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BDSM beginner

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I am very interested in BDSM I have alot of experience with different sexual encounters but no BDSM it has always sparked my Interest although I have heard some horrible experiences this leaves me a Lil reserved.

Where to start?

What red flags to look out for when seeking out a partner 

Give me the good bad glorious and ugly 

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Try and find someone who likes the sense of power it gives them, rather than someone who just likes to hurt you. Always have a safe word which is like the emergency stop button.

Dont get involved with anyone with BO.

Try and watch a film about it and see how he reacts, if he smiles when he is watching you are half way there, if he gets a set jaw, leave.

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I would suggest starting with an experienced couple to help guide you or visit a site dedicated to the actual BDSM scene and ask lots of questions. I knew someone in the scene and there are a lot of rules involved to make sure everyone is safe and enjoys themselves. Theres more to BDSM than 50 Shades of Grey - in fact people in the scene actual hate these movies as they don't portray the actual BDSM society accurately. Research what you want/expect before committing to a mate is the best advice I can give you.

Good Luck xx