Of late, we have been contact by quiet a few couples, yet when it all boils down to it, its only the male half looking to play. When we check these profiles is says nothing about them playing alone when it suits them, most actually say they don't play alone. We feel these people are misrepresenting themselves, if your on here as a couple, play as a couple or at least be up front when you contact people and let them know straight up that are currently looking to play alone. We also feel your profile should at the very least say that you can play alone when the situation suits. Love to hear others feedback on this.
Look the way I see it that if they have a partner then the partner should at least be willing to cam chat or talk over the phone if not most likely it is just a male wanting to try and hook up with couples that say no single guys which is wrong and they should just be honest and put down that they are just single males
Just my opinion
This is a very hard subject to get right for every one... We are a cpl and have a couple profile and have been doing this for more years than I care to admit. We have found It doesn't really matter in the long run what you put there... Humans are humans...
You talk to them and when you have been doing this for long enough you read the bull shit so fast its not funny...
When you talk to us we are honest and straight forward.... but life is a complex balance, then you mix people in to that and its even harder.... people have different levels on want ect.. I have a high desire and Whimzz can be very on and off with play... doesn't make her full of shit she is clear about it..
Long story short... Every one is different every thing in life is affected by bull shit and fakers it is up to us as players to deal with that and make our experiences the best... Talk to people openly and honestly and you will find what you are looking for just stay positive...
The bigger issue I have with chat is more the negative attitudes that some bring in the rooms... whether it be Im not really looking my EX blah blah or shooting people down for the sake of it(there are lots of media out there why bring it here).... not helpful at all..
Sorry off subject...
Dave
Quote by cheekyboy I have a single male profile for the exact reason that my partner doesn't want to play. Report them is what I say. Have their accounts fixed or banned!
good on you cheeky boy for ur profile but i dnt agree wif reporting its just not my style Maybe post on their page that they Lie
Quote by unkmelb I have a single male profile for the exact reason that my partner doesn't want to play. Report them is what I say. Have their accounts fixed or banned!
good on you cheeky boy for ur profile but i dnt agree wif reporting its just not my style Maybe post on their page that they Lie It may not be your style to report Unkmelb, but that is the right way to do things, then the Mods can look into it and act accordingly and the site runs as it should. If you post on someones profile, and it is to say that they "lie" then it is you who will be in trouble (shaming). That is just the way the system works. Much easier to report false profiles and let the proper people deal with it and if the Mods find it to be false then appropriate action will be taken. I would have thought that it was just the right thing to do as a member. My thoughts anyway.
uummm if they are who you say.. then you need to report them straight up. Yes they can be verified... and in some cases, folks have been banned for not verifying.
Now as to being single!!!!
Have repeated this often.... Please dont think, the solo blues and or pink MAKE them single.....
The icons are just that, it means they are on here, pretty much on their own for play....mind you though, have met many, whos wifes, or girlfriends, OR FBS dont want their name up on a profile.
You have received good advice....
Edit - have moved this to where it should be...
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Quote by Ripley I have a single male profile for the exact reason that my partner doesn't want to play. Report them is what I say. Have their accounts fixed or banned!
good on you cheeky boy for ur profile but i dnt agree wif reporting its just not my style Maybe post on their page that they Lie It may not be your style to report Unkmelb, but that is the right way to do things, then the Mods can look into it and act accordingly and the site runs as it should. If you post on someones profile, and it is to say that they "lie" then it is you who will be in trouble (shaming). That is just the way the system works. Much easier to report false profiles and let the proper people deal with it and if the Mods find it to be false then appropriate action will be taken. I would have thought that it was just the right thing to do as a member. My thoughts anyway. YEH RIPLEY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1 Very much the right advice...... Well DONE and well said
theres lots of fake profiles on here, i see so many but sometimes the female just doesnt get on cam much
i know mrs two hates the cam the little exhibitionist. we like to cam to make sure that both parties know whats happening
Have to agree how many times do you open a couples cam and low and behold a male wanking by thinking i wonder why ?????,We are a couple advertise as a couple always cam together,always play together in same room,But thats us maybe people being honest gets you further dont know!!!!! We come on to this site to meet couples and maybe further down the track singles as do have to say we have chatted with some real nice polite singles and believe it or not there are some great singles on here sometimes its hard to find them,We do ask singles their status as in with someone and if they are honest and polite they get a lot further with is our way only lol
cheers
needachange
We know of a small number of couples profiles on here we were *know* for certain there is no female in the relationship. Varies from couples who were once together and have since split (and the male has continued the account without removing the female from the profile) to guys who just create the couple profile so they can get more interest from couples and then try to convince the couple that he can only play alone.
I also led to believe (on another site...not this one), there is a single male with several couples profiles listed for towns all up and down the coast.
Some people will do anything - We don't trust the site profiles. If someone interests us they get our phone number pretty quickly and are verified by us. If the female cannot be spoken with after a reasonable number of attempts, we move on.
