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nt_lad
Over 90 days ago
Bi-curious Male, 45
0 km · South Australia
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Warming the Bed
Hi
Visiting Perth from the 7th to 15th and wondering if anything is happening during that time.
Good looking, discreet, and respectful creative type here.
Travelling with my photography/video equipment (as always). Happy to take photos/video for singles and couples (F / M / MF / MM/ FF). Can be action shots or profile pics.
Discreet, professional, free, can edit on-site.
Get in touch if you have any questions or would like some shots done while I'm in WA.
Jake
Visiting Perth from the 7th to 15th and wondering if anything is happening during that time.
Good looking, discreet, and respectful creative type here.
Travelling with my photography/video equipment (as always). Happy to take photos/video for singles and couples (F / M / MF / MM/ FF). Can be action shots or profile pics.
Discreet, professional, free, can edit on-site.
Get in touch if you have any questions or would like some shots done while I'm in WA.
Jake
Warming the Bed
Another excellent night. Fewer people than my first M&G but I did arrive late again. Last time I was at a wedding; this time I was hosting a group session. The M&G added to an already-fun night.
Caught up with people I was hoping to see again, met some great new people, and was pleasantly surprised to catch up with someone I wasn't expecting to be there!
Thanks for organising this Kat & Koala. Will definitely be at the next one.
Jake x
Warming the Bed
Thanks for organising the gathering. May not have been as you planned but was still fun - even with the function up the road.
Seeing her kneeling on concrete in those stilettos showed total dedication!
I have some reliable candidates who'll challenge anybody's gag reflex. Will PM you tomorrow.
http://www.swingersheaven.com.au/groups/949/
Seeing her kneeling on concrete in those stilettos showed total dedication!
I have some reliable candidates who'll challenge anybody's gag reflex. Will PM you tomorrow.
http://www.swingersheaven.com.au/groups/949/
Warming the Bed
Single guys really do get a bad wrap on here. The number of profiles that say NO SINGLE GUYS is disappointing. I have no doubt there are rude, annoying, ignorant, and pushy single guys on this site but there are some couples and single women who are equally as obnoxious.
Phrasing profiles in positive terms and explaining what/who you're looking for makes for a more inclusive site. To simply say 'no single guys' is as offensive a generalisation as seeing 'no fat chicks', 'no Asians', 'no oldies'. If somebody sends you a message and they're not what you're seeking (and clearly haven't read what you ARE looking for in your profile), ignore the message and delete it.
To make blanket statements excluding entire sections of the membership is narrow-minded and thoughtless. There are plenty of eloquent, adventurous, sane, fun, and caring single guys on here and some couples miss an opportunity to ever interact with them by displaying their ignorance on their profile. I have no qualms clicking away from a profile the moment I see such exclusionary statements.
They do nothing for the self-esteem of single guys viewing profiles and they don't foster a sense of community or inclusion either.
The superior attitude of some couples and women flows into the chatrooms and forums too. It's not pretty to watch, and the women and couples who take advantage of that power balance very quickly make it onto my no-go list. And that's not 'no-go' in the sense of having sex, it means I have no interest in communicating with them based on the way they treat others.
There've been some very articulate posts from single guys on here and some less-convincing posts from couples trying to justify their behaviour with that perceived sense of power they have, and the "you'd do it too if you had the opportunity" attitude.
Yes, we all have choices and preferences. It's how we express them that's the issue here. Single guys are definitely at the bottom of the food chain on this site and it's a status quo happily maintained by quite a few couples and women here.
Swinging is not the sole domain of couples playing with other couples. It's anybody in a committed relationship playing with others whether they be other couples or singles.
Naturally, I'm prepared for the responses from those in relationships who'll justify their behaviours and have me sounding bitter because I'm a single male. This is not written from a perspective where I feel I'm missing out on something good. Quite the contrary.
We can all word our profiles in non-exclusive terms and still make it clear what we want. Those of us who don't are either lazy, uncreative, careless, lack empathy, or a combination of all those things.
I've met some fantastic couples and some really great single guys through this site and it's been a pleasure to see them interacting at group sessions I've arranged.
Seeing 'no single males' on a profile certainly helps weed out the insular and restrictive couples but I still despise the stench of privilege and exclusivity that permeates through the site as a result.
http://www.swingersheaven.com.au/groups/949/
Phrasing profiles in positive terms and explaining what/who you're looking for makes for a more inclusive site. To simply say 'no single guys' is as offensive a generalisation as seeing 'no fat chicks', 'no Asians', 'no oldies'. If somebody sends you a message and they're not what you're seeking (and clearly haven't read what you ARE looking for in your profile), ignore the message and delete it.
To make blanket statements excluding entire sections of the membership is narrow-minded and thoughtless. There are plenty of eloquent, adventurous, sane, fun, and caring single guys on here and some couples miss an opportunity to ever interact with them by displaying their ignorance on their profile. I have no qualms clicking away from a profile the moment I see such exclusionary statements.
