Firstly, I am fully aware that everyone is in the chatroom for their own reasons. However why can't people be honest about it.
If your reason is for dirty talking so be it but don't start it off with misleading statements.
We are all aware their are false profiles on here and other similar sites. It appears that is how some people get their fun. The problems occur when it is at the expense of others. The same goes for people pretending they want to meet just to engage in some suggestive and highly descriptive talk. I am more than willing, depending on the mood I am in and what else I am doing, to be engaged in this activity for ladies and couples.
But tell me that's what you are after don't ask for a look at my pics under the pretence of a meet. Then don't even bother to look at them .
If you want people to look at your profiles before chatting to you at least take the time to fill them in. Accurately as well.
There, I feel better now but if anyone else has anything to add, without naming people, I hope they will do so. There area lot of very good, down to earth and fun people on this site. Just have a little bit of integrity and be honest.
I am with you on this one lost. I have met some awsome ppl on this site but there is also a lot of players on here its great knowing ppl on here that have been on for a few years the players soon get weeded out if ur not a player on here take no offence on here but if you read this and take offence you know ur guilty as its not my place to name a handfull thats why we have awsome mods.
take care all
the complaint that this site is full of fakes is one that gets me the most annoyed I think.
Half the time that statement is only made because the other doesnt want to meet/cam and doesnt want to be rude and say no. Or the person complaining gets the shits because they mistakenly think just because you are in the same area and looking for the same things it means you should be automatically fucking.
I would like to point out the following:
- there is nothing rude in saying no. If you don't want to cam or meet with someone then don't but don't lead them on or ignore them in the hope they will get bored and disappear - they often don't.
- Don't assume you're in without at least talking to the other person first. Not everyone jumps into bed with people just because they live in the same area.
Theres my two cents,
Quote by Infinite_Sky the complaint that this site is full of fakes is one that gets me the most annoyed I think. Half the time that statement is only made because the other doesnt want to meet/cam and doesnt want to be rude and say no. Or the person complaining gets the shits because they mistakenly think just because you are in the same area and looking for the same things it means you should be automatically fucking. I would like to point out the following: - there is nothing rude in saying no. If you don't want to cam or meet with someone then don't but don't lead them on or ignore them in the hope they will get bored and disappear - they often don't. - Don't assume you're in without at least talking to the other person first. Not everyone jumps into bed with people just because they live in the same area. Theres my two cents,
I concur with your post. How hard can it be to just sit down and say no to someone. Saying no is likely to get a better response than just ignoring. And besides, there 24 fucking hours in a day so it can't that fucking hard to sit down and write a 2 second message to someone.
Hi everyone,
My wife and I are new to this site, and to her having adventures. The response to our profile, while flattering, has been a bit overwhelming. It is pretty hard for us (her) to make choices based on a short profile or pic, and she is looking for more than a casual quickie.
I agree that a short response is better than none, but it can be hard for couples to find the time to review all the messages etc, make a decision and respond immediately. For any delay or no response, I apologise. For single guys, it's a bit like fishing ' you need the right bait, and sometimes there is nothing biting anyway.
Cheers, Ozdude
I concur with your post. How hard can it be to just sit down and say no to someone. Saying no is likely to get a better response than just ignoring. And besides, there 24 fucking hours in a day so it can't that fucking hard to sit down and write a 2 second message to someone. Sorry but i disagree about the messages, i do not come on here to answer lots of messages from people that do not fit our search criterea at all, that is not what the experience is about for me. If i have half and hour to be on the site i will not waste 15 mins of that sending messages of no thanks. Will always answer couples, but we don't actively seek single men, so if i don't have time to answer 20 messages i just won't. To be honest not having all the pics we used to have has helped slow down the messages, but really that is taking away from the experience of the site for me. Such is life and nothing is perfect so we just do our own thing like most do on here and look for the posatives
Hi, a good improvement will be to have an extra button when reading email that send an automated email like this: - Thanks for taking the time to look at mine/our profile, but at the moment you are not what i/we are looking for. I think it is polite, and doesn't take half an hour to write back to everyone... On this note, i kind of agree that some people are extremely rude in the chatroom or in harassing people sending dozen of email..This is a bit of a general thing, i mean couples/single women and Single guys... Thanks
We also engage in ignoring irrelevant messages and winks,
I dont see why we should spend any amount of energy with people who obviously dont take the time to read our profile.
Having said that, alot of single guys get 'bored' once we point out we dont shag just for the sake of it.
mr Milk
not all men just want to root and run,some of us would realy like to meet first and see how it goes.I dont lie,read my profile and you will see,or chat to me,and because of that i get turned down a lot,but that is their loss.i tell it as it well shit happens...lol
unlike many in here
we will reply to any and all messages with an answer even if it is a declining one
not very rare we decline and we are usually the recipients of the declining messages
but they are very rare as well as most have said here
"oh i won't waste my time replying to this couple that took time to message me"
but in having said that we won't reply to any messages from males, if they had of read
our profile properly they would know NO SINGLE MALES
Well after that very i should also point out that since we aren't super models in looks its
bad enough that we get very little messages at all let alone people not have the guts to at
least say no is very annoying to say the least
if it was possible and i ran the site i would make the site setup so that it can't be used
until all messages or wank's (over 24 hours old) have been responded to
then at least the unfortunate couples guys and gals get there answer all can then move on
just my 5cent (1 and 2c coin been gone for years and 5c re useless everywhere else may as well use them here)
having.. watched the forum posts with interest. Im curious. Why are you here???.. IF its not the standard you want.. or should i say like????