It is impossible to ensure all profiles are real from an admin perspective ......Best policy is to put your own checks in place to verify for yourself.
Happygirl
Quote by Happygirl75 We know of a small number of couples profiles on here we were *know* for certain there is no female in the relationship. Varies from couples who were once together and have since split (and the male has continued the account without removing the female from the profile) to guys who just create the couple profile so they can get more interest from couples and then try to convince the couple that he can only play alone. It is impossible to ensure all profiles are real from an admin perspective ......Best policy is to put your own checks in place to verify for yourself. Happygirl
Is sorry to hear you know of a small number who are not a couple profile no more. Disappointing that... they havent asked for the profile to be changed... And your self doing the site a favor. Yes it is good to have your own checks in place. Pity you think admin cant do much.... EVERY report we get, is checked... and folks are given the chance to verify, they are real. Yes we cant get all... so it seems, but its not just up to us,admin to make it a good site, but members as well.. And we cant do that, if members dont want to help. A site is only great if all work together....
almost impossible to police so thats where members come in , your style is from a by gone era we have mass entertainment via internet and you need to move as fast as the net does to keep your favorite sites safe and honest.
We too know of fake profiles and have reported them , there really is no other mechanism for any control to take place as we cant rely on honesty in the first place .
yes there are maggots who couldnt get sex in a brothel and so prey on the friendly and open nature of the majority of members on this site.
we have attended a couples house cammed with them and phoned only to have a free loader rock up and think its a party for him , so even when we seem indignant theres couples that facilitate and allow there neighbor hood free loader along for the ride,
unfortunately you have to meet many people to find the right ones and thanks but no thanks many more and then bitch slap the liars , its just how the net works ,
we do feel this site does a great job at verifying when asked but its up to you all to ask .
Quote by TheRose We know of a small number of couples profiles on here we were *know* for certain there is no female in the relationship. Varies from couples who were once together and have since split (and the male has continued the account without removing the female from the profile) to guys who just create the couple profile so they can get more interest from couples and then try to convince the couple that he can only play alone. It is impossible to ensure all profiles are real from an admin perspective ......Best policy is to put your own checks in place to verify for yourself. Happygirl
Is sorry to hear you know of a small number who are not a couple profile no more. Disappointing that... they havent asked for the profile to be changed... And your self doing the site a favor. Yes it is good to have your own checks in place. Pity you think admin cant do much.... EVERY report we get, is checked... and folks are given the chance to verify, they are real. Yes we cant get all... so it seems, but its not just up to us,admin to make it a good site, but members as well.. And we cant do that, if members dont want to help. A site is only great if all work together.... Just to clarify....I was not taking a shot at the Mods when I said they cannot ensure every profile is correct. They rely on being advised and cannot verify everybody on here is legitimate unless they are made aware something may not be right. My point was that you should put your own checks and balances in place and be aware that some are not as they seem and not rely on profiles being checked by Mods as not every profile can be. I am sure the Mods do all they can to keep the site clean when they become aware something is not right. Happygirl
Quote by jusrustwohere well we reported the ones we had issues with, lets see if anything is done. We will wait on the outcome
See if anything is done??? Ummm if you know the site. We have things in place we have to, specially on reported profiles. BUT we handle them. Each and everyone
Oh just a heads up... Its not a rule that you have to be a playing couple to have a couples profile. Now before you jump down my thoat.
Some couples... one partner stops playing for a while, for what ever reason. If they make a note on their profile... That only one is playing. They are being upfront.
Thats not to say, that some couples are not fake. Its known to happen,
But each one reported is looked at, and they are given due time to verify, not everyone is on everyday. Some of us though lol
we are a couple who i the male comes onto this site and will organise a doent meen my wife is not involved and do not have awsome have been swinging for 13 yrs this only swing 2 to 3 times a year,like it or not this is the way it happens
We have been on here quite a while and in the lifestyle for ever and have had this problem on all other sites as well.
Having said that we do play with single guys and funny as it might seem to some we do not like to cam in the rooms but insist on a phone call before any meets to make sure we are all singing from same song book. If a couple then we expect to hear the female on the phone as well as the guy. If we are all happy with that then we arrange a meet either for coffee or drinks. If the person or couple in question stop short of even the first step(phone call) then all bets are off. Our security is of the utmost importance. Sure there are fake or at least dodgy profiles but that goes in areas of life these days and you just have to sort through them.
Venu_Mars
We are just like many other couples on here, in that it's always Mr online.
There are a few reasons for that:
1. Mrs is not interested in computers, except to occasionally check email & shop online,
2. By the time we get the kids in bed, all mrs ajs wants to do is lay back on the lounge & watch tv and wind down
3. Being a super intelligent male, I enjoy doing 5 things at once, and that usually includes SH chat/perving, ebay, research for work, research for projects, listening & occasionally glancing at what we're watching on tv
4. Mucking around on SH, ebay, etc, is how I relax at the end of the day.
5. Mrs' sexy fingernails make wayyy too much noise on the keyboard, and, frankly, it's annoying!
This does not mean Mrs ajs is not aware of everything that's going on. In fact, she is very aware of who I'm in contact with, and is interested in it, but is not interested in doing any of the typing , or menial "idiot filtering" as another member put it.
