Yes, the reason I stopped camming was the insane questions, all revolving around boob size and whether I would spread my legs on cam for them. Not even a Hello, how are you? first. That, and the nasty comments in the open room if you didn't acknowledge their vile private chats. I never really even did anything too suggestive on cam, I used to cam naked, with the keyboard covering my bits. I did get a few offers to buy me a smaller keyboards though

the worst part though, is when you do a cam check - you get a whirly dot and 'thinking time' whilst the person ON the cam gets to see you checking them out. By the time the cam has come up and you've needed eye bleach, you've already got the cam guy asking if you like what you see. No, No, I really, really don't. Watching a guy yank on his limp noodle is boring. If there was a boner in the offing, maybe I'd watch, but it never really is

I have never been small - Currently sitting on 85ish. You know what I do to give myself a shot of self esteem? I go into the chatroom, wear a low cut top and turn my cam on   DOn't even have to get naked. The amount of comments are amazing - sure there are a couple of dingbats who make snide remarks, but the majority are all on board with bigger than size 10 girls. I"m not saying there is ANYTHING wrong with small girls, never being one, I've never seen that side of the fence :) Before 'braving' the scene in person, try getting your toes wet in the chatrooms, make some friends, and before you know it, you are making plans to meet for some sexy fun times :) As has been said before, sexy is in the mind before it's in the body. If you know you are sexy, it shines through, and some who may not have seen you as attractive before, will be attracted to the confidence you put out. (I just realised I sound like some internet self esteem coach ) Get up, get out, and show yourselves off ;)

I haven't been for a while. The last time I went was on couples/single female nights and it was a sausagefest. I would strongly suggest not going on an open night as you will be inundated with single guys. The venue itself is nice, with private rooms, spa and all the other stuff that's fairly standard at play parties. It may be an idea to organise a meetup with another couple, or couples, and meet there. That way you will have guaranteed play partners. Always fun to play with your own partner too, though. Do not be afraid to say No, and to repeat it if not listened to. If they don't listen a second time, take a close look and report to security. It is their job to help you stay comfortable and to feel safe. Some guys there can get a little pushy if they don't think your 'No' will stand Have fun :)

yeah, confidence is the real winner. Sometimes it can be hard  to be confident in this judgemental world. Sometimes you just have to empty out your Fuckit Bucket and give none

women's clothing sizes are up to the manufacturer. I am anywhere from a women's 16 to a 5xl. If I buy men's clothes, Ibuy a medium. You are taking your life into your hands asking women about clothing sizes. I don't know of anyone happy with them, and there are many, many facebook groups basedon our mutual hatred of clothing sizing

hen it comes to body size, medium to me is average, can get up a couple of lfights of stairs without having to stop and have a breather. Most people are around a medium

I am single with no kids. I have face pics in my main profile, but no photos that I would be ashamed to show my parents, either.

If I had kids, or a partner, or close family, I quite probably wouldnt have face photos, as I would not want anyone harassing my kids, or randoms recognising me at work. I did have one workmate threaten to expose me to management if I didn't sleep with him. When I aske dhim how he would 'expose' me without admitting he was on the site also, he stopped, and quit his job soon after

Guys, and I repeat this - you may be messaging someone who has messages turned off for single guys. Therefore they have no clue you are even messaging them as your message isn't going through. Try talking to people in the main rooms of chat. Talk a little, then ask if they want to go private. Much better idea than cold calling someone who may not even be aware you are around

It also might be noted that some people have their notifications turned off for single guys, so they don't even know you are messaging them. They can't be rude if they don't even know you are trying to contact them. Of course, if they have notifications turned off, then they aren't interested in hearing from single guys either, so even if they replied, it would be with a 'thanks but no thanks'.

