Thank you Kerry_1975. I am shorter than my wife and if she was looking for someone taller then should wouldn't have met her soulmate. The size of the gift isn't what matters it is what is inside that counts.
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BumpNGrind6970
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 55
Bisexual Female, 53
0 km · Springfield Lakes
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Sexlightened
Ha ha ha Mr Two, then again I would love to eat Mrs Two every single night 
. She is sensational!!!!!
Sexlightened
We get PM and messages from single guys and married guys pretending to be single. We are really tired of the constant harassment. Serious guys if we are not looking for another male, single, married or otherwise are you really all that, that suddenly we would change our mind.
Ok onto another subject. They say variety is the spice of life. So it is interesting that couples look for couples that are similar in age, body type etc. To me that will like only eating the same flavour of ice cream everytime. I mean variety to me would mean, hey lets try some strawberry, or rum and rasin lol. So why not treat your palate to something different, you might be surprised.
Another observation, because observing is my favourite thing lol. Single ladies looking for a playmate, fuck buddy or potential boyfriend. Then you read what they are looking for in their profile. I will use an example of one that I read some time ago that it made me chuckle. Single lady, 52 yrs old, 5'5". She is looking for a single male within an hour of her, must be around her age no older than 55, must be at least 6 foot, must have a head of hair, no facial hair, must be fit/athletic, must be well endowed prefer over 8 inches and circumcised. The best part.... she was in a chat room complaining about not finding anyone. Now I am no mathematician, but I would say she is dreaming, women over 50 out number the men by 20-25%. On an adult site the number of single males within one hour of her location maybe around......say 50 and out of those 50 some are pretending to be single (no surprise there), so lets be conservative and say 40. Now out of the 40 she is looking for someone around her age (50-55), so consider the majority on single males on an adult site is 25-34 age group, lets not forget to take away the under 25 and the 35-49 and suddenly the percentage isn't looking good. So lets say around 10 are over in the 50-55 age bracket. Now the average male in Australia is 5'7", and again lets conservatively say 3 men are over 6 foot. Now approx. 85% of men will experience hair loss, so now we are down to 1. Now this one single guy will have to be athletic/fit, no facial hair and be well endowed (over 8 inches) and wait for it, circumcised. I am thinking this lady isn't that bright or like most women (I am sure to get a slap from my wife on this) wants what she can't have lol. What I found strange about her long list is something that wasn't listed in her profile and that was personality. I guess she doesn't care if the guy is an arsehole or complete douchebag, because finding a guy with all the right physical attributes is what matters.
Oh by the why, the subject of circumcised vs uncircumcised, does it really matter if to slip a condom over it? I get the impression there is some prejudiced against males who are uncircumcised. Consent was given when they were babies not to get cut. Yes there is evidence to suggest that males who are cut are less likely to get infections etc. But lets negate the fact that there are higher rate of contracting STIs from single Bi (curious/sexual) males compared to Prostitutes or swinging couples. Yes I am sure that some people call bullshit on this but I say tell that to the person with 30+ years experience in a sexual health clinic she is wrong lol . So anyway getting off track here, it is prejudice against males who aren't circumcised because of perception? I think women can be quite cruel and judgmental about something that is quite personal to a male, irrespective of the fact he is healthy, clean and STI free. If males where to judge a female in the same way, they would be hung and quartered.
Sexlightened
I tend to agree that profiles that haven't been accessed in several months be completely removed. It serves no benefit to members with profiles not accessed beyond 90 days. This site is user friendly as you can filter profiles according to 'Date Joined'.
I don't totally agree with offering single women free membership. Perhaps offer a free month of membership (allowing them an opportunity to experience the site), but then required to pay like the rest of us once the free membership expires. To help balance the ratios to whose benefit? Unless you believe this is purely a pickup site which it isn't? I am of the opinion that this site is for everyone who wants to catch up with friends, express themselves on cam, make contact with couples and singles etc. If you are just looking to hook up with females then perhaps Tinder or Plenty of Fish (POF) might be a better option.
Sexlightened
We would like to try Doggin as some stage but not sure where there is a good place. Perhaps a few cpls get meet up.
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There was a debate regarding cut/uncut on this forum some time ago. I am uncut, always take pride in my hygiene and never had a complaint or issue from any lady who has been with me. Yet there are women out there who don't want an uncut male for reasons unknown, maybe they don't know what to do with an uncut cock? As previously mentioned, once it has a condom on it, is it still an issue?
If I was to take a stab at it, my guess their partner is cut and therefore that is what they are use to so lets not venture into the unknown lol. Maybe the same person looking for a 6 foot +, ripped, 9 inch cock, has a head full of hair, no body hair, blue eyes.......
