How does a shy single guy get a chance especially if

.Especially if he is 40 and is not a mega-stud as appears to be the requirement in the swinging scene? I am keen and horny (nearly always), but I am a bit shy until I get to know you, I am young at heart. Crikey I’m only averagely well hung!!! Are there any understanding ladies or couples out there who like to just get naked and chat and see what happens? Obviously having joined up on this site we are all looking for something more, something different, something fun... I am open to suggestions and advice... I even just like to watch if there are any volunteers!

Be polite and get to the chat rooms,  also if there is a meet and greet you can get to then go. I'm not saying people will drop their kit when you enter but you never know. 

get known in chat, join in the conversation and always be polite. don't just say hello to the ladies that grace our screens, remember to say hello to the men. as yob says meet and greets are a great way to meet. there has been car park quickies and room invites handed out at some. one big thing is fill out your profile and a few pics but not just your dick. hope it helps

Keep your written bio just as you have it.  From a womans point of view, it is open, honest and very refresing to read.  You state what you're into, what you're looking for, and describe yourself as you know it.  To me, that makes you stand out from the crowd of hundreds that I have to sift through.

Perhaps a quick mention of why your partner is not playing or if they do/don't know about this, would also help.

Good luck!!