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Perhaps there could be other applications for this - Mrs HC

HAVE you ever wanted to “lick” your cat, like a cat? And by “lick”, we mean brush. With a giant rubber tongue. Held in your mouth?

It might sound crazy, but LICKI Brush is actually happening.

Jason and Tara O’Mara invented the kooky cat brush and started a Kickstarter campaign back in May to raise funds to make them.

The American couple set out to raise $US36,500 to fund the manufacturing of 2500 brushes, the minimum factory order amount. They did it within two weeks and went on to raise a total of $US52,179 from 2002 backers during the 38-day campaign.

Tara says she and Jason came up with the unique idea by observing their own three cats.

“We’re creators. We try to look at the world and our animals from a different perspective and ask the question, ‘what would they want?’ and ‘if they could design products, what would they make?’” she told

“We were looking for the next big thing to offer cat parents. While watching our cats groom each other, we observed that it’s only cats who get along clean each other.”

Cats are infamous for their bathing rituals. What may seem like obsessive cleaning is, in most cases, perfectly normal feline behaviour.

“The average cat spends a significant amount of its day grooming itself,” says Andrew O’Shea of Sydney Animal Behaviour Service. “It’s partly because they like being clean and partly just because they are a cat. Grooming is part of the cleaning process to control parasites and remove dirt.”

Dr O’Shea says cats also groom other cats in their family, if they are comfortable with that family member.

“For cats to groom each other, they need to be relaxed,” he says. “If there is mutual grooming, it means they are bonded to each other.”

Tara and Jason, who describe themselves as cat enthusiasts, believe that cats see their humans as “big cats” but Dr O’Shea disagrees. He says humans cannot imitate the actions of a cat closely enough for it to mean anything to the cat.

“No matter how catlike a human may be, they are going to be using different body language and interacting with the cat differently, so they are not going to see the human as another cat,” he explains.

“Cats do not see humans as big cats, they see them as a different species and communicate with them in a different way.”

Regardless, the O’Maras are confident that their new cat product will bring joy and happiness to cats and their owners. Not only is the brush designed to strengthen the relationship between you and your cat, Tara says it’s soothing and meditative.

“When you’re using it, it’s such a single-minded task. You can’t focus on anything else while you’re using LICKI Brush because it’s taking up so much of your visual space and you’re holding your cat — it’s meditative to use,” Tara says.

It sounds like a loving way to pamper your pet but is it crossing a line?

“We don’t think it’s crossing a line, we think it’s sweet. You can hold your cat in your arms like a baby and get in there but for some people, it’s crossing a line,” she laughs.

The response has been mostly positive but of course there’s been a few haters and some who think the cat brush is just too weird.

Tara identifies as a cat lady (Jason’s a cat daddy) and is not bothered by any negativity towards their newest brainchild.

“The LICKI Brush is definitely a different market and different angle. We’ve developed a thick skin so now we find a lot of humour in the comments,” she says.

The LICKI Brush has enjoyed some high-level press in the USA with laughable segments on Live with Kelly and an interview with Jimmy Kimmel. Bizarre or not, the invention is bringing smiles and laughter to people, which is right on the money for Tara.

“We’re trying to bring joy to people’s lives and if we’re doing that then we are accomplishing our goal,” she says.

There’s been 3000 LICKI Brush pre-orders placed. Production is on schedule for a January 2017 release.



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A SYDNEY adult entertainment venue has been targeted in a twisted attack in which lubricant was switched with acid.

A 62-year-old man was arrested on Saturday after he allegedly went to one of the rooms in the Rydalmere venue in northwest Sydney and covertly filled a lubricant dispenser with hydrochloric acid.

Police said security detained the man after he set off an alarm. It wasn’t the first time the venue had been targeted, and items in the room had been alarmed to warn of tampering, according to police.

The ABC reported that the incident took place at , which advertises itself as “Sydney’s premier health, recreation & social centre”, featuring private spaces and a “voyeur area”.

The man has been charged with administering a poison with intent to injure or cause distress or pain, entering a building with intent, malicious damage and driving while suspended.

