i know some people say its for privacy but why not put some pics up??? maybe even finish your profile off with body size etc.
you get better response, mr wont even look at a profile if theres no pics or your personal info isnt filled in. so if he doesnt look how many others dont bother.
i also like to see something on a profile so come on lets see what youve got
To us no pics and no info = no effort. It's like going window shopping with a blindfold (not the kinky kind lol).
And a well written profile tells so much about the person. As for no pics then make use of the private gallery. I'd like dollar for every time I've heard "but I can sms or email them to you".
I don't have pics or a completed profile, but then I'm not actively looking to meet people, and this is made clear in my profile, which I hope des tell the reader some things about me.
However, I hope that people would find me interesting and worthwhile chatting to in the chat rooms.
Agreed (again) twonews.
We also made the suggestion to Sarah ages ago that the profiles seek more information about people, and sent a screen shot of our own AMM profile as an example. Go have a look, people. They're quite detailed.
To us, people who are looking to hook up (as opposed to just dream about it) have no chance if they don't bother meeting half way by making a reasonable effort on their profile.
To that end, we believe (as do others we have chatted to about it) that SH should not allow people to go any further in setting up their profile unless they type in certain fields which should be mandatory, such as an actual year in the age section of the profile, rather than just leaving it blank, which results in the profile reading "2012". We don't care how sexy they are. If they can't even fill this in, we just move on.
We did stumble across one profile where they actually said in the text, something along the lines of: "Don't ask us where we're from, we won't tell you. If we think we like you, we might let you know"...and the profile obviously had no info, not even a state, ffs!!
We won't apologise for closing that profile and never returning, because time is precious to us. To have to "get to know" these people for an hour/week/month to have them finally reveal that they live in Tasmania or WA is ridiculous to us. Another field that logically MUST be mandatory on the site is the state you live in. That way, we know that at least if they live in the same state as us, there's a half reasonable chance we may be able to get together with them at some point. Your mum won't find out you're a swinger just because you revealed the state you live in - and if she does, why was she here too?
Protecting your privacy because of work, family, etc, is perfectly understandable, but taking it too far is counter productive.
End of rant. As you were...
Regards,
A & J
We would agree with most if not all of what has been said in regards to having some level of information in your profile as we find it a must else how are we to know if we fit your criteria, or you ours.
However, with regard to photos we are not so sure (and we may misunderstand) as we do not have any issue with people not having full face photos on their public profile but do hope that they have photos available to those that they seek or that seek them. In short, if no public gallery at least have a private gallery that can be available, and that private gallery does not need to contain short of genitalia only or even at all, but shots of the person/s.
As for the information, like all we have seen profiles that contain little to know information and really we would say that these type of profiles are counterproductive to the site in many ways as they do not provide an indication of the wants or desires of the posters. One may even go so far and as, 'is there something to hide' if the basic information of like/dislike and what they are seeking is not completed.
Certainly many first timers or new to the scene people do not know at this stage what they seek, but there are many who simply state this in the profile as well which allows people to make contact and to at least know that the poster is new and as such may be very uncertain in so many ways.
The lack of information however is across the board for many profiles and we would agree that some must be mandatory including the state (verifiable if possible). we would also suggest that the ages or year of birth be entered as this can allow people to know whether to approach the poster or not as a number do have age bracket preferences (this should also be available or encouraged as an entry in profile text for the same reason).
However, let us also be fair as there are many brilliant profiles that provide high levels of information and/or humour which is something that is always good to read and shows effort on the poster's behalf and to those people that do make an effort we will say thank you.
MrsTwiddle, we woudl fully support your profile as it is as you do state that you are not currently seeking, so your profile is a good example to others in similar situations. Just state outright and because you may not be seeking playmates at present, this should not exclude you from the site (as some may claim) but rather the site should welcome you at all times (as I hope it does)
Shell and Gaz
Yeah, like ms_twiddletwat I don't have a great deal on my profile either, but as my profile states I'm only presently looking for adult shop fun. I'm going to add a few extra pics soon though!
Love the profiles too with postcode 0000 as their location!
I state in my profile, "if you CBF completing your profile, I CBF meeting you".
If you are too lazy/or just couldn't be bothered filling in some pertinent details then, why would I assume you could be bothered pleasing me?
Takes 5 minues to fill out your profile, and I have to admit, with the single guys outnumbering the girls/couples, then your profile has to be pretty special to catch my attention. If it doesn't catch my attention, then I'm not goig to meet/chat to you
Not only is it great to see a discussion from mostly couples and single women as opposed to the normal: single male wants to action now posts. And to top it off it is actually useful info! I have had trouble finding like kinder people here for a while. Don't get me wrong I have had some great fun. Just wondering if anyone would take a look at my profile and tell me what you think. Am I missing anything particular or perhaps sharing to much? Please leave constructive advice I would love to hear it. Thanks for sharing.
hi Jon, its a nice basic profile, more photos!!!, you can never have enough photos. I know you have morein your private gallery, but one photo is ot enough to get me interested enough to ask o see them.
