Cmon guys and girls, this is supposed to be a swingers site!!
I have posted four forums, had 100 odd people look at them, and not one message!
Is anyone serious on here or just pissed and playing the flirt?
Feedback would be appreciated.
Cheers
Coen
Coen, I really don't believe anyone's all that genuine on this - or any othe similar - site, be it swingers, sex clubs or whatever. I don't even know what the hell I'm doing here. You're basically right, no-one's really genuine on this site.
C'mon people, PROVE ME WRONG!!
Well you probably have even less chance now that you've had a public whinge.
Swinging doesn't necessarily mean having sex with anyone at the drop of a hat.
You're after women (even if it's a couple, you're after the woman in the couple), and women are a comparatively scarce resource on these systems. But what in your profile is designed to appeal to a woman? No pics, very little said about yourself... why would a woman choose you over the hundreds of other guys that are available?
Not a whinge mate, just a general inquiry
I would have thought that swingers were generally fairly liberal with their sexuality?
I have a job that I can put pics but have happily supplied a mobile on a number of ocassions and no response.
I am just interested to know if it is worth persevering, or just give this site away.
Cheers for the input though
Coen
Liberal? Sometimes. A gaping set of labia ready to take any guy within 100km who just happens to be horny? Very rarely.
We occasionally meet a single guy. When we are looking for one, I ask you again - why would we pick you? There are profiles (disappointingly few I admit) where guys describe themselves in a witty or engaging way and have some attractive photos (even if they don't show faces in the public shots). If we were in the mood to pick up a guy on the spur of the moment, wouldn't we choose someone with a more appealing profile than yours?
Having had a look at what you've posted on the forums (essentially "I'm available, who wants to fuck?"), you probably are wasting your time here. What's more, by association you're doing your bit to bring down the image of all single guys.
If you were prepared to write up a decent profile, put up some photos (crop or blur it to hide your face), spend some time chatting to people in the chat rooms, go along to a meet-n-greet to be sociable... then you might get lucky. But even then the chances are slim (there are just far too many guys per girl). Your best bet for some action might be to turn bi and hit up some guys.
Well for starters
Have a profile pic with face pictures full body shots tend to get more replies, just because we swing doen't mean we want every guy we go for what we like.
Rude pushy attitudes and we tend to drop you like butter, showing picturs of your dick actually gets less response most of the time as for meetings we have met about ten people now here but at club meets met probaly 22 people not all for sex.
So up to you if you stay or not, im speaking for victoria only here
Well Coen I have to saybim feeling the same way I have been in the site for a while now and have only met 1 couple for play, the rest of the people have just been huge time wasters!
While I guess there are genuine people on here I have to say the vast majority are just a waste of space
I have met quite a few people from here, mostly through the chat rooms.
The Personals and the Forums have not been the way it's worked for me.
As a few posters have said - guys are plentiful on here so you have to be offering something out of the ordinary (perhaps personality? ) to stand out.
Couples wanting bi females are also plentiful - so the ladies have quite a choice.
Yes, there are time wasters and guys pretending to be couples who get their jollies from leading guys on (don't get it - but each to his own). One just has to learn how to sort the good guys from the wankers.
IMHO
P
We have met a couple of people from here but the site does have a lower success rate for us than others but its what time and effort you put into it , Also as you are playing on your own ditch the couples profile for a starter , no ones going to want to meet a single guy that has a couples profile and no female to offer .
Make a new single males profile add some tasteful pics inc face and dont give us this rubbish you cant because of your job , if someone from your work see it then they are on here aswell so your secret is pretty safe
Try and sell your self as best you can add your likes and dislikes and a general run down of your self , not just hey girls i wanna fuck asap
Melbcpl01
yep its only us ugly guys that try and hide, lol ok ive got a pic, but only cuase u have too or nothing, and i agree i dont want it known im on sex sites looking for it, but if they come across me then they doing the same thing. and for record im a single, ugly bit on the bigger side and ive had lots of luck here, its all about who u r and what u put across, so suck it up princess and have a go
isnt it amazing that the only ones that bloody whinge wont get off there arse and go to meet and greets to meet ppl HELLOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
As the couple that organise the Adelaide Meet N Greets we can definatly say
thay are the way to go. those that turn up are the real deal. and if your what
others want then your in luck.
We have had alot of sucess from this site, and the only thing we have ever posted
in the forums is the meet n greet notifacation, or replyed to posts like this.