She is also keen to see everything that I think is something we might be interested in, and gives her opinion as to whether it should be pursued or not - and I go ahead if we agree that it looks to be worthwhile.
With that said, whilst she isn't at all interested in driving the computer side of what we do, she comes very much into her own when we meet in person, and I enjoy kicking back a bit at that point and watching her do her thing, as she is more of a social butterfly than myself.
Like I said, we aren't dissimilar to many of the other couples out there, but that doesn't mean that the female member of the partnership is taking a back seat. In fact, it is quite the opposite.
She is, in fact, sitting with me reading this, as I type it.
Regards,
A & J
Quote by ajsydney We are just like many other couples on here, in that it's always Mr online. There are a few reasons for that: 1. Mrs is not interested in computers, except to occasionally check email & shop online, 2. By the time we get the kids in bed, all mrs ajs wants to do is lay back on the lounge & watch tv and wind down 3. Being a super intelligent male, I enjoy doing 5 things at once, and that usually includes SH chat/perving, ebay, research for work, research for projects, listening & occasionally glancing at what we're watching on tv 4. Mucking around on SH, ebay, etc, is how I relax at the end of the day. 5. Mrs' sexy fingernails make wayyy too much noise on the keyboard, and, frankly, it's annoying! This does not mean Mrs ajs is not aware of everything that's going on. In fact, she is very aware of who I'm in contact with, and is interested in it, but is not interested in doing any of the typing , or menial "idiot filtering" as another member put it. She is also keen to see everything that I think is something we might be interested in, and gives her opinion as to whether it should be pursued or not - and I go ahead if we agree that it looks to be worthwhile. With that said, whilst she isn't at all interested in driving the computer side of what we do, she comes very much into her own when we meet in person, and I enjoy kicking back a bit at that point and watching her do her thing, as she is more of a social butterfly than myself. Like I said, we aren't dissimilar to many of the other couples out there, but that doesn't mean that the female member of the partnership is taking a back seat. In fact, it is quite the opposite. She is, in fact, sitting with me reading this, as I type it. Regards, A & J
Well said A&J that is usually the situation at our house too just wasn't smart enough to articulate it like that M & Al Venus &Mars
then on to of all that you have it where you have spoken online with the male half of a couple then before meeting you ask to talk to them both on the phone and she is always out or in the shower etc etc the excuses are endless we have had over the years . hence if we cant speak with both halves of a couple before we meet we dont bother
Quote by Firedragon2 We never meet a couple without speaking to both parties on the phone first...problem solved...:doh:
Exactly how we do it. It isn't hard to call someone. If they don't give you there number as if they want too meet. So simple and sorts out all the fakes, dreamers and time waster. Also you can discuss what you are into to ensure both parties are happy. Being a cuckold its hard to find a couple that is happy only to play with my wife while I watch.
We are a bit like the majority it would seem as Gazz is the one who will be found in the rooms themselves as Sheba just does not really spend that much time on the PC and finds it difficult keeping up with who is who in the rooms
However, Sheba will chat via MSN and is our central contact point via phone.
Whilst we make arrangements as a couple that suit us, Sheba is generally the one on the phone as she keeps it with her.
As for before meets, well we do the phone chat as well and will try to speak to both partners, but at the same time we always meet socially first and if a guy turned up alone when we expected a couple, then safe to say the conversation would be very short and pointed. For us, we will play sith solo guys but they must tell us up front and if/where a guy claims his partner knows and allows, we will want to speak to and confirm with the partner.
The interesting side for us though is that we have been told by some solo guys that it freaks and intimidates them that Sheba does the phone chats as they just 'find it tough'.
All good though.
Quote by ajsydney Being a cuckold its hard to find a couple that is happy only to play with my wife while I watch.
No it isn't :happy: aj. mrs two is the one who looks for friends i just say whatever unless i really dont feel like meeting them i have put my foot down a couple of times and said no. you dont see me on cam because im sick of men trying to get onto me. that really pisses me off. all i can say is be honest and put on your profile the correct info, if you lie and your not a couple expect to be hammered, i would tell everybody on this site you are fake
My two cents worth as a single guy. It really annoys me that there are so many cpls on here but when on cam you never ever see the lady, its just the guy wanking, now they might be a cpl and play as one but if your camming by yourself always then i think you should be shown as that. Now i know someone will want to say but what about the girls who do that, well i feel the same about that too. I know they cant but a setting for camming by yourself but part of a playing cpl would be cool
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the little exhibitionist. we like to cam to make sure that both parties know whats happening