The more information you can put in the 'about me' section, the better. As you noticed, males outnumber females and couples by a large margin. Therefore, you need to have something to catch the wandering eyes of all of us girls, otherwise you willjust fade into the background.
Crude, I know, but your profile is your statement about why I should sleep with you. Make me want to, and you will have it made
Quote by ms_twiddletwat I don't have pics or a completed profile, but then I'm not actively looking to meet people, and this is made clear in my profile, which I hope des tell the reader some things about me. However, I hope that people would find me interesting and worthwhile chatting to in the chat rooms.
mrs twiddle your profile tells what you want, you not seeking then you dont need pics i dont need face pics but i like to see bodies mmmm bodies as mr two would say i know the need for privacy we play with people in high places as well as public figures dont need that to get out
i find it interesting when people dont have pictures on here,
but also get annoyed when pictures are wanted via email
"send me some naughty ones and ill send you some"... etc.
for some on here it seems it may be just a fantasy ,to be used
50 shades style for others it may be just a picture gathering exersise
for a wank later on.--that really freaks me out
I'm not a member on AMM, RSVP, etc and I just joined here a few days ago. Tonight I went to some effort to fill in my profile, so I can at least say I made an effort. No pics as yet. Feel free to check my profile and say it's good or sucks or whatever. It's a work in progress ... Looking at site numbers (via search), I doubt I'll find Ms Right on here but who knows.
i have completed most of my profile best here -not by a long shot- but it is honest no I dont have any pics on here
my wife & I were on another site where we got recongnised from guys where I worked & harrased to the point I left thatg
job and town in the end.
we have coped a bit here from time to time because our profile is male only bit it states I am married, well I am
we have & we do still swinng together but my wife dose not want to much info on a proflie now and niether of us want to put up photo's
but when I send some one a message I do offer to send them photo's without asking for any in return & yes I ask what type they want (not all want naked pics)
dose it hinder our sucses meeting people, proberly
but I have to respect my wifes wishes (& mine)& stay honest to ourselves
if we cant do that then we should not be living this lifestyle
hit the nail on the head twonewbies was through my tattoos we got reconginised
definetly food for thought haidee
the only good thing about our profile is we dont get bombarded with messages from non genunie people that we could never meet
we have had enough sucsses here to keep us happy only find we have to search a bit more & make our first message good enough to catch others attention
it dose work for us we just have to work a bit harder but we are seaming to enjoy that too
Quote by darrell3031 I think ajsydney and shebagazz set the standard.
Awwww, stop it! Now we're all shy... lol Darrell, it's a work in progress, and has been developed over about ten years. Thank you for the compliment. We must say that your profile is also intricate, and detailed. It leaves very little in terms of remaining questions, and we would hope that you would reap rewards from your good effort there. Thank you also for knowing how to write, and taking care with your grammar. It's a refreshing change on the site. Even the site itself has annoying grammatical errors (the chat room greeting for one), but they don't seem to care that it doesn't make sense. Having piled praises on your profile, it probably should be said that unless one went to university and studied psychology, the references to personality types may be a turn-off for some on the site, and, if you don't mind a bit of feedback, we would probably sooner see those removed, and maybe put into simpler terms (ie; a short description of what your personality is like that people can read and relate to, rather than the "personality typing" name for it). Best of luck here, and it will be interesting to see how you go after all your effort. Regards, A & J
Yeah I'll look into it. It was just a huge verbal defecation to get it all out, now I need to clean up around the edges. With respect to a female partner, I'd be lying if I said I didn't want an intelligent lady.
i have read this forum with some interest ,,and have been considering my own profile, i know it's no work of art and my pics are crap ,with no cock shots (lets face it we all know what cock looks like ,,and i also i don't have a camera,,i too read profiles, when theres something to read and cannot understand the ones with absolutely nothing on them, or. even wierder still the comments on them stating i like your profile ,hit me up if you like mine ?? wtf??? any way back to mine ,,while i know it aint great i hope it does show me for me ,,,i am not desperate nor just after the one thing , i wonder how many who read profiles also read the shrep ratings and vouches ,which to my mind often say more about the person than their own idea's of themselves ...there is also the chatrooms ,which i tend to use more, a good place to run amuck , have fun and really show others who you are and what your about ,,having said that though ,,while your profile may clearly and plainly state no single men ,,,which i do respect ,,,,why wouldn't i ,,i too don't appreciate being messaged by those who don't read, i figure in open chat all is fair game ..it is all about fun after all ,,,and i have actually met with (admitedly not always played) many couples and single ladies who implicitly state no singles ,,,,i cannot verify this for you as (shock horror) I AM A DISCRETE BLOKE (yeah right you say ) and never mention who i have met or played with other than those who have openly become my freinds (imagine that ,,only having those you have actually met as freinds )
so to round off a bad or not quite complete profile is by no means the end of world.
Quote by lonelydad my pics are crap ,with no cock shots (lets face it we all know what cock looks like)
We're not a fan of cock shots (MrsT prefers to unrwap a present not knowing what's inside) and most (not all) couples/females who post in the forums claim to have similar views, but we have noticed that by a large margin it's the cock shots that attract the most comments on male photos. Go figure.
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