We say bite the bullet and go to a meet. Also listen to what others have posted here
K n K
I have posted two swingers events and a recent post for a lady or couple to attend as my guest. Wow I thought, plenty of ppl looking - well over 500. One reply.
Ok, sure, if I was 21 female and blonde I'm sure it'd be the other way around with 500 replies and only one person not replying but seriously WTF?
There must be a shitload of guys only on here.
I look forward to meeting some ppl but not too many will be from here.
bunchy - people are notoriously skeptical of single guys, largely because many single guys will spin all manner of lies in an attempt to get laid (no I'm not married; yes I'll bring a female - oh sorry she was sick tonight; yes I'm married but my wife lets me swing - oh, you want to call her? Um, her phone battery is flat; etc).
Single males who claim to have a FB but don't have a couples profile or any pics of her fall under even greater suspicion. When I read your post about you paying to attend a swingers party but your FB pulling out, I thought "Pfft, yeah right. Nice try, but we've heard that one before". It may have been true, but it reeks of being "just another line". And besides, you may have needed a female to help get you in, but it's pretty rare that a female needs to find a male so she can go. You were also asking for couples. Why would they need you, and if it's couples-only how is that even going to help you?
Further, your posts were all about meeting up for sex. Yes, that's the end goal for most people here, but a large number of people still want to have a connection with others before getting naked. They still want to chat, flirt and woo. Saying "I've got a hotel room - who wants to come over and fuck?" is rarely going to get you anywhere. There are exceptions of course, but your style of approach is appealing to only a very small market.
Lets face it guys, you will have a much better success rate hanging around in bars, rather than spending your time on here.
There are no single women on this site, apart from the ones site mods create. and they sure dont hang around dodgy x rated bookshops with glory holes, so stop dreaming and posting about it in the hope they will turn up.
And with couples it's all about the guy getting to have sex with another woman, not sex for both parters; why do you think most couples profiles only specify women? And why most swingers events only let women and couple in? Because it's all about the male half having sex with other women, and the female half is just going along with it to keep the marriage intact.
Lets face it, single girls don't want a couple, they want a nice single guy.
There have been some honest posts above and the rest are just trying to cover up the reality.
my god simone u are so bloody wrong im the female of this cpl and i have my own fuck buddy and we both love having gr8 sex with others and i know heaps of single females on here
I laugh at the fact a transexual who is not a woman trying to tell me what I think, my boyfriend is the not so keen one and im the one meeting men welcome to the new future where girls take what they want when they want it.
Do i want to meet guys i dont like just to have sex then no, I want what i want and im straight to the point if I dont like someone.
Ive put ads up with a description with what I want guys that dont fit the description apply and say they know they dont fit the description will we still consider them so I hit them with the next button.
Ive seen people at clubs have sex with anyone walking in the room then ive seen selective couples not go with any one its our bodies to use as we see fit.
Ive seen girls use no condoms at all for anything and ive seen guys put on condoms for head jobs so there are wide range of people out there.
Yes there are single girls we have met here we try to meet girls with partners, i suppose we find it easier because we are young and other young couples looking for that.
Stand on any street corner on a night the hookers are working hard more cars stop for the teen girl in a mini skirt then the old hat thas been there for years thats life.
Your young use it then retire then die thats life and a reality check
Yeah, well you are one of the exceptions; I wasn't talking absolutionism, but lets face it, if a single girl wants to have sex with a guy, then why go for a couple; what does a couple offer over a single guy? Just more complications.
I stand by my original position; most swinging is just the guy wanting to have sex with another woman while the obedient wifey goes along with it in a desparate attempt to keep the marriage intact.
Sorry if I sound a bit adversarial but I dont mind a bit of a debate as long as they dont attack me personally.
Quote by Simone1 Lets face it guys, you will have a much better success rate hanging around in bars, rather than spending your time on here. There are no single women on this site, apart from the ones site mods create. and they sure dont hang around dodgy x rated bookshops with glory holes, so stop dreaming and posting about it in the hope they will turn up. And with couples it's all about the guy getting to have sex with another woman, not sex for both parters; why do you think most couples profiles only specify women? And why most swingers events only let women and couple in? Because it's all about the male half having sex with other women, and the female half is just going along with it to keep the marriage intact. Lets face it, single girls don't want a couple, they want a nice single guy. There have been some honest posts above and the rest are just trying to cover up the reality.