Sexlightened
I raised 2 support tickets last night about some of the issues we were having with chat i.e. cannot log in. Admin replied back later stating it was fixed, yet I still cannot log into chat 
So I raised another one this morning, hopefully they will resolve the problem this time.
So I raised another one this morning, hopefully they will resolve the problem this time.
Sexlightened
Quote by bemine
was very naughty at the bird tower today about 11 and no one there but still had a wet pussy to bring home
bemine, we hope to join you with a little notice ;)
Sexlightened
Hello fellow dogging folk. We are new to the area and curious about where are the dogging spots. Also if there is a group that meet up at such a spot we will be interested to come along.
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We have a few Indian men at a swinger party we go to regularly. Even though it is equal numbers they don't bring a partner because they would never take their wives/ girlfriends to a swinger party. They would never share. Male view
I have played with a couple of these Indian men. They expect everything from the woman but give nothing back. They are mostly not well endowed which wouldn't be a problem if they knew how to use what they have to give pleasure. I would consider them to be duds. And their attitude to women does not help. Female view
We tend to agree with juswannahavfun. Our experiences are similar to those of juswannahavfun. Some Indian gents failed to observe the 'no means no' rule or the female's wishes. Not that it is exclusive to just Indian men, just seems to occur more often than not. It is a shame that Indian men will not take their wives to a swingers party, a little cultural exchange will be a lot of fun. Maybe the Indian ladies could show us Aussie men how awesome they are ;)
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Quote by OKandQ
survival as a swinging couple requires the one golden rule and no exceptions play together , we have never heard of any issues when the rule is applied but we hear many when it isnt . Trust is one thing human emotions and lust greed or development or change is another .
If you allow each other to play with matches someone eventually gets burnt , we dont see it as limiting or not trusting each other we see it as absolute desite to maintain our relationship with benefits.
OKandQ as much as I like to agree with you, a part of me is of the opinion that there are exceptions to the rule. I am a firm believer that communication is the key, whether you have an open relationship or not, swing or not. Mrs Bump and I have on occasion played alon, and the reason why it works for us is that we keep no secrets from each other. We even discuss what we liked or disliked about our experience. I recently came across an Australian survey conducted in a 2011. The survey had stated the five top indicators for relationship breakdowns are financial stress, communication, different expectations or values, lack of trust and lack of commitment. Most people surveyed responded that communication and financial stress were the top reasons for relationship breakdowns.
Setting rules and boundaries are great in a swinging lifestyle and some relationships can't survive without them, but sex is not usually the major driving factor in relationship breakdown. It is more often a failure to communicate. Many sites say swinging will not increase the chances of your partner leaving you, in fact by being open and honest with each other about your sexual needs and fantasies, and working your partner to explore all your fantasies, you will decrease the chances of them looking for sexual releases elsewhere.
Many couples think that swinging is a cure for martial problems but if you feel there is a high chance of your partner leaving you, it shows that there are already problems in the relationship and swinging is not for you.
Sexlightened
Personally we enjoy the site. We use this site to stay in touch with Meet and Greets, playtime or social gatherings, make contact with new people and stay in contact with our current pool of friends.
Using the site as the only source of entertainment i.e. cam is rather silly. For those that are bored, feel free to organise a Meet and Greet, a day at the beach, a party, so many opportunities to use this site as a hub for those who join this site to meet people. Compared to many other adult sites, bang for buck this site rocks.
As for comment about 'less attractive women on cam', the only thing I can say to that, is ....WTF! So has it all come down to not enough attractive women on cam now? Be grateful that people have the confidence to get on cam in the first place. Perhaps the ladies on this site should comment about the lack of buffed, tall guys, supporting 10inch cocks on cam as well! Maybe the fellas need to be an Adonis to be on cam? Just putting it out there 
Sexlightened
Meet a wonderful bunch of people at the beach shame we could stay longer. Back to being mum and dad 
Hope the weather holds up for you all and enjoy the rest of the weekend.
J and B
Hope the weather holds up for you all and enjoy the rest of the weekend.
J and B
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We are off to Samurai, should be there by 1pm if Mrs Bump hurries up. We will be in a White Landcruiser (Mrs Bump's monster truck 
) Anyway we will head towards the camping ground entrance. See you all there
J and B
) Anyway we will head towards the camping ground entrance. See you all there
J and B
Sexlightened
We shall make our way towards the camping ground and look for a nice crowd of sexy, flirtatious people 
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Quote by TheRose
Mr bump, My self as Mod, as always said, Members have a right, to say, what the rules are.
And Admin will agree..
what makes a good site, is what admin do, WHAT makes a great site, is what members and admin can do together.
Reminding folks, about the rules, shouldnt just have to be up to admin or mods. It takes all of us.
