New and need advice

0 likes 25 Nov 2010

I have always been wanting to have an open relationship with my girlfriend. The thought of seeing her with another man or woman and sharing another couple drives me crazy. Have brought this up with her a few times and she's interested but nervous about what might happen. We've discussed this and she's interested aswell but have now reached a stail mate because she is too scared to take the first step and I don't want to keep pushing her. I think that one possible solution would be to meet up with a couple that have done it all before and are experianed that could encourage our situation. Although this meeting might have to appear impromptude to her?? Any thoughts is this a really bad idea. Advice is always appreciated

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0 likes 26 Nov 2010

Quote by Skip_1
I have always been wanting to have an open relationship with my girlfriend. The thought of seeing her with another man or woman and sharing another couple drives me crazy. Have brought this up with her a few times and she's interested but nervous about what might happen. We've discussed this and she's interested aswell but have now reached a stail mate because she is too scared to take the first step and I don't want to keep pushing her. I think that one possible solution would be to meet up with a couple that have done it all before and are experianed that could encourage our situation. Although this meeting might have to appear impromptude to her?? Any thoughts is this a really bad idea. Advice is always appreciated

We have been in the scene for 6 months or so and talked alot about both our wants and expectations at length before we took the first step. We have been lucky enough to find some wonderful couples to share experiences with and are really enjoying ourselves. We have also met some really great friends on this site. My advice is to not push her to quickly as it may scare her off. Maybe get her into the chatroom to talk with people first so she can get comfortable. Its all about communication between yourselves and having fun. Meet and greets are also a great way to meet people with no pressure involved as these are held in public places with no expectation of more from people. If you check the forums there are regular meet and greets held all around the country. Good luck smile

Dex14

Warming the Bed

0 likes 26 Nov 2010

Exactly what Zusty said. The girls have to feel comfortable for anything to happen as if they don't it is a no go. We have been into the lifestyle for 12 months and have meet a lot of great people online and in the bedroom. As Zusty said log into the chatroom and just watch what people are talking about and it is we surprising how normal everyone. Best not to rush and spoil what could be a very good thing.

Unknown User

0 likes 26 Nov 2010

Thanks guys very sound advice. I really don't want to push the subject so we will just take it slow and see how we go. Thanks again and all the best.