I'm just wondering why it is that there are some swingers out there who seem to think that being on a site like this & being a swinger in general means common manners aren't necessary. How do they come to this conclusion? I'm not a hard core swinger but I've been involved for a few years now & the best times I've had have been with people who share similar values of respect, courtesy & a genuine interest in everyone being treated well. Those idiots who come into chat rooms & don't read or totally disregard what's written in someone's profile should reaslise that the opening line of "show me your tits or wanna fuck tonight?" aren't going to get you very far. I've made it clear in my profile I won't whisper someone I don't know but every night I'm bombarded with (usually single) guys wanting to whisper. Then they wonder why people get upset with them ....wake up to yourselves & remember - we may swing but we still deserve respect. If you just want a quick fuck, go to a brothel :doh:
agreed pocket but unfortunatly that happens everywhere you be the better person and i know these dickheads well exactly they are dickheads but just remember u are wonderful and thats all that matters
Thanks Candy & I know there are dickheads around, just sick of their moaning about single ladies in particular being stuck up etc when it's their attitude that is the problem. Keep on valueing ourselves & we'll get the right kind of people
unfortunatly it will happen sweetie just the way you and others handle its up to you but personally i just tell them you must have a tiny cock with your tiny girl personality maybe gets some concrete and harden the .... up maybe might be ideal but hey thats just me
Our general rule is to be ourselves and to chat as we would with someone that we have just met face to face. Anyone can say what they like when hiding behind a computer keyboard, but at least when they do type their words, if it's inappropriate then we get to block them and we get to see what they are really like. If you can't hold a normal conversation with people then why would we ever want to meet up with you. Yes, this is essentially a sex site but if there is no chance of a normal chat first then there is really no way we could meet. It appears without generalizing, that some single males think that the words "show us ya tits and wanna fuck" are considered as conversation. If they only knew that most couples find it offputting and offensive, they could learn from others and come into the chatroom and join in instead of trying to whisper everone with a HI. The biggest hint we can give to everyone and that is to singles and couples, is to read the profile of the person that you want to whisper with and to see if they would be receptive to your whisper. If someone has clearly marked on their profile, no singles, then why would you want to whisper, when all it can do is alienate the person you are interested in. Try just chatting to them in the room, you might be surprised because they will almost always be willing to chat with you in there. Remember one thing always, Manners cost you nothing but they are always welcomed.
Myself and my wife (mynxeee ) have been on this site for quite a few yrs yes we are swingers and the bottem line is that first they dont read profiles ..if there is pics on it thats when the female/couple gets the hi...show ur titss ..etc no pics most singles dont bother less they see them type in chat and how open they are with the room ... we have meet a few pll from this site and yes coz we chatted first we believe all parties had a good time but respect and manners cum first ..and most pll from here whether Melb room or Pool kow that I/we have whispered couples/singles blind but that was well after I/we have chattered in the rooms ....and Rocket u should well know this lmfao unfortunately this will never stop females/couples do need to just block or tell a mod if it continues
I think ul find Pocket the new breed of swingers are the wham bamm breed where those who learnt and have the manners of old skool swingers treat a person as a person not just a piece of meat and thats where the problem lies .
I remember a while ago all the ladies on cam stopped say "entertaining" and the young guys or newer ones got jacked off but what it took was an old skool swinger to show them that simple manners may help get somewhere
thats my take on it
smoke
thanks rockin & smokey ....and you're right, the "old type" swingers do know how to treat others & that's why they have not only my respect but anyone with half a brain
Gotta disagree there Smokey......we have found age not to matter much when it comes to manners. We have chatted to and met with both older and younger generation swingers, and never had a problem with the people we have met. On the other hand, we have copped abuse and bad manners from older and younger as well. Both old school and new school, and all in between. But we have met Pocket Rocket at a few meets now, and she is a load of fun. To all the morons who give her a hard time, try chatting to her like you would face to face, you might be surprised how much easier things go for ya's.
PS. to all you lot laughing about me copping bad manners, OK, I know I deserve it with all the shit stirring I dish out in chat
I don't think it's age or experience or any of that. It's the internet. Doesn't matter where you go on the internet, whether it be sex sites, motoring forums, baby sites or news pages, people are waaay more opinionated, aggressive and abusive than they ever would dare to be in real life.
Got to agree Tempted so man people think that if they put an opinion on the net it's some how gospel anoying is people who just don't reply to messages. Leaves the sender in limbo do they try again and risk pissing others off or just give up ...........on the whole site.