I don't have notifications turned off. I recently was messaged by a
single guy, asking me to meet up to play. I sent a polite message back that I wasn't meeting anyone,
 he was too young, single and a smoker. All three are of no interest to me. He messaged back asking to meet up again. I replied again, that I was not interested in young, single smokers, and that I wasn't meeting anyone at all right now. The next message was saying that he and his FB would like to meet up with me. How long should I keep responding with a thanks but no thanks beforegetting annoyed and sending a rude message?>

Mostly what I see from single male's here and on other sites is that they want free, no strings sex with someone else's partner, with no reciprocation. Who in their right mind would enter into something like that?

People are here for many different reasons, but not one of them is slaking the desires of a total stranger with nothing in return. We are all in it to get our rocks off (in whatever manner that may be) but very rarely will that reason be because they want a single guy to get laid

I absolutely get you  I'm more of a giver too. What you need to do is know what you are happy with and let your partners know, then just give yourself up to enjoy :) Decide before you start that you are going to be an attention hog and it's "All About You" just for once. Plenty of time to return favours later on in the night. Guys 'usually' need some recoup time a bit earlier than women, so as far as I'm concerned MMF makes much more sense than MFF - where sometimes one of the girls can feel a bit left out

hopefully you have two guys there who aren't going to freak out about accidental touching. If you've done a FFM then the rules are fairly similar. Decide whether you are all going to concentrate on one person, and if so, which person that is Or whether you will be 'tag teaming' it. Have a talk abot expectations from each of the three, find hard limits, etc

you know, for the first TWO YEARS of my profile, I inserted a sentence that basically said "If you read this sentence, see me in the chatroom ad say "I love bunnies" I will sleep with you, do anything you want, no questions asked". Do you think even one bunny lover showed up? Even when I asked people if they read my whole profile, they said yes, but still didn't read that one sentence

Am_I, that's because you have boobs on your profile pic. Don't you know boobs send all the blood rushing to everywhere but the big brain?

If you can make it down to a Saints and Sinners night, they are awesome. Only one every 3 months or so, so check out their website and see if you can organise to be in the Melbourne CBD around then

I will also check out usernames. Some are funny, some are inventive and some are just plain offputting. I'm not going to name any names, but some, even though they may be wonderful people, becasue of their username I just can't even look at them. Some referring to sexual practices that turn me off, or names like 'Iwannafuck', 'fuckmedrunk', 'RUAslut' (although I'm not sure if those  are names on here or not, I just made them up) I just wouldn't even check out

If someone has single males blocked, they will not see your messages. They won't evenknow you messaged. Profiles without extras can only message a certain amount of people, so they will rtation their replies. If you do not meet their criteria, they won't reply, as they have too many messages and not enough replies available to answer them all. I have received many messages with one line - usually "wanna fuck?" to which my answer would be 'No'. Some messages come across as rude, or flippant, or just not what they are looking for. Check your profile. Do you have information on there? Do you have photos? Are you verified? Having these thing MAY get you a few more responses. I definitely will not reply to someone who sends a one sentence message, who has no information. It just wastes my time.

You are better off heading into a chatroom near you and striking up a conversation, rather than waiting for message replies

williek, it isn't the girls hding behind the keyboard, it's the mass amount of guys wanking on cam, spamming in private message trying to get girls to watch

I will watch for a minute or two, but nothing turns me off more than a guy pulling on his limp piece of spaghetti for an hour at a time and looking more and more pathetic as the night goes on. I have seen cams up for hours at a time, and each time I click on it (3 or 4 times) the guy is doing the same thing, with the same result

I'm a single girl, but hey, I'll answer what I look for - I look for verification, photos, someone who has actually filled out their profile, with actual answers and put some thought into it. They don't have to write an essay, but a line of text talk and lots of blank spaces dont' get my engine going. I have found some profiles hit and miss, some are fairly accurate, and some are just plain lies. Have you tried checking the chatrooms? There is likely to be one near you, and if there isn't you can open one, get some locals in and talk to them. Good luck with your search

Justlooking, apparently there are autoeplies. I don't know how to use them as I dont get many messages on here since the new makeover. 