He was granted conditional bail and is due to appear in the Parramatta Local Court on September 20.


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I love hubby helping with the housework... but where he really earns sexual brownie points with me, is when he deals with the kids so I don't have to listen to the tantrums and whining :fuckinghell:
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By Felix Clay December 14, 2013 According to a pamphlet I found in the bathroom of the library downtown, there's a lot more going on in sex than you may have guessed. For instance, did you know you can do it different ways? And with someone else? It's quite the circus. Grab some popcorn and a clown! In my limited sexing, I've enjoyed a few of the different fruits the Humptree has to offer, but there's a lot out there, and some of it seems like it was made up just so someone could say they did it, with little consideration for the practical and, dare I say, sensual benefits of such a maneuver. Let's take some time to go over some of the sexual repertoire that just doesn't make a hell of a lot of sense, and see if we can't figure out why. (Everything Cosmo told you about sex is bullshit. Buy the Cracked De-Textbook to learn more.) #7. Standing Up I can only assume upright sex was invented as a way to shame the weak and enfeebled who are incapable of holding up an entire second person while engaged in coitus. I struggle to keep my mind on not embarrassing myself during most sexual encounters. The added stress of keeping another body aloft would be far too much, and the end result would likely be my severed dingle and her greatly bruised ass with my foot in it. I don't feel like there are many upsides to sex in this position. It's possible the woman enjoys some kind of lofty, weightless feeling, being tossed about like a sack of potatoes, but as a guy who could probably hump a sack of potatoes if I were so inclined, I'm not seeing the benefit. In fact, I just went to my kitchen, grabbed a bag of potatoes and held it close, and no, nothing. Even if I had put my dick in it, I feel like it would have been a loss for me. #6. 69 As far as my brain is able to help me recall, this was the third sex position I was aware of. I knew you could be on top, I knew you could be behind, then somehow I knew you could gobble each others' hogs. I'm sure I picked it up in a conversation in the schoolyard, or maybe in an errant porno magazine I had gotten my hands on. Whatever the case, the 69 is a staple of sexing, and I challenge you to find someone who does not have at least one sad 69 story. It may be as popular as hell, but every sex advice website lists this as a "least favorite." It's like the Nickelback of humping. The problem with 69ing is entirely logistical. On paper it sounds awesome -- you scratch my back, I'll scratch yours, then later we lick crotches. High-five! But in practice, you're kneeling and squatting over faces, things don't line up right, you miss your mark and have breathing issues, one of you forgets to hold up your end of things, a stray teste in the eye detaches a retina, and the list goes on. It's really impractical, reversing the natural order of things for the sake of some monkey shines. Now, sure, if you and your partner are of a similar size and complementary shapes, this may work out like gangbusters. When you ease into a 69 a golden light may flood the room and a soft, warming hum may fill the air to comfort you both and egg you on in your oral machinations, but likely most people fit together like a bulldog trying to get into a chihuahua's sweater. #5. Wheelbarrow Of all the yard tools in your grandparent's shed, do any of them evoke fewer sexy feelings than the wheelbarrow? Is "barrow" a word you want associated with your personal lubricants? And if the name isn't bad enough, it's basically the same manual labor you'd be engaging in with an actual wheelbarrow, only now there's a penis in it. If you went to Home Depot and found a wheelbarrow with a dick in it, you'd not buy that wheelbarrow, because now, for all intents and purposes, it's a dickbarrow, and no one wants that. The wheelbarrow presupposes that the man feels the need to do some lifting whilst doing his thrusting and the lady is so good at doing pushups that she's OK with holding one for the entire duration of a sexual interlude. It's work for both parties on top of the physical exertion you normally enjoy during sex. Now, maybe I'm a pathetically out of shape man-lump (there's no maybe about it: I'm like a sentient beanbag chair), but I can't even begin to imagine doing simulated yardwork while having sex. It starts with wheelbarrows, but where does it end? Pruning? Post-hole digging? Rototillers? My god, the testicular bruising would be unheard of. #4. The Waterfall They call this position the waterfall because, like the beautiful natural phenomenon it is named after, it will kill you. If you're unfamiliar and unable to discern the logistics based on the diagram, allow me to elucidate. The woman waits patiently on the bed for the man to shed himself of any sense of self-preservation. Then he crumples himself like a crash test dummy over the end of the bed, ensuring his sex bits stay rooted on the mattress while the rest of his body collapses like a drunken fool forever caught during his spastic solo time to shine on a mid '70s