They do nothing for the self-esteem of single guys viewing profiles and they don't foster a sense of community or inclusion either.
The superior attitude of some couples and women flows into the chatrooms and forums too. It's not pretty to watch, and the women and couples who take advantage of that power balance very quickly make it onto my no-go list. And that's not 'no-go' in the sense of having sex, it means I have no interest in communicating with them based on the way they treat others.
There've been some very articulate posts from single guys on here and some less-convincing posts from couples trying to justify their behaviour with that perceived sense of power they have, and the "you'd do it too if you had the opportunity" attitude.
Yes, we all have choices and preferences. It's how we express them that's the issue here. Single guys are definitely at the bottom of the food chain on this site and it's a status quo happily maintained by quite a few couples and women here.
Swinging is not the sole domain of couples playing with other couples. It's anybody in a committed relationship playing with others whether they be other couples or singles.
Naturally, I'm prepared for the responses from those in relationships who'll justify their behaviours and have me sounding bitter because I'm a single male. This is not written from a perspective where I feel I'm missing out on something good. Quite the contrary.
We can all word our profiles in non-exclusive terms and still make it clear what we want. Those of us who don't are either lazy, uncreative, careless, lack empathy, or a combination of all those things.
I've met some fantastic couples and some really great single guys through this site and it's been a pleasure to see them interacting at group sessions I've arranged.
Seeing 'no single males' on a profile certainly helps weed out the insular and restrictive couples but I still despise the stench of privilege and exclusivity that permeates through the site as a result.
http://www.swingersheaven.com.au/groups/949/
Warming the Bed
Did the journalist not read her own article?
The headline is "Women only have eyes for the big boys" and the pull-quote says 'To put it bluntly, if you are short and pear-shaped a large penis is not going to increase your attractiveness'
The size of a man's flaccid cock can vary greatly from the size of his erect cock. Some of the women will be in for quite a surprise when they discover the difference between 'showers' and 'growers'.
Being shown two identical bodies with penis size being the only difference and choosing the one with the larger penis is like being shown two identical cars and one comes with a larger roof rack. The roof rack may never have factored into the equation for your ideal car but if you're being offered more, why not take the bigger one?
I'm very happy I have a big cock but I'd never be that much of a dick to think it's the be-all and end-all. It is very much what you do with it and who it's attached to.
Size isn't the only factor for penile attractiveness either. There's the girth, whether it's cut or uncut, the overall shape of it, how much the guy cums, how much foreskin there is, how hard it gets/stays, what it takes to make it cum. There are plenty of other factors and every cock (and recipient) is different.
Articles like this feed myths about the importance of cock size and make a lot of guys question the adequacy of their cock. There are plenty of 'studies' and media images out there that make women feel just as crap about their bodies.
Jake
http://www.swingersheaven.com.au/groups/949/
The headline is "Women only have eyes for the big boys" and the pull-quote says 'To put it bluntly, if you are short and pear-shaped a large penis is not going to increase your attractiveness'
The size of a man's flaccid cock can vary greatly from the size of his erect cock. Some of the women will be in for quite a surprise when they discover the difference between 'showers' and 'growers'.
Being shown two identical bodies with penis size being the only difference and choosing the one with the larger penis is like being shown two identical cars and one comes with a larger roof rack. The roof rack may never have factored into the equation for your ideal car but if you're being offered more, why not take the bigger one?
I'm very happy I have a big cock but I'd never be that much of a dick to think it's the be-all and end-all. It is very much what you do with it and who it's attached to.
Size isn't the only factor for penile attractiveness either. There's the girth, whether it's cut or uncut, the overall shape of it, how much the guy cums, how much foreskin there is, how hard it gets/stays, what it takes to make it cum. There are plenty of other factors and every cock (and recipient) is different.
Articles like this feed myths about the importance of cock size and make a lot of guys question the adequacy of their cock. There are plenty of 'studies' and media images out there that make women feel just as crap about their bodies.
Jake
http://www.swingersheaven.com.au/groups/949/
Warming the Bed
'Affair' is such a loaded and judgmental word in itself.
People need to be responsible for their own actions and be prepared for the consequences - good or bad. A partner who sees others outside the relationship should be prepared for any consequences, in the same way that the partner who refuses to shift their boundaries should be prepared.
If I play with somebody who is seeing someone else, I don't need to know what arrangements they do or don't have in their relationship. What happens between me and them is between us only. What they do in their relationship is none of my business.
There's way too much repression in society around sex. We can spend billions of dollars on weapons and send men and women off to foreign countries to kill or be killed but we shun or judge our friends and family for the things they do sexually. It's a twisted world when we can accept that thousands of people die in conflicts every year but we're abhorred by two people having pleasure with each other.
