Good evening,
This evening during a period of "bored web browsing" I found this web site. I have found reading discussions in the various sub-forums rather interesting. However, I know very little about swinging. I don't really even know what it is. Until venturing into these forums, it was always my perception "swingers are couples who engage in extra-marital sex" but it seems I was somewhat mistaken regarding that limited definition.
Until somewhat recently I was in a serious relationship. So indeed I am presently a single male, but I am not here to spam users with annoying invites or looking for free sex with randoms. Even if that were the case, I have neither the body, experience nor confidence for such an endeavor. Rather I am more interested in learning more about exactly what is this thing called "swinging."
I loved my partner very much. Although we had an active sex life, our activities were limited to fairly traditional straight sex between the two of us only. Certainly it was enough for her, but I was always interested in more, however she was totally against the prospect. So I ignored my own desires for her sake. But being alone once more, I have become curious to know more about swinging generally. I have never had the opportunity to ask anyone about it, so this forum seems a good place to ask.
Some questions:
-What exactly is "swinging" ? Reading the forums I'm torn between "casual sex mostly involving couples" and something closer to a "lifestyle choice." I have seen multiple forum posts containing reference to forming ongoing friendships with swinging partners, and so on, which doesn't seem to fit with just "casual sex."
-How do most people become involved in the lifestyle? Do existing couples get into it to "spice up" their sex life? Conversely, do single people specifically try to date partners that are also interested in the lifestyle? I have no idea how people can safely bring such a topic up with current or potential partners. Considering the tension created simply by asking my previous partner (despite some signs she might be interested), it certainly doesn't seem like an easy topic to broach - I'll think twice before bringing that topic up again with anyone new.
-Is being a swinger considered a social stigma? For example, is it something many swingers would hide from their friends, new partners etc? Would it be true or false to say a desire for the swinging lifestyle is largely misunderstood by sexually mainstream individuals? I certainly do not discuss this topic with anyone I know as I feel the result would be being made fun of from now until forever.
-Don't swinging singles/couples just end up getting propositioned by creeps like 10 times a day? How do people protect themselves? Is initially meeting in a public setting standard practice for many?
I have other questions also but this post is way too long already.
Please feel free to use this thread to discuss swinging in general, what swinging means to you, about your swinging experiences, swinging information or advice for new comers or potentially interested parties, etc. I'd be very interested to see what people have to say. Although I'm probably blindly missing a totally obvious link on the site explaining all about swinging, aren't I?
Apologies for the verbosity of my post, I tend to become carried away with the written word.
Cheers.
TL;DR : I know nothing about swinging. Tell me about it! Alternatively, tell me to go screw myself for posting a wall of text.
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from what i know of swinging:
couples: for couples i think swinging is a fantasy they live such as a threesome could be the mans fantasy and yet a gangbang could be hers but they set rules to protect themselves from complete out of controlness ( even though some couples have a open relationship but in my opinion couples with love and control much more sexy not only to be apart of but to watch :) ).
Singles: Now i cant speak for singles but i can speak for me why i got into swinging, i was in a relationship for 4 yrs begging for another girl to join us begging but my bf at the time wouldnt go through with it and once we parted i had to explore my desires and ive done more fantasys then you can dream of. Down side is never have that connection or simple kissing as a passionate but more like trying to eat their face lol .
The up side is the meet n greets and the people you meet are some amazing people and that alone is something worth while.
most couples do this to as u say spice things up but to be honest id just love to watch nothing to do with spicing things up its hot.
singles they are horny simple
with the saying your a swinger most hide it plus no ones business what they do in the bedroom needless to say i didnt hide it and even though im with someone and havent swinged for ages doesnt mean i will hide it just means im waiting :)
Yes you get creeps but thats also in life now isnt it with this lifestyle gotta expect that and handle it.
feel free to message me and i can answer other questions :)