episode of Soul Train. His head rests on the floor so he's able to see what he did wrong in pursuing this position. The woman is allowed to have probably a solid several minutes of hobby-horse riding thrills before the man's ass slides off the bed and sends her crashing onto his already impaired carcass below or, assuming your sheets have a bit of texture and aren't letting you creep away so easily, she gets the same thrill she'd get if she sat on a pickle. The man, at this point, is likely blacking out from his blood having no idea which head it needs to settle in, but at least there will be some back cramping and maybe the ever-elusive ass Charley horse. Try massaging that one out without people looking at you funny. #3. Pool Humping This seems like it makes sense at first, because who among us doesn't get all horned up by the smell of chlorine and the threat of stewing in tepid urine? Pool parties are fun, after all, and when you're in a pool, odds are you're at least half undressed anyway, so it's like an invitation to sexy times. The terrible reality of pool sex is far removed from the sexalicious fantasy. To start with, if you were going to rank lubricants, chlorinated water would be near the ass end of the list, above root beer but below Sriracha. The other issue deals with the ebb and flow of tides. As nasty as it is for you to groinally ingest pool water, so too is it nasty for you to hose down that pool with your internal squirtings. As an impartial third-party swimmer, I can say with absolute certainty that if I were swimming along and ran face first into a semen barge, I don't give a fancy fuck how much chlorine is in that pool, I'm going to shout obscenities like a drunken sailor stubbing his toe. No one needs to play Marco Polo amidst your love jellyfish. Logistically, this is also a letdown because basically you're just having sex standing up again, which we already know sucks, but now instead of potentially just losing your grip and falling, maybe you drown your partner. Plus, when switching over to any of those fun-time mouth maneuvers that are so popular in the sexplay these days, you're going to be met with a mouthful of clammy, cold pool-waterlogged flesh that, yes, probably is tainted with pee. #2. The Butter Churner I assume this position was invented by a man who hated his wife or by an exuberant Amish man who really loved his wife in the way he loved his work and switches religiously between this position and the ol' "barn raiser." It's a thin line, I'm sure. The gist of this position is that you're using the woman the same way you'd use a butter churn, which is basically a skinny barrel in which you plunge some manner of stick (in this case your dinky) over and over again to turn cream into butter. Of course, in the sex way the barrel is a vagina and the cream is, you know, sexing. If you somehow make actual butter, please see a doctor. There are some issues with this position, not the least of which is that it requires the woman to take her entire weight plus the force of man-thrusting on her neck. Why would that be appealing? Also, so the man isn't left out of the discomfort, his penis needs to be entirely vertical and at the 6 o'clock position, which is just about the opposite of where it should be at any given time. The penis, contrary to some beliefs, is not a Mr. Potato Head appendage. Once you're in position and the woman has blood rushing to her head and her breathing somewhat obstructed, you just start pogo-sticking her for all its worth in the hopes that, somewhere down there, you're not stepping on her face and she's really digging your moves. #1. The Spider If you were to name an animal that you equate with sex, you'd be something of a pervert. But then, if you picked the spider, you'd get the extra special notoriety of being super weird and gross at the same time, because spiders are the opposite of sex. Grossness aside, in sex terms the spider seems to be what happens when you and your partner get in the crab walk position and smash your genitals together. Once you're locked in place, I guess you just vibrate and hum, or continue butting at each other like mountain goats trying to establish superiority. At some point Tab A and Slot B mush in a mutually satisfactory way and you disengage, or your wrists and knees grow tired and you collapse in a heap of dissatisfaction. Time will whatever reason, polite society has come to accept the inclusion of dog references in sex, and horses too. You can be hung like a horse and few people are offended, just as if you request a rousing bout of doggy dancing. But none of us have graduated to the point of being really turned on by a partner coming close and breathily saying, "I wanna fuck you like a spider." Honestly, my first instinct would be to presume she's going to kill me when it's over, and I'm not ready for that. Even if it's really good. Making sex into a weird game of Twister seems kind of like you're going against the grain anyway. I'm all for trying new positions, but if the position makes you grunt before you even start having sex, it's likely not going to be worth it. Plus, what are the benefits of a position that, once again, requires the man's wang to at best be pointed south-southeast?
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Quote by baabaa5
sexy as long as i had nothing to do with it :small-print:

Baa you made me laugh with this one (and your choice of emoji). Unfortunately, sex wasn't high on my priority list while pregnant, but I was about as wide as I am tall, so it was logistically difficult. When Mr HC and I did partake of some naughtiness, I usually ended up with reflux... swigging Gaviscon while doing the wild thing ain't pretty or tasty sad
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Was this guy aware that this may be a very real possibility if he was cheating on his gf without her knowledge? Yes, perhaps this girl went too far, but surely he realised his dalliances may come back to bite him on the arse someday? If you play behind your spouses back, it's a risk you take.
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Definitely see where you're coming from Sheba. I think swingers are just people open to sex in all its forms, whether single or attached smile
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According to Oxford Dictionary... "Be promiscuous, especially by engaging in group sex or swapping sexual partners". No mention of whether this only applies to couples, but the last line does seem to suggest the person swinging has a partner..
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Getting an error which says sorry, and to contact helpdesk, which I have done. Anyone else having this issue this morning?
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Yes it's starting to feel that way. We're wondering if it's time for a break to work out whether it's worth our (lost) time and effort, but doubt much will change while we're away. Mrs HC
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None that I'm aware of. Dogging spots, yes, but actual sex clubs, no. The only two I'm aware of in Sydney are Aarows in Rydalmere and Couples Club in Surry Hills. There is a new one in Chippendale from memory, but can't remember what it's called... could be My Secret Spot?
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A LIVERPOOL University student has taken the internet by storm this week after challenging taboos on sexuality and gender. Yasmin Gasimova took to a blog to share photos of her hairy armpits, bushy legs and furry stomach. The 19-year-old, who is Turkic in origin, doesn’t remember a time when she didn’t have excess body hair. “As early as 10, boys were making fun of my moustache and I was trying to shave my noticeably hairy stomach,” she wrote in the post. The computer science major said she made the decision to stop shaving and embrace her body hair when she was just 11 years old. “Having naturally thick, fast-growing hair meant I’d need to waste an hour just to get prickly dots on my legs, which would grow back in a week,” she said. “It’s a huge inconvenience for me, as it never made me feel comfortable, gave me loads of ingrown hairs, and my hairless legs wouldn’t match the rest of my hairy body.” Ms Gasimova explained she stills does some maintenance to her eyebrows and nether regions, but admits this is for practical reasons, not to avoid social suicide. “If I do shave, which is very, very rare, it’s for absolute necessity,” she said. “If I’m going on a beach holiday, having swimming lessons, or if I’m trying to pull a one-night stand, I’ll shave. “I still unfortunately prefer the inconvenience of shaving to the inevitable dirty looks and rejection.” While her friends and family have grown to accept her decision, Ms Gasimova said it is still far from being socially accepted. “We often associate hairy women with being lazy, unclean or an extreme feminist-cat-loving-lesbian,” she said. “I dream of the day I can walk around in the summer in shorts, without being conscious of people judging me. “It will, however, take many of my sisters joining me and ridding the public of the shock.” As for women concerned with being hairy and finding a significant other, Ms Gasimova said there is no shortage of guys who find a girl with excess hair sexy. “I am speaking from experience,” she said.
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Would be worth your while putting some pics up (preferably NOT cock shots) if you expect to get any interest. Just a tip.
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, a new matchmaking site for couples in open relationships, launched in the US last week, aimed at so-called “ethical cheaters” who are honest about their desires to swing with other couples and singles. More than 36,000 global members joined the site within the first week, according to the New York Post. Married mother-of-two Ali*, 42, a personal assistant from New Jersey, explains her love of swinging. Ali: Shaking hands with the beaming grandmother and grandfather at the baptism of our friends’ daughter, I tell them how close my husband, Ray, and I are to the baby’s mum and dad. But I don’t say exactly how close. After all, a Catholic church on Long Island is not exactly the