Oh it's a problem that many couples face. I think it would be in your best interest that you don't allow this to grow into a real problem.
Everybody has their limits. So sit down and talk about how both of you feel about this. Having fun is always good but know when to stop.
I wouldn't be too happy about inviting people that i barely know to my house. Make sure you know your playmates fairly well before you do that. I always meet my girls on my house. But i have known them for sometime and it's ok. They do tend to stay the night and sometimes days. It's all good.
There are no specific rules that would guarantee a good time. I'm assuming you are talking about ads here.
Be sure to say what you are looking for. Don't forget about picture collectors. It's best not to have any prethought expectations. Go with an open mind and just have a good time.
If you feel like you are not setting a good example by swinging, are you embarrassed about the idea? Do you think it's wrong? Then why do you want to do it?
Well actually, I can imagine kids asking things along those lines to most swinging parents. I'm not a parent but i'm interested in what folks would do in such a scenerio! Any parents here care to shed some light on the subject?
Sex during pregnancy is totally safe. I have personally talked to doctors about this. Unless you have some history of premature birth or other complications sex is not only safe, it's healthy too! Yeah, but safety is very important too. Nothing too rough. ;)
That is totally depended on you and your wife. You can go to clubs and get a feel for it. Nobody is going to force you to jump in on everyone.
If you don't feel comfortable going to clubs right away you can try ads, personals. Most couples like ads as you get the chance to choose couples that you feel are ok. You also get the chance to know them before you actually meet.
You shouldn't force your wife to do anything. Swinging isn't a chance for you to live out your fantasies. It's something both parties must enjoy and agreed upon.
You say you wife didn't say no. So she maybe curious. Your wife's fear for ur marriage is natural. This isn't for everyone. Both of you should sit down and talk about this rather than you forcing her into it. It will be much more enjoyable for both of you that way.
Talk to her. Explore your fantasies. Bring in swinging somewhere in. Implant the idea in her. Give her time to think about it. Introduce it gentlty with subtle hints, making her come to boards like this, baby steps.
What do you look for in a playmate? Have you ever been in a situation where you and your partner had conflicting interests? Are you also looking for friendship as well?
What is the deciding factor?
All your replies are welcome.
Yes, I totally agree with what others said. You shouldn't push your wife into doing somehting she doesn't want to. If you want it that bad, introduce her to the idea slowly - subtle hints, stories, discussions.
Talk to each other about your fantasies. Slowly introduce Swinging into the realm of fantasy. Make her think about it. Bring her over to here. Let her see how people interact and discuss in the forums.
Slowly..Babysteps.
Sex during pregnancy is pretty safe. I personally know couples who have enjoyed sex up untill the due date. The only problem they had was finding a comy position. You can have sex until your water breaks. But it's your baby and you should be carefull. You hubby should understand that you are carrying his child and not force you into anything.
Swinging is by no means a way to strengthen your relationship. I have seen too many couples get separated. It's very hard not to be jealous, you know.
There's also the risk of diseases. Most STD's can't be cured. So before considering this you should sit down and really really think about it.
Oh don't feel like that.
No guy is going to be turned off if you make a move!!! Ofcourse people are different. I'm a guy and i always wait for the girls to make the move.. I dunno, I like it that way. I let them be in charge for a while before i unveil my true intentions :grin:
It has certainly made a difference. You are open to avenues that you never had the nerve to try and experience. You are willing to try out things that are considered sexually extreme. You feel like you can sexually express yourself much better than you were before.
If you are a married couple, why do you engage yourself in Swinging? Isn't it possible for monogamous sex to be hot? Or is it more in the realm of exploring? What was it that compelled you to try it?
Oh yes!!! If it's in my home - there is always shooting involved ;)
So far I haven't encountered a single girl who had any problem with it. [ as long as i keep it to myself ] Everybody is so open now a days.
You are right about female bisexuality. It's very common now. All my sexual partners are bisexual. Infact it seems like almost every woman i meet have no problem with being bisexual, if the opportunity arrives.
As for the increase in male bisexuality, I have to say it's due to acceptance.
@curiouscouple
You can't just blame guys like that. We are so nice to you girls. :grin: Maybe some guys are not that curious about guys. I have lot of bisexual men around me but I never had the curiosity.
Well, it depends. There is no specific number :grin:
It was 4 times last week.
We used to have sex everday but that was before the baby. Now we are both so tired that we are luck if it is twice a week. I wish that I had more energy for it but some days are just terrible.
How old is the baby?
Even though i'm not married i can understand how demanding it can be to be a mom.
Yes, always. all the time.
It's just too risky to be without it. Condoms in itself are not completely safe but it's something.
If there comes a situation where your partners don't have a condom, just say NO or tell them to get one. You have to look out for yourself, you know.
Well chris, Just be sure to protect yourself. Condom is a must. Like shortcake said, they can get riped. So have a couple of them around. :grin:
But also keep in mind that, by having multiple partners you are putting urself in great risk. STD's caused by viruses still have no cure.
Be careful
well said. Having fun is good, but see to it that we don't suffer later.
Precautions for STD's is a difficult subject.
Most people tend to think that STD's can only be transmitted through intercourse. But anykind of bodily fluid exchange can result in getting infected. There are even diseases that get transmitted by skin to skin!!
-Condom is a must.
-Regular check-up is necessary if you have multiple partners, as most disease don't show any symptoms for years.
So basically, by having more partners we are putting ourselfs in risk.
As for me, most of them have been taken care of over the years. well let's see, I still want to have a gangbang session in outer space. that's about it.