Hi,
As a single bi woman I'm open to getting to know most people, be it guys, girls and/or couples, but...
What is with the supposed couples where messages could be written by just about anyone (writing style doesn't scream female or male) and any other contact is just the guys, there is always some reason the female is absent...
Sometimes you wonder if
1) does the female exist, at all?
2) is the female not interested in yourself (be honest)
3) does the female not play at all and have no idea her photos are on the site.....
Would live anyone else's thoughts on this....
Cat
Xx
oh there are loads of those profiles.
we found the best way to confirm that both parties know that they swing, lol, is to have them verify themselves on cam.
Pics can be faked.
If they both cant get on cam we immediately assume she doesnt know she swings. lmao
Private rooms are easy to set up and it only takes 30 seconds to prove you are a real couple.
Easy peasy.
Hope this helps
2bnorti
oh oh oh, so on the money. same prob come at bi blokes.
and the problem isnt just on this site. every site im on has this problem
great suggetstion 2b. ive tried that in the past and i get, we dont have awebcam or my partner is at work
Quote by azeasy oh oh oh, so on the money. same prob come at bi blokes. and the problem isnt just on this site. every site im on has this problem great suggetstion 2b. ive tried that in the past and i get, we dont have awebcam or my partner is at work
Interesting on the web cam issue we havnt had one hooked up to the computer for years now so its a bit hard for us to get on cam , the best way we find is to talk direct with both people concerned We have had in the past where people want to cam so we tell them we dont have one but here is our number so you can both call and talk with us both , this soon sorts out the window shoppers that prefer to sit behind a web cam and never meet any one
We don't do the cam stuff but instead do chat via telephone and given that the phone we use is looked after by Sheba, it is her who does the chatting
We have found this method as often when we swap phone numbers and say it is Sheba who will answer safe to say that sometimes the call never comes (not a majority but sometimes)
Hi Cat,
Even before you get to the phone stage you can usually tell a fake couple's profile as there is always an excuse why the female is "busy" or "unavailable".
Also messages and chatting on the site are usually very different from single males as opposed to a couple.
Happy to explain the differences in a pm but not giving the fakes the heads up lol.
Trust your instincts, they rarely steer you wrong. As a single girl you come first so I'd be reluctant to meet with any couple unless I'd chatted to both parties via phone. Once you agree to meet and you find just the male turns up then I'd also be staying long enough to say and then bye. That's happened to quite a few people here as well.
If you're still unsure then have a look on their friends list or comment box and see if they've met anyone else who can verify them.
Good luck and be safe.
Greedy
I do the phone thing. but some will only text and wont do the call. plenty of photos of him, but none or limited of her just wish the fakes would piss off
I was chatting to a "girl" on another site, and things progressed well. she asked me over her place and i went. I googled the address and used my gps to get there. but when i got there the street number didnt exist. the houses ran from 1 to 11 and i was invited to 12. when I tried to chat again I got no responce, oh well : (
Quote by azeasy I do the phone thing. but some will only text and wont do the call. plenty of photos of him, but none or limited of her just wish the fakes would piss off I was chatting to a "girl" on another site, and things progressed well. she asked me over her place and i went. I googled the address and used my gps to get there. but when i got there the street number didnt exist. the houses ran from 1 to 11 and i was invited to 12. when I tried to chat again I got no responce, oh well : (
Ahhh yes we had a similar thing recently with a couple from another site , we could never talk with her and it was always about him , he even gave us an adress to meet them at Well google came in handy as we looked it up and it was a dead end street in the middle of a industrial / transport area in the western suburbs of Melbourne
As many here have already said, it is a very common problem. We are a genuine couple but we do not have a webcam and have no desire to get one. Yes, we do enjoy watching others on cam but we both have issues with having ourselves on cam. Firstly not everyone wants to see a larger and more mature aged couple on cam and we also have a fairly high profile in our local area and we keep our private lives very private. We have played with a few people from this site (Hi guys, they know who they are ☺) and after the initial hook up through here there has always been phone contact to verify the gender and willingness of all parties to meet to see where, if anywhere it goes from there. The phone contact very quickly sorts out who's who in the zoo and of course if a male is pretending to be a couple and can't produce a willing female on the phone he gets the flick quick smart!...