best place to explain that we met on the New York City swinging circuit. Or, indeed, that, until relatively recently, the four of us would regularly have sex together after double dates. Ray and I have been happily married for 15 years, but we’re polyamorous — meaning that we actively welcome like-minded couples into our bed. We truly believe it has made our relationship stronger. It all started in the summer of 2008, soon after the birth of our second daughter and [when] I was in the throes of post-partum depression. Before we had children, we were pretty wild — we’d have sex five or six times a week, and even did the deed in Central Park after open-air concerts like SummerStage. But now I was thinking: “Is this it?” We had our three-bedroom starter home in the suburbs and, though we loved our girls, I worried our lives would become boring. Plus, my libido was non-existent. Then, one night, we watched a late-night documentary series about swingers called Real Sex. Ray, who, like me, has always been open-minded, leaned over to me and said: “You know, that’s something I can imagine us doing when we’re older.” I don’t know what came over me, but I replied: “Why wait until we’re older?” Ray just stared at me, open-mouthed. Around the same time, I’d started chatting online with a woman I’d met through the mum’s website I’d told her how depressed I was, and we just clicked. “Have you thought about swinging?” she asked me one day. Turns out she and her husband, married for 20 years, were into wife-swapping. “You don’t have to sleep with every couple you meet,” she told me. “You have to be selective and become friends first.” Soon, the prospect of swinging was all I could think about. And Ray was really into the idea, too. I remember the exact day I snapped out of my depression — my 36th birthday in August 2008, when we went to the strip club Sin City in The Bronx. To my surprise, I had the time of my life. In the past, I’d have been jealous about Ray looking at these gorgeous, fit girls, but this time, I wasn’t concerned at all. In fact, the strippers were flirting with me more than my husband! That winter, we had our first sexual encounter with a South Jersey couple in their late 30s whom we met on They were newbies, too, and, like us, extremely nervous when we invited them back to our house after our double date at a Cuban restaurant. (It’s one of our rules that our children always stay outside of the home with grandparents or a babysitter when we meet couples. They don’t know we’re polyamorous.) That first experience wasn’t great. I had penetrative sex with the husband after some oral sex with the woman. Ray then slept with the wife. The best part of the night was Ray and I having sex after the other two had left. It had been such a turn-on to see each other with different partners. After that, we saw the same couple as friends, but we didn’t take things into the bedroom again. The real breakthrough came about three months later when we met a couple — an obstetric nurse and an IT manager in their late 30s. We connected on so many levels and the sex was incredible. They eventually became our best friends, and we’d meet them for family barbecues, even their kids’ baptisms. Since they have young children now, we’ve stopped seeing them sexually, though we often meet up for meals out and family get-togethers. It’s amazing the bond you develop — people have such a dim view of swingers, thinking they’re skeevy or dirty. But that’s just not the case. We are just regular people with regular problems — but the lifestyle is an escape from all that. In all, we’ve slept with about six different couples. Our criteria include being educated and being able to hold a good conversation. Of course, we both have to be physically attracted to each partner, too. And we always use condoms when we have sex. For the past year, we’ve been seeing a great couple in their early 30s from The Bronx whom we meet with up to three times a month for dates and then sex. We all went to Atlantic City, NJ, recently for a weekend. The swinging community in the tri-state area (New Jersey, New York and Connecticut) is a small pool, so, when I heard about , I instantly posted our profile on it. It’s exciting to see new faces, and it seems to cater to younger, attractive people. In the meantime, we’re just enjoying ourselves, and our marriage feels stronger than ever. I would never leave Ray or my beautiful daughters for another man or woman. I believe in traditional family and the sanctity of marriage — I just think it’s healthy to bend the rules now and again. What he thinks: Ali’s husband on their polyamorous relationship Ray, 43, a graphic artist, says: “I was pleasantly surprised when Ali suggested we get involved in swinging. Since then, we’ve both learned to not get emotionally involved with the other couple, and that way the opportunities for jealousy ease up. “We meet lots of different couples, but nothing is ever guaranteed. Sex isn’t necessarily going to happen, because we have an agreement that we both have to be attracted to them before we go to the next stage. “You also have to be discerning — someone can look like a Victoria’s Secret model but still be an a-hole. Someone might not be a model, but their personality goes a long way. “The main thing is that our marriage is happier than ever — and it’s largely because we’ve chosen to be polyamorous.” *All names have been changed.