Awesome, thanks Rose xoxo
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Most of are aware of the rule and have seen the constant reminders about no directing in a non-directing room. Many who do slip up and usually take it on the chin when reminded and move on. Some feel it is there god given right to abuse the room as of the little exchange of words in the pool room this morning. With the absence of Mods policing the room, some individuals feel it is ok to Direct in a Non-directing room. When the person was reminded of the rule for entering the room (by many other chatters), that person got abusive, because he felt, we as the collective couldn't tell him what to do. The report was submitted about the person's behaviour, but, it is their behaviour that really deter females like Mrs Bump from getting on cam. I enjoy watching cams as much as anyone and I also enjoy my beautiful wife getting on cam for others to enjoy. So on that note, in the absence of Mods in the room, is Admin happy for us (members) to remind people of the rule and report them if they continue to direct and/or get abusive towards others as a result of reminding of the rule?
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Quote by cuddlycouple66
12 more days we cant wait
wooohooo might have to put up a bit of shade or privacy screening, no doubt someone will get toey lol
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Quote by JJ_BINY
anything on or any 1 out & about the safternoon
Was thinking of heading to Samurai, but if some playtime is available ;)
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Hey guys, we are moving up to Townsville at the end of the year and wondering what is the best place to go sunbaking and play if the opportunity arises?
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Quote by Louie1
Understand that but we book a bus and we needed to know numbers so now we will have to cancel tomorrow
I would have loved to come considering I am here in Wagga but heading back home tomorrow
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Hey guys looking forward to it save us some beach, had a great time last time and made us at ease for a newbie couple.
Cheers
Barebums
Do will look for a line up?
Maybe we should have a naked orgy around the fire
Sexlightened
We probably wont be camping there, however, we will be visiting Samurai from time to time. You might see us there for sure ;)
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Quote by coasties2
Is it just us or have the cams lost some of their umm female quality, we used to come to this site and see many couples online putting on a show on cam but of late there are very few, more guys and also more Cpl cams with no females in sight ever. Anyone else notice this.
Notice....Yes. Probably a good reason for it as well. Mrs Bay's experiences on cam have been less than respectful. Rather than directing in the main room they resort to directing in PM or make rather crude comments. Yes understandably this is a Swingers Site but that doesn't mean people ignore proper etiquette and act like a tool.
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Bossman keep true to yourself. Take no notice of the ill-educated and judgmental.
Shame the Mods aren't as quick to ban the "chosen ones" for making derogatory insults, as they are to ban the rest of us for for pointing it out. (Been suspended twice for standing up for myself under the guise of "insulting behaviour").
As an experienced Psychologist, I can assure you that your thoughts and behaviour are not abnormal - just not mainstream.
You are not a if your partner is of legal age. Even the ignorant ones should be able to work that out !!!!
Sorry, I had no idea people had to have a degree in Psychology to have an opinion or make an interpretation based on what they see. We all come from different backgrounds, experience and education levels and considering you have no idea what each person on here possesses, it is a pretty big call to say they are ill-educated. As I read it, no one has insulted bossman but merely commented on the spiel about Daddy Doms that he posted. Furthermore, no one called bossman a paedophile. People can stand up for themselves without insulting others in the process. If you have been suspended for standing up for yourself, then perhaps a different approach for getting your message across
I was rather enlightened by bossman's post, as I had no idea such a kink existed until now. I fail to see how anyone can 'value add' to a topic if we are being insulted every time we disagree with a point of view. What a boring world this would if we all agreed on a topic.
Sexlightened
I am sure gongswing is aware of the risks associated with "natural play" (which I assume means bareback sex). Again it is their right to explorer sex how they want and as long as everyone involved is informed and consenting then we should not be condemning them for it. Probably wouldn't hurt to get regular check ups.
As for requirements I see and heard some absolutely ridiculous ones. Had one female of a couple say she only wanted to play with guys that was over 6 foot although she was only 5'5" yeah can't explain that one. Which brings me to a single lady looking for a lifetime partner but only guys that was taller than her (she is 5'11"), if is a fair call, but do you put a height requirement on love? Then there are the ones that the guy has be circumcised, can't see how that will make much difference when you are wearing a condom. Another was no body hair, shaved downstairs and the list goes on Then these people bitch about finding no one to play with well der. Anyway had my rant :lol:
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yeah can't explain that one. Which brings me to a single lady looking for a lifetime partner but only guys that was taller than her (she is 5'11"), if is a fair call, but do you put a height requirement on love? Then there are the ones that the guy has be circumcised, can't see how that will make much difference when you are wearing a condom. Another was no body hair, shaved downstairs and the list goes on Then these people bitch about finding no one to play with well der. Anyway had my rant :lol:
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