There's some very untrue points listed above: 1. The site mods here DO NOT create single women profiles to entice people here 2. All the couples we've met have been about the COUPLE not just the male wanting to play with the female 3. Single girls do want couples - I was a single girl in the scene for many years and had fun with many couples. 4. Most swinging events only let in couples and single females because both the couples and single fems are sick of the majority of single males in the scene EXPECTING sex just because they are at a sex club or socialising with people from an adult site. It's very confronting to be playing and have 10 single males standing there wanking over you. Seriously guys how many of you honestly joined this site thinking sex was on tap here? Be honest! I've said this many, many times - if you came here looking for sex go to a site with a higher female ration e.g. RSVP, POF, Oasis coz the female ratio is the reverse of here 10:1
4. Most swinging events only let in couples and single females because both the couples and single fems are sick of the majority of single males in the scene EXPECTING sex just because they are at a sex club or socialising with people from an adult site. It's very confronting to be playing and have 10 single males standing there wanking over you.
Well lets face it; do you think single women go to swinging events just to talk? No, they go there to get fucked. So what does it matter if the guys standing there wanking over them are single or came as part of a couple? Do you really think, ok they say, those guys stand standing there wanking over me came with a woman so that's ok, but that guy, he came by himself and he's wankin, that's horrible.
You say that single females are sick of the majority of single males in the scene expecting sex just because they are at a sex club, well what are the males who come with a woman expecting? They are also expecting to have sex with another woman.
They are both there for the same thing. And don't forget the single women who go there are going there just for sex, so how can they complain if a guy wants to have sex with them? After all that's the only reason they went there for, to get fucked by strangers.
It seems sort of like, ok, if a guy goes to one of those events with a woman then he is ok, but is a single guy goes there and does the same thing as the guy with a partner does then he's a pervert.
Quote by Simone1 Lets face it guys, you will have a much better success rate hanging around in bars, rather than spending your time on here. There are no single women on this site, apart from the ones site mods create. and they sure dont hang around dodgy x rated bookshops with glory holes, so stop dreaming and posting about it in the hope they will turn up. And with couples it's all about the guy getting to have sex with another woman, not sex for both parters; why do you think most couples profiles only specify women? And why most swingers events only let women and couple in? Because it's all about the male half having sex with other women, and the female half is just going along with it to keep the marriage intact. Lets face it, single girls don't want a couple, they want a nice single guy. There have been some honest posts above and the rest are just trying to cover up the reality.
OK Simone... to clarify a few of your points ... I was a genuine BI single female on here, I am a REAL female .. not created by mods as you state and I met my now partner on here, and we know and have met many single females since being on here! We are a genuine couple and BOTH of us play, not just my man but both of us, together! Simone you say there are no single women on here, then what are you? You call yourself a "transgender woman" on your profile and are looking for a gay female and a straight female, if, as you claim, there are no single women on here then what do you class yourself as? And, what are YOU looking for on here? (NOTE ALL single females, which is what you are and what you claim you're looking for) You state "Because it's all about the male half having sex with other women, and the female half is just going along with it to keep the marriage intact." yet your profile also says your looking for a couple with a bi female ....and I'm sure YOU wouldnt want to be a party to that!! Your post is FULL of contradictions!!!
Simone - yes, people (women included) join sex sites and go to sex clubs looking for sex. But, mostly, they want to have sex with people that they are attracted to, not just anyone who happens to be there. Going to a sex club, chatting with people, finding someone you like and then having sex with them is fun. But having hordes of desperate, pushy males who assume you want to have sex with them by the simple virtue of you being there, and then getting frustrated, rude and aggressive when you won't have sex with them - is not fun. (Some may think differently of course) That same frustration is apparent in the single guys that post on here saying "This site is shit, nobody wants to fuck me, all you so-called swingers are full of hot air". Yet so many of these people have made no genuine attempt to connect with and engage others. They just assume that because it's a sex site people must want to have sex with them. Wrong!
There is exceptions these days as the scene has changed many a girl are saying omg slept with this right fuck wit last night and doing the dash in the night, at clubs the majority is male but at the same time you have private rooms yes they do follow you around like they have just paid entrance fee so thinks they entitled to sex, a lot go home with blue balls. My partner generally does not have sex witht he girl of the couple hes more fingering me or im giving him head while taking a pounding. Some girls are like that with their partners to, I have said this before a coloured towel at a swingers event would save a lot of grief pink = bi blue straight etc that way see the towel you like and ask the person wearing it if they would like to play if they say no then leave it, most guys keep coming up and going are your sure see you again and they pull it out and start wanking are you sure you will like it. Hey pay 20 dollars entrance I should at least get donkey lol no its like the lotto you may get some you may not.