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SORRY guys. Your grandparents probably have a way better sex life than you. A new study from online dating site Elite Singles has revealed the sex habits and attitudes of older people. The study found that they’re way more liberal than younger people when it comes to sex and place it higher up their priority list. The survey found that 93 per cent of the 2500 over 70s believe sex is important in a relationship, with 37 per cent rating it as ‘very important’. 84 per cent said sex only gets better with age and 37 per cent also said they “couldn’t stay in a sexless relationship”. The study found that people over 70 have a higher desire for sex than singles aged 18-30 and found celibacy less acceptable. Just 7 per cent of over 70s said they were “happy without sex in a relationship, but 14 per cent of 18-30 year olds said they would be content with no sex. Older people are also fans of casual sex; 79 per cent said they don’t need to wait for a solid relationship commitment before having sex, a sentiment which was shared with just 69 per cent of younger singles. Older women place greater emphasis on the importance of sex than their male counterparts. 93 per cent of the women surveyed believe the quality of sex improves with age and experience, compared with 76 per cent of men. Women are also the more zealous daters; only 4 per cent said they lacked the energy or mobility to join the dating scene, compared with 23 per cent of men. People over 70 also won’t let a breakup get them down. These legends still believe in love at first sight (60 per cent) and say even after divorce or separation, you can fall in love at any age (96 per cent). They’re also an optimistic bunch — 87 per cent of single over 70s believe love could be just around the corner for them. Chair of the Society of Sexologists, Chris Fox, says the survey results don’t surprise him. “The baby boomers were the sexual pioneers back in the 60s and 70s, so it’s no surprise that they are sexual pioneers today. They were pushing boundaries back then.” Mr Fox says members of Gen Y have grown up in a hypersexualised world which can place too much expectation on sexual performance. “Younger people do experience more pressures around sex and what sex is. They’re bombarded with message about what good sex supposedly is and it creates this fairytale fantasy about the ideal type of sex. There’s a great amount of pressure.”
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Totally agree. We are careful with our pics... we filters/angles etc to eliminate anything recognisable (including furniture etc in background). It's not really hard. Having said that, I'm very recognisable on cam lol
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Looks like chat's up the creek. How can it go from being dog slow but working last night, to not working at all tonight? Get the feeling we're going backwards. Frustrating...
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The popularity of 'cheating websites' has skyrocketed, but the reality of extramarital sex is no longer as simple as a clear-cut case of betrayal. More and more Australians claim affairs have strengthened their relationships. With January being the busiest time of year for divorce lawyers, should couples be looking at alternative options for keeping the flame alive? Sharon* says that sex with her husband has been better than ever since she began sleeping with another man. Her spouse not only knows about her lover, he helped her choose him — and they discuss every encounter in detail. 'Cheating implies dishonesty,' Sharon told 'There has been nothing dishonest in what I have done. 'I did not want to cheat on my husband and did not want to go out looking for someone. That's why we decided to use a website. It was something we could do together. It meant my husband knew about everything from the beginning.' Sharon says she and Paul have been happily married for more than 30 years, have children and share a passionate sex life. Yet he was 'excited at the prospect' of her meeting someone else, and they vetted candidates together online. While there are boundaries, Sharon believes that with honesty and openness, things don't have to get messy. 'Good communication is the key,' she adds. 'We talk a lot before and after anything is done,' she says. 