Cause I wouldn't answer you my self.. if all i saw was.. This is what i will do or wont do....im sure you have a positive there some where.. Otherwise, you wouldn't still be here?
I will be sure to pass on to admin all your suggestions, though.
we are still here, because we still dream that the others they haven't shot us down my give us a chance
as for our profile it's just a straight out honest profile, yes it notes things we are sick
of as a hope that those type of people won't contact us and waste our time
we have been in the scene for 3-4 years and have put up with a lot of hell that has
been give to us by these types of people
these type of people??
They are like every one one else. You learn to weed out the those that dont follow through. And look for the good ones.
I wish you nothing but luck.
But would be nice to hear something positive. I made my choice... purely on.. reading whats here.
Not only from you but others.
Positive point to that is.. I have made more great friends and memories.... then i have off the bad.
To whoever wants to listen to another opinion.
I have been a member of here for 18 mths now and generally sat in the background.
having been originally annoyed and peppered by no shows.????
But I am glad reserved my opinions...
Over the last 4 mths, I have been on here.. a lot..and have met so many beatiful people in that short amount of time.
probably over50 or more in total,not all on sexual REAL people all the chatrooms and meets have enabled that .
It is true there are fools on here,they're everywhere,I can be one at times......
Perservere be honest and honest people will find you....
Good luck in your search.
yes I too have met some sexy people on this site and had some wonderful had a fair bit of no-shows and chatted to some real pricks,but shit in all it's been a great site and i'v got no problems with the site.I am what I am,take it or leave it...I think the more you chat to people the more they get a feel about you and then the more they will want to meet up.
Glad to see a few people have added their comments.
This was never intended as a slight on this site because no site is perfect and could never be so. This one has real mods who cam and chat and in my opinion do a thankless task very well.
Yes I have been kicked for "directing" but it was a genuine mistake and having served the penance served on me by The Rose I returned somewhat embarrassed and haven't done it again
Not sure if I worded my original post clearly enough because it seems to have been hijacked somewhat.
a) Messages: Never send them to people who are not looking for str8 guys. If I don't get a reply that's the end of it.
b) Reading profiles: Yes I do read them. Possibly the minimum requirements to be filled out could be extended to ensure people have to put in a little effort before being granted membership.
c) Whispers: I do send unsolicited whispers but if they are not answered I get the hint.
My post was originally about honesty and integrity. We are all human, we all have feelings and are prone to getting hurt at times. Unless you have been to a meet and greet or had a deep and meaningful with someone, we all are totally unaware of the situation of the people we are talking to. Hence the need for honesty and integrity. I cringe with embarrassment at some of the comments made in the main chatroom to the ladies on cam. Being an ex-serviceman it takes a lot to shock me but some guys have no idea.
Yes I have been caught again, met a lovely lady through chat. Even though I had that sneaking feeling "this is too good to be true so it can't be" I went against it and invested more of myself than I should have done. Bang "I am very sorry" .. " I shouldn't have treated you the way I did" deleted their profile and that's that.
It hurt and it also made me angry but such is the way of some of the people who frequent these sites. Time to dust myself off and get back on the horse so to speak. Although I must say the ladies I have met much prefer riding to being ridden and also like a little doggy. :lol:
So enjoy the site. It gives us a great opportunity to meet like minded people and have a lot of fun.
Just be careful.
I believe our profile is honest but i dont know, we haven't been on this site long enough to know whats right or wrong but we hope to have fun doing so lol well please let us know of any complaits
My two cents worth.
Fair enough not replying to winks, wanks, what ever.
Fair enough not replying to people who are not clearly listed in your profiles requirements.
However if someone has taken the time to construct a decent message, then common courtesy should be shown, and yes there should be a "Thanks but not thanks" icon button, for those that don't know how to cut and past.
As for honesty, you'll awlays get people with fake, or misleading profiles, no matter what site.
But like others have commented, with time you learn to sort the crap from the cream.
Cheers.
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and what else I am doing, to be engaged in this activity for ladies and couples.
But tell me that's what you are after don't ask for a look at my pics under the pretence of a meet. Then don't even bother to look at them 
.
If you want people to look at your profiles before chatting to you at least take the time to fill them in. Accurately as well.
There, I feel better now but if anyone else has anything to add, without naming people, I hope they will do so. There area lot of very good, down to earth and fun people on this site. Just have a little bit of integrity and be honest.
Cheers, Ozdude
Positive point to that is.. I have made more great friends and memories.... then i have off the bad.