Guys need to learn to click the right buttons. yes we go to sex club generally meeting strangers to have sex with we also do that everywhere we meet guys as they are a stranger before you meet them no difference between a sex club and bar the pick up games the same you have to attract the other person to want you.
Most of my girlfriends will fuck at least 2 guys by the end of the weekend and then never call them again they send texts like love you so fourth shes rights back you were a booty call sorry, he gets deflated asking was it big enough was i good so fourth.
We are empowered to play with men and do what we like with our bodies a girl will always pick up more than a guy, some of us are just fussy.
I like my boyfriend because hes funny there for me, knows how im feeling when im feeling it and makes me just happy when im around him, im not attarcted to him physically but i like his big dick and he can use it. I also like the thrill of having others crave me and want me so when you have guys join with us it feels like your number one to them. When girls join its more having sex and then a giggle after wards for me. We have been going out ten years mostly dogging from the begiining which turned to meet ups later on.
If you see what we put up with from this site or any site or club with single guys you would see,
I just read your forum post which in part read....."Lets face it guys, you will have a much better success rate hanging around in bars, rather than spending your time on here."
There are no single women on this site, apart from the ones site mods create. and they sure dont hang around dodgy x rated bookshops with glory holes, so stop dreaming and posting about it in the hope they will turn up.
Then I read your profile and that states in part.....".I'm a transgender woman looking for a straight or bisexual woman, just want to take things a bit slow for a start because this is the first time I have joined a site or put an ad on the web.
Also I have been out of the dating game for a few years so would like to get back into it slowly.
Sorry, no guys; I used to be into guys but now I'm into women only.
If as you say, you are only looking for females and if as you say "there are none on this site" then I really find it hard to understand just why you are on this site???
The last thing that you put in a post was...."Sorry if I sound a bit adversarial but I dont mind a bit of a debate as long as they dont attack me personally."
Well this is not a personal attack on you but a defence of the female members from this site of which I have met many who are now great friends.
Okay folks, I've read the replies and I can't cover every reply but I feel comfortable in saying the following:
Coen, I feel the same but after reading many of the responses then maybe I'm approaching this incorrectly.
TemptedTwo - a bit harsh but I can't fully disagree, there could be a reaon for no pics though.
Bikie, Old Cock and K&K and jackie&Alex, basically EXCELLENT POINTS! I'll try to get to a gree & meet soon.
baabaa - yeah, right, very musical Do you actually play that thing?
Well, that's my reply and I'm sticking to it.
Coen, do try a greet & meet and simply see how you go. I will in the next Sydney event and I'll let you know how it went.
This is an interesting thread. Good to see different people's attitudes and their insights.
I gotta say, love your attitude Jacky_Alex. It's great to see a hot bod teamed up with a smart brain and that you know what you want. Things really sizzle when the physical and mental come together. The brain is the biggest sex organ in your body.
Quote by David_M Okay folks, I've read the replies and I can't cover every reply but I feel comfortable in saying the following: Coen, I feel the same but after reading many of the responses then maybe I'm approaching this incorrectly. TemptedTwo - a bit harsh but I can't fully disagree, there could be a reaon for no pics though. Bikie, Old Cock and K&K and jackie&Alex, basically EXCELLENT POINTS! I'll try to get to a gree & meet soon. baabaa - yeah, right, very musical Do you actually play that thing? Well, that's my reply and I'm sticking to it. Coen, do try a greet & meet and simply see how you go. I will in the next Sydney event and I'll let you know how it went.
David I play a mean fiddle ;) Well as you said come to the next meet which I'm actually organising on the 28th July.
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Swinging doesn't necessarily mean having sex with anyone at the drop of a hat.
You're after women (even if it's a couple, you're after the woman in the couple), and women are a comparatively scarce resource on these systems. But what in your profile is designed to appeal to a woman? No pics, very little said about yourself... why would a woman choose you over the hundreds of other guys that are available?
I would have thought that swingers were generally fairly liberal with their sexuality?
I have a job that I can put pics but have happily supplied a mobile on a number of ocassions and no response.
I am just interested to know if it is worth persevering, or just give this site away.
Cheers for the input though
Coen