'He sees all the emails between my lover and I, and we always make time to discuss what I have done and enjoyed.' The couple used website (tagline 'Life is short. Have an affair') to find Sharon's partner, who is also married. The pair exchanged messages about their backgrounds and desires, she said, before meeting for coffee — and quickly arranging to go somewhere private. 'For the first time in 30 odd years I was making love to a new man,' she said. 'It was like being a teenager all over again.' Sharon, Paul and Sharon's lover are far from alone in their lifestyle choices. 'I've been married for 20 years and my wife and I have recently decided to explore an open marriage,' says Joe. 'We're honest and clear about all boundaries and keep communication up. 'The result has been a miraculous injection of libido for us both. My interest in her has skyrocketed since she's been spending regular time with her other lover, and I don't take her for granted any more. The variety is awesome.' has just passed the one million members mark in Australia, with 30 million users worldwide. Men who furtively slip off wedding rings in bars are looking decidedly old-fashioned. "Society tells us that we must behave in a certain way (be monogamous) and if you don't that there's something wrong with you,' founder Noel Biderman told 'The funny thing is that being unfaithful isn't atypical. There's nothing wrong with you if you pursue an affair — if anything, you're one of millions.' Mr Biderman believes extramarital flings can be a positive thing. 'People choose to have affairs for a multitude of reasons. I don't think there's a one-size-fits-all approach to infidelity. However, we most often hear from members that they seek out affairs, not because they don't love their spouse, but because their marriage lacks the intimacy and passion it once had. 'Members on the site are not cheating on their spouse because they're looking for a divorce, more often than not they're seeking out an affair to help keep their marriage together. Why ruin a marriage with a long history and possibly family ties just because needs aren't being met in one area? 'It's important that couples openly communicate their needs, desires and expectations with one another.' Still, most of the relationships on AshleyMadison continue to be covert, with the site providing a 'panic button' to take users to a 'neutral site' should they come close to being caught. 'King of infidelity' Noel Biderman says being unfaithful is nothing unusual. Mr Biderman maintains that he is faithful to his wife, and would be 'devastated' if she had an affair (although he wouldn't blame a website, any more than he would a hotel room.) He was simply a sports attorney who saw an opportunity when he observed clients ducking and weaving to escape detection. In one case, he says, an athlete had a wife in both America and Italy. Since Mr Biderman became involved with the site more than a decade ago, there has been a perceptible shift in attitudes. Increasing numbers of couples are admitting to polyamorous relationships, and with an ageing population and the divorce rate at 42 per cent, society is increasingly accepting of the fact romance can fade. TV and movie characters conduct unremarkable adulterous relationships — from Kevin Spacey and Robin Wright's onscreen power couple in House of Cards to the unions in Jason Reitman movie Men, Women & Children. 'Infidelity is the last sexual taboo for society to overcome,' says Mr Biderman. 'We've seen Western cultures embracing things that were once considered forbidden; for example homosexual relationships and interracial marriages. I believe that with time adultery will become accepted as a natural part of what it means to be human.' His site will launch in 10 new countries this year, including the conservative Catholic Philippines. 'Even in countries where adultery is punishable by death or imprisonment there are people who are willing to risk their lives and freedom to be unfaithful,' said Mr Biderman. Almost half of AshleyMadison's users are women, putting paid to the idea of the loyal, long-suffering wife. The stigma still remains, however, with Sharon admitting she doesn't tell all her family and friends. 'I am concerned about being judged,' she says. 'Unfortunately, we do not live in a society that is comfortable with open relationships, or with women who enjoy sex outside a monogamous relationship. I don't think that sex is something that Australians are comfortable talking openly about.' Yet Australia is one of the most liberal countries — coming in fifth in the cheating charts. Perhaps that day is not so far away. *All names have been changed to protect identities.
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We get that often. We also get asked to see our pics (which are mostly face shots) by people who only have cock shots in their private pics. We say we will trade face pics for face pics only.