Quote by GoodandGreedy Hi Cat, Even before you get to the phone stage you can usually tell a fake couple's profile as there is always an excuse why the female is "busy" or "unavailable". Also messages and chatting on the site are usually very different from single males as opposed to a couple. Happy to explain the differences in a pm but not giving the fakes the heads up lol. Trust your instincts, they rarely steer you wrong. As a single girl you come first so I'd be reluctant to meet with any couple unless I'd chatted to both parties via phone. Once you agree to meet and you find just the male turns up then I'd also be staying long enough to say and then bye. That's happened to quite a few people here as well. If you're still unsure then have a look on their friends list or comment box and see if they've met anyone else who can verify them. Good luck and be safe. Greedy
If we may also add another twist to the only one of the couple being available thing... As you guys know (Good & Greedy), Mrs ajs exists, but she has very little interest in the computer, apart from occasionally checking her email. By the time the kids get put to bed, all she wants to do is lay on the lounge, sip on a wine, and fall asleep watching her shows. Consequently, it is invariably Mr ajs who corresponds in here, and pisses around in chat, because I get bored just watching the tv, and I prefer to muck around here, and on ebay, and a million other sites to relax. That isn't to say that Mrs ajs isn't aware of everything that is going on (because she is - and is generally sitting here next to me), but I'm considered the filter, and Mrs ajs then sees anything that I feel we may wish to persue, and it's generally her decision as to whether that happens or not from there. That all having been said, it may surprise the people who have met us to discover that I'm essentially introverted (read: voyeuristic...lol), so Mrs ajs comes into her own when we meet people for real, and she generally leads the way once it gets that far, and I take a back seat. Added to that, whilst I (Mr ajs) get on cam occasionally, it's VERY rare for Mrs ajs to get on cam, as she just doesn't like it. We understand that some people may consider that dishonest, or make us appear to be fake, but all the people who have met us would beg to differ. So, that's how our partnership works, and we feel it goes ok. Regards, A & J
Quote by mr_twonewbies mrs aj isnt fake, i think mr is a blow up doll lol
I'm happy to be the tester to check they're both real lol. I'll gladly vouch for the AJs and am honoured to call them close friends. Mrs AJ is a living doll and Mr AJ just likes to blow lol. Mr AJ is that introverted he has an inverted penis too lol. As for your post Mr AJ, I'm sure Mrs AJ would gladly chat to another couple on the phone if it came to verification.
Quote by GoodandGreedy Mr AJ is that introverted he has an inverted penis too lol.
:lol: :lol: That actually made us laugh out loud! :lol: We're another couple where it's almost always Mr T here. Rarely Mrs T. She doesn't use her computer much, instead doing most of her surfing on her phone. Hence she tends to use phone apps like Blendr (at least until it started charging lots of money). When something snags my (Mr T) interest I'll show it to her or tell her and she'll log on for a look. If anyone doubts our authenticity we're happy to point them to shrep or have them ask other couples we have met. We also have no problem with a phone call to confirm either - but we'll only give out our number when we're fairly committed to meeting someone. But if someone is doubtful of us in a very accusing way, well they can go jump. Even if we prove we're a couple, the initial distrust has already shattered any sense of attraction that may have existed.
Interesting topic this one .... Most people are happy to confirm they are a couple ... If not then I'd be assuming they are not genuine ...
As Greedy said follow your gut .. if it feels like bullshit ..then you need to reassess why you are considering the 'couple' in the first place...
Couples like the AJ's are common .. as in only one half comes here to chat.... always ask for verification ... ie chat on phone ..Skype with both partners ... talk to people who have met them both ... check SHrep ... always verify that the couple in question is real...
I have to agree with Greedy MrsAJ's is a living doll and MrAJ ain't half bad either! :wink:
Good luck and stay safe :)
Jazz
Quote by jazz_10 Interesting topic this one .... Most people are happy to confirm they are a couple ... If not then I'd be assuming they are not genuine ... As Greedy said follow your gut .. if it feels like bullshit ..then you need to reassess why you are considering the 'couple' in the first place... Couples like the AJ's are common .. as in only one half comes here to chat.... always ask for verification ... ie chat on phone ..Skype with both partners ... talk to people who have met them both ... check SHrep ... always verify that the couple in question is real... I have to agree with Greedy MrsAJ's is a living doll and MrAJ ain't half bad either! :wink: Good luck and stay safe :) Jazz
Quote by GoodandGreedy I have to agree with Greedy MrsAJ's is a living doll and MrAJ ain't half bad either! :wink: Jazz
Awwww...stop it. Inverted penis? Geeees... lol You can always show me and prove otherwise :wink: Now I know your name is Greedy but I reckon you need to share!! :wink: Wait for me!!!!!
a couple isnt a couple when they dont have equality in their relationship to swinging
ie on person in the relationship is dishonest , not as keen , feels pressured, or feels left out, deceives the other or is the victim of deception, im sure there is a hundred other issues that may arise but if there isnt equity and honesty then one of a couple has it over the over or one under the other as the case may be.
i hope this is on topic with the original post
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I have to agree with Greedy MrsAJ's is a living doll 
