxious partner can go from grinding on the furniture thinking about swinging to dreading all the terrible possible outcomes in her head.

To all the uninhibited confident couples who get mad at tyre kickers, it might be more complicated than you think.

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na your situation is different ya a couple kept apart 

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Also some businesses and industries are so conservative it could be the end of a career to post a nude or identifying pic. 


Using websites to arrange safe public meetings probably safer and fairer for all. Just make the meeting quick and convenient and have no expectations to avoid likely disappointment.

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On the fake couple profile thing i have chatted to so called couples only to find out later in fact it was a male who stated that his wife no longer interested in swinging and hasn't been in years and they dont even have sex anymore. To me i wonder was she into swinging and does she know her pics are on here ? if in fact they are her pics at all.I feel the site should do what some other sites are doing now they have three colors for when you log for girls /blues for Boys/Yellow for couples when you log in you use the color that represents  you this then show up on your name in the chat list. so if you cam as a couple but go on cam as a single male or female under the wrong color the mods ask you to log out and log back in using the right color if you dont they turn you cam off give you a warning. This works well on the cam side of the chat as you have no option to cam only as you are on cam .

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Quote by JessieX
To me its seems like there are a lot more fake couple profiles lately, where it is really only a guy, or guy pretending to be the female, obviously, when chatting or looking at a profile you can sometimes see the red flags, sometimes it takes a little bit longer. I just don't get it or the mentality of it.

Well, Let me help you to understand the human psychology why some of these guy's do this.
The chances of single guy's on here getting any live action or love muffin is next to none, so by acting like a couple give them a much better chance.
If he does meet the couple he will say Oh my wife is sick can we still play.

Quote by Baz_jene We have been paid up members since the beginning, (it was free when we joined, gives you an idea how long ago that was).
Quote by Baz_jene Not sure if we have encountered fakes or not, but we have uncounted lots of ignorant people. I mean how hard is it to send a reply when you contact some one? surely that is just common courtesy. We stipulate, "a thanks but no thanks" won't offend, maybe those who don't reply are the fakes, any way we just block them, not worth our time. We often send a message to couples who "like" our profile/pics, and never hear anything back, more fakes maybe? Oh well its all part of the game isn't it lol.

That was like 10 year ago, you are starting to make me feel like an old fart...LOL, remember when SH started bring in Extra or gold for member, a lot of sing song and dance about that...LOL.

In the past 5 months now we've had handful of message from these fake couple who don't want sex at all but, are here because they need a FAN CLUB for their ego with 100's photo.
They send you a private message 1st and then private ablum and so you out of common courtesy you send your private ablum they won't open it or if they do open it you get NO like or comment and no reply.
They keep login on here for weeks or months and you don't hear back from them and then they look at your profile ...WTF WHY BOTHER!

There is this couple right now who is doing this and over the past 3-4 days has bombardment us of friend request and liking all photo, you didn't seem to be interested before.
Gonna block them, I'm over it