It's fine to say that cheating is cheating but where do you draw the line? Are the people who despise cheaters equally upset at the husband who has a couple of beers, without his wife knowing, when he's not supposed to be drinking alcohol? Or the wife who buys herself a dress when it's not in the budget and she doesn't tell her husband? And what happens when their partners find out? Their partners would most likely be upset initially then adjust their boundaries or reassert them. If they were sexual boundaries that were crossed though, most people are much less likely to forgive the dishonesty.
Affairs are not the problem; it's all the baggage and rules we carry with us around sex. There'd be plenty of people judging everyone on this site simply for being a member. "Oh no, if you're in love with someone you should never want to have sex with somebody else."
Dishonesty is a part of our lives. It starts when we teach kids about Father Christmas and the Easter Bunny. Full disclosure in everything we do just doesn't work. Do you tell somebody you hate their new hairstyle when they love it? Do you tell your boss about their body odour problem? Do you tell your colleague you can't stand them as a person, or do you keep quiet about it to maintain a harmonious work environment? Only you know whether it's appropriate to even broach the topic with them, and sometimes you can't be sure exactly how they'll react.
Everyone knows their own situation and what the best strategy is to have their needs met. In a perfect world, you'd be able to sit down with your partner and discuss everything that's on your mind and you'd reach a mutually-agreeable arrangement. The world is far from perfect though.
Whatever you choose for yourself, be prepared for the consequences - they're not always bad either. Remember, there are also consequences for inaction.
Jake
http://www.swingersheaven.com.au/groups/949/
People need to be responsible for their own actions and be prepared for the consequences - good or bad. A partner who sees others outside the relationship should be prepared for any consequences, in the same way that the partner who refuses to shift their boundaries should be prepared.
If I play with somebody who is seeing someone else, I don't need to know what arrangements they do or don't have in their relationship. What happens between me and them is between us only. What they do in their relationship is none of my business.
There's way too much repression in society around sex. We can spend billions of dollars on weapons and send men and women off to foreign countries to kill or be killed but we shun or judge our friends and family for the things they do sexually. It's a twisted world when we can accept that thousands of people die in conflicts every year but we're abhorred by two people having pleasure with each other.
It's fine to say that cheating is cheating but where do you draw the line? Are the people who despise cheaters equally upset at the husband who has a couple of beers, without his wife knowing, when he's not supposed to be drinking alcohol? Or the wife who buys herself a dress when it's not in the budget and she doesn't tell her husband? And what happens when their partners find out? Their partners would most likely be upset initially then adjust their boundaries or reassert them. If they were sexual boundaries that were crossed though, most people are much less likely to forgive the dishonesty.
Affairs are not the problem; it's all the baggage and rules we carry with us around sex. There'd be plenty of people judging everyone on this site simply for being a member. "Oh no, if you're in love with someone you should never want to have sex with somebody else."
Dishonesty is a part of our lives. It starts when we teach kids about Father Christmas and the Easter Bunny. Full disclosure in everything we do just doesn't work. Do you tell somebody you hate their new hairstyle when they love it? Do you tell your boss about their body odour problem? Do you tell your colleague you can't stand them as a person, or do you keep quiet about it to maintain a harmonious work environment? Only you know whether it's appropriate to even broach the topic with them, and sometimes you can't be sure exactly how they'll react.
Everyone knows their own situation and what the best strategy is to have their needs met. In a perfect world, you'd be able to sit down with your partner and discuss everything that's on your mind and you'd reach a mutually-agreeable arrangement. The world is far from perfect though.
Whatever you choose for yourself, be prepared for the consequences - they're not always bad either. Remember, there are also consequences for inaction.
Jake
http://www.swingersheaven.com.au/groups/949/
Warming the Bed
Unfortunately, we all have to filter through the time-wasters to find the genuine people on the site. It can be extremely frustrating at times but I've met some brilliant people through here and they make it worth it. They're the people you focus your energy on.
Keep being yourself and don't let the others spoil your fun.
Jake
http://www.swingersheaven.com.au/groups/949/
Keep being yourself and don't let the others spoil your fun.
Jake
http://www.swingersheaven.com.au/groups/949/
Warming the Bed
Love your playfulness! Sounds like a fun trip ahead. Drive safely. 
http://www.swingersheaven.com.au/groups/949/
http://www.swingersheaven.com.au/groups/949/
Warming the Bed
It's exactly why the gloryhole was set up and why it works so well. It's available on Friday too. ;)
http://www.swingersheaven.com.au/groups/949/
http://www.swingersheaven.com.au/groups/949/
Warming the Bed
I have a wedding to attend that night but will try getting down there later. Hopefully you're still around.
Jake
http://www.swingersheaven.com.au/groups/949/
Jake
http://www.swingersheaven.com.au/groups/949/