actually Ozy, blocking does nothing except not show you their posts/messages. They don't know they've been blocked, only you do. The get no notifications, so as far as they are concerned, you just arent answering. I thnnk if you block someone they should get a notice saying they have been blocked

first thing to do is get yourself into the chatrooms. There is sure to be a room near you. Don't try and meet people right away, chat in the rooms for a bit and get to know people. Then check out the meetup forums for Meet and Greets near you. These are social only group meetups, no playing allowed. They are usually in pubs or other public places. There will be others from the site there (in Melbourne we usually wear nametags with our usernames on them). It's  safe and fun way to meet people with no expectations at all. All sorts of people show up. At over 40, you will be comfortably in the middle of the ages, which range from 18 to the over 80s, but the average age range is 35 and up.

The more you make yourselves known in the chatrooms, the more comfortable you will be. I choose all my play dates from the chatrooms, no exceptions, as I've generally spoken to them more than once and seen how they interact with others. If they only pop up their heads to comment on a cammer's boobs, and don't say a peep otherwise, you may assume that they are there to view and not terribly interested in meeting

ozy, blocking only stops you from seeing their posts, it doesn't stop them from messaging you. They don't get any notification that they have been blocked, they just think you are ignoring them

There are a couple of camera groups in here and I have seen ads from photographers. For security, it would depend on whether you wanted photos touched up or raw. If you didn't care about touching up, then I would make arrangements for the photographer to use my own SD card, and he/she would be leaving it with me, so my photos would not be leaving the house. Experience differs, some preferring a female photog, and some preferring male. Everything depends on your comfort level, and how professional the photographer is, and whether they are also invited to play - these things need to be talked about beforehand. Also things that need to be talked about are price, what you expect to happen, and whether what you want done is even possible. Sometimes it's all about lighting and how flexible you are and comfortable you woud be freezing in a position so they can get the perfect shot that you want. Also whether you want video or stills, black and white or colour (that can be adjusted using photo software), whether the photographer will be using your photos in their portfolio, or whether the only copies will be residing with you, etc

Moon, make some friends in the chatroom, that will ease your way into the meet and greets, as you will already know most of the people going

Agreeing a lot with Miss Bacon here too. Personally, I like a bit of 'squish' in my guys,. I prefer not to end up with bruises in 'interesting' places. There is a fgavoured body shape out there for everyone, and who knows - you may be someone's perfect fantasy. But you won't know it until you dip a toe in the water.

I do have to admit that it's easier on these sites being a woman, we are vastly outnumbered by the guys so it's a case of supply and demand and some can get a little arrogant and dismissive. And yes, some of the absolute stunners (both male and female) can be complete areseholes.

I have chosen every single one of my playmates, no exceptions, from meet and greets and chatrooms. I hang out in the chatrooms and keep an ear open for intelligent, open, polite and charming gentlemen, who don't open a conversation with "wanna fuck" or "check out my massive cock". My usual response to this is a semi polite "No thank you"

Make yourself known int he chatrrooms, even if there is no one in there that turns you on, someone in there may think you are perfect for one of their friends. Women on here talk to each other. If you are a douchebag, it gets around. If you are worth talking to, that gets around too. Some of the most popular guys on here are popular because they TALK to women, not AT them, they make us laugh, and laughter is sexy!

OK, I'm getting a little soapboxy, so I'll stop, but listen to what we are saying, and engage in the chatrooms. You may be pleasantly

Although that would only work in Melbourne, but I'm sure you have venues near you that can be used

Unfortunately naming and shaming will only get you banned from the site. It isn't allowed. You can, however, inform the admins, although I'm not sure what they can do. This is a rampant problem, which may be solved by meeting somewhere like Shed16 or WOW, where if members of your group don't show, you can still have a great time

maybe, but it also is not a sex site. Quite a lot of swingers like to get to know people before getting naked with them. Yes, there are some that like to meet and strip at first sight, but not everyone does. Most of =he women I know, especally, prefer to talk to someone before meeting them