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please dont be offended by this but take it as constructive advice. sorry but your profile has nothing to interest people. you have no location, no pictures, no real depth to what your after. also your after what we call the mythical unicorn, a single female. that makes it hard to find although not impossible. if you were looking for couples with a bi female then your world would open up a lot more.
good luck with your search
Mr two
Quote by Usforfun I would love to meet some women with sexy desires and share our experiences and ideas. Let's start chatting and form a special friendship ;-)
If you are genuinely wanting to meet someone, why wouldn't you put your location on your profile? I suggest you update your profile info or I doubt you will get many responses if no one knows where you're from.
I gotta say that I read both forum postings and simply dismissed them as yet another case of "well there's a fella pretending to be a chick, wanting to talk dirty while he jerks off".
Ho hum yawn, happens all the time.
If you are indeed genuine, I'd suggest going into a chat room for your local area and joining in general and random discussions so you get a sense of people and they of you. For what it is worth, I have NEVER got into an intimate conversation with a woman through initially being horny and talking sex. Sure, I have occasionally had such conversations, but they arise from a warm connection rather than just jumping straight into sharing sexual experiences and ideas.
But hey, good luck with it...
Cool - being in chat room and conversing is, as far as I'm concerned, the way to establish a presence. I find that the generic rooms ( the pool, etc) tend to have a more anonymous feel and it is indeed hard to get a conversation going. In contrast, the user created locality or interest group rooms seem to me to be more likely a place to make a friendship. And in my experience, women and men TEND to ( but not always) approach the seeking if what they say they desire in different ways. When you say women sit there but don't make an effort to seek what they say they desire, I think you are saying that they don't talk with other women about their sexual needs, interests or desires ( in the way that men do explicitly and often brusquely). I think they actually DO, but that it might be as part of a whole group conversation or discussion, instead of one on one, or they speak in generalities in public and approach women in whisper if they want to speak more intimately.
It takes time to establish a rapport. I'm not saying that women want to be besties whilst men are only looking for anonymous sex, but I think that getting to " know" another chatter at least a bit in a general social context first, and then continuing discussion with her in private if you hit it off together is more likely to lead to a result for you - at least, from my experience.
And if I was actively seeking to make contact, I'd be looking for a location in a profile, and probably in a locality chat room too.
Cheers and good luck
Ms_twiddletwat
Profile still has nothing to attact others to you , some more details and location are needed and even some sort of photo will help .
Also of concern is that its a couples profile and all the posts in the forums refer to as "i" shouldn't it be "we" as your a couple
Good luck Melbcpl01
[quote="melbcpl01"]Profile still has nothing to attact others to you , some more details and location are needed and even some sort of photo will help .
Also of concern is that its a couples profile and all the posts in the forums refer to as "i" shouldn't it be "we" as your a couple
God luck Melbcpl01[/quote
Bored sorry house wives who think they know it all. sad old moos
Who cares what this miserable sorry bored mothers think do what u like smile at the cows as u go by oh dont forget middle finger up & smile
Why bother asking this lot they hiding in car park doing they are all negative .
I am pretty sure whilst there is a sense of opening line thats factual and maybe too much to the point all the posts offer help and suggestions It is funny when somesone's negative about negativity lol
Is that the mythical like minded people we are all seeking?
Quote by Usforfun its a couples profile but its also two individuals that like each other to pursue their own adventures not two sad people making the rules for the partnership .
sad hey??? sorry if we dont fit into your happy world. people have different takes on this lifestyle. our take doesnt make us sad its the twits that do. we chose to play together and thats what we do. its not about rules its about watching, enjoying and sharing the experience with each other.
Stick with it Usforfun. Don't let the "holier than thous'" spoil your fun. This is an OPEN forum, not one to be directed by those who can't cope with anything they didn't think of, or don't wish to do themselves.
Quote by Usforfun Yes I need a shove to make the photos happen, and its a couples profile but its also two individuals that like each other to pursue their own adventures not two sad people making the rules for the partnership so both are tied to the bedpost unable to move without approval from the other. You may not understand this sort of relationship if you are committed to living in a conservative world.
Ha ha ha nothing conservative about the relationship we are in and we hardly think we are sad . Rules or boundaries are great for couples finding their way within the lifestyle, as they grow more secure or confident in their relationship their rules or boundaries may expand. It's great that some couples don't need rules and are able to do what they like when they like but its not for everyone. Hope you find what you are looking for.......
why is there always a comment to continue anti social behaviors, the comments are logically presented and generally prove to be the most supportive and successful way for a couple to engage in swinging without undermining anyone else's situation or the principal relationship.
Comments to keep being anti social really show your not happy in your skin you know misery likes company .
Most if not all other comments are positive and practical recommendations for successful life swinging balance don't overlook how experienced couples survive .
Its easy to come along undercut everything with the realisation or not, that hey this isnt working for me/us keep doing it posts posters usually want to share experience that will help, not cause or justify miserable failure.
Quote by jadi Profile still has nothing to attact others to you , some more details and location are needed and even some sort of photo will help . Also of concern is that its a couples profile and all the posts in the forums refer to as "i" shouldn't it be "we" as your a couple God luck Melbcpl01[/quote Bored sorry house wives who think they know it all. sad old moos Who cares what this miserable sorry bored mothers think do what u like smile at the cows as u go by oh dont forget middle finger up & smile Why bother asking this lot they hiding in car park doing they are all negative .
What the ? cant make sense of half of that response ROFL well done
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. Rules or boundaries are great for couples finding their way within the lifestyle, as they grow more secure or confident in their relationship their rules or boundaries may expand. It's great that some couples don't need rules and are able to do what they like when they like but its not for everyone.