Quote by TemptedTwo I don't think it's age or experience or any of that. It's the internet. Doesn't matter where you go on the internet, whether it be sex sites, motoring forums, baby sites or news pages, people are waaay more opinionated, aggressive and abusive than they ever would dare to be in real life.
Yeah you're right there tempted, easier to be rude when you're typing away than in person..gutless really. Thanks
Well we don't have too much trouble...if we like a comment ( i.e. it is funny, entertaining etc.) we answer, if we don't like a comment we just delete...of course we would never delete you pocket.....
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i have to agree there is a lack of manners but its not just single men. we chat to everybody who is polite, most of the problems weve had is with over 40s couples. they think because were a couple we will play with them.
had one who hasnt ever asked us to play say we make it hard for them because mrs chats to lots of single men
we dont care who you are, if your polite we will chat.
as for the meet and bang group, weve met them from 28 upto 50s so covers all age groups
we like to meet and see if theres a spark, sex without spark or enthusiasm is not worth the effort
our best pick up line is "when can i fuk ya mrs" and "ill show ya mrs how a big cock feels" hhhmmm, got her so wet lol
ffs being polite gets you further
mr and mrs two
lol love your style,we love honest people who are polite as well.
Our saying is treat everyone as you would like to be treated.
we always try to be polite ...till someone says something dumb.
One thing we have found twonew are one of the most polite couples on plus quite a few more that i wont mention.
cheers
needachange
Quote by needachange lol love your style,we love honest people who are polite as well. Our saying is treat everyone as you would like to be treated. we always try to be polite ...till someone says something dumb. One thing we have found twonew are one of the most polite couples on plus quite a few more that i wont mention. cheers needachange
are you trying to chat us up mr and mrs needa????? im not that easy who am i kidding mr two
Not at all twonew we fall outside your profile range,but we do like chatting to you both in chat hmmm only if we were younger and less ugly :lol: :lol: and less wrinkly
cheers
neededachange
i can see your point needas, the travelling distance is a bit far :bounce:
your lovely people and thats more important than age
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Thanks everyone for your input ...Kaz & Mick ....so true ....that's what makes these people cowards hiding behind their keyboards ........but it does let you weed out the losers
I'm just wondering if this thread relates to the lack of manners in even replying to a message? I know and understand that all the single women and probably couples to a lesser extent must get bombarded by email almost daily but I think that a little common courtesy of a single line reply would go a long way.
I mean seriously...... how difficult is it to just hit the reply button?
Quote by gygaz1978 I'm just wondering if this thread relates to the lack of manners in even replying to a message? I know and understand that all the single women and probably couples to a lesser extent must get bombarded by email almost daily but I think that a little common courtesy of a single line reply would go a long way. I mean seriously...... how difficult is it to just hit the reply button?
Your point is taken Gygaz, but so many members receive messages that are not wanted so why should they waste their time responding? If a member goes to the trouble of filling out a profile and listing their wants and then still gets messages from people not fitting what they are looking for then why should they respond. I do agree that a response, whether positive or negative is just manners, but it only deserves to go to those that show those same manners to the members that they message.
That's a fair enough comment Ripley but experience tells me that no matter how polite and respectful of the profile requirements you are, 95% of the time a simple reply never happens.
Please also don't think that i'm just having a moan etc etc because i'm a guy. If you look at my profile you will see that I have filled it all out, added pictures and also have a a private gallery which includes facial pics. I have also been on this site for almost 2 years now so its not like i'm new here either.
As someone said earlier in the thread "people hide behind their keyboards" and the manners seem to go by the wayside.
It's funny you know. Whenever this topic (people not replying) comes up, one of the common responses is that if people don't put effort into a message (by reading a profile and writing more than simply "wanna fuck?"), why should they get a reply? But we, as a couple, put a fair effort into 90% of our messages, and even with that we get a reply to maybe 5% of them.
No point whinging about it though. The internet is a brutal place.
You are far, far better off going to meet people in person, at parties, meet and greets, etc.
For the record - we make the effort to respond to every single message we receive, even if it's a somewhat cynical and scathing response to someone who clearly hasn't read our profile before messaging us. ;)
I reply to every message that interests me. As long as the sender has read my profile and matches my criteria. I get many messages from people who do not in any way match anything I'm looking for. They obviously have not bothered reading my profile, just looked at the pictures. They tend to get blocked
I agree Tempted and I personally answer all mail that we receive, but having said that, we do receive much more mail from people not meeting what we are looking for than from people who do meet our criteria. It would just be nicer if we only got mail from members meeting our requirements, but as i said I do answer all mail anyway, and if they can't respect our wants then they can't really expect a positive response.
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who am i kidding
and less wrinkly
cheers
neededachange
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