My hubby was like that initially. It's just a matter of finding the right parties - people. Look for parties where there is NO pressure to play - where you can just go and meet and chat to people. Eventually you find people you click with and take it further. I'm sure most people are nervous. We've being doing this for years and I am always nervous - even if I've been to the same place numerous times before. It's natural - once hubby feels comfortable he'll be fine. I know there have been times when we have both gone to a party not intending to play but somehow we have both ended up having an amazing time. Just relax and chill and don't put pressure on yourselves.
This one of the reasons why single guys get a bad rap. Its very mild compared to some of the messages we get.
Please consider. I know u said no single guys but u look too good not to test waters. Thanks.
WTF...test the waters??? Does he think his eloquent prose is going to entice us?
I don't think so!
Mr T
TT never stated he got the pic via Google.
In TT's own words....
"A quick bit of googling suggests reputable sites like Google aren't indexing the profile images"
So where did TT obtain the pic. Until we know, if ever, people should stop making unfounded comments as to how they were obtained.
If anyone can find pics via search engines then I suggest that admin be notified immediately in an appropriate manner. Posting pics of other members in a public forum is not appropriate no matter how you couch your words or attempt to misinterpret the rules and conditions of this site.
Mr T
Well, while I have enjoyed TT's posts I think posting a pic of another member crossed the line. TT could have argued their point without doing so.
We have pics on our profile for other members to look at. We would certainly not like our public pics displayed in a forum post without our permission or knowledge.
To what purpose? Where does it all end? There was a recent post about women and big cocks. Does that mean it would be ok for everyone to trawl through members profiles and post pics of guys with big cocks without their permission? What about guys with below average size cocks. Would it be ok to post pics of them and open up the opportunity for derision in the forum. I could go on but I think I have made myself clear.
No matter how popular you are as a forum contributor it does not give you the right to disrespect other members or disregard SH rules.
Hope they resolve the issue and are reinstated. It really would be a shame to see them with a permanent ban.
Mr T
Up until recently we had a 'no single males' posted in our profile. Despite stating this we have a number of single males that we (male is straight) play with. We stated this to reduce as far as possible the number of single males contacting us as we prefer to get to know people (single or otherwise) through chat or meet & greets. We go by peoples personality, honesty, respectfulness and presentation first and foremost. If you tick all of those boxes we will then consider initiating contact.
Recently we altered our profile from 'no single males' to:
SINGLE MALES... we will contact you if interested. Please do not contact us...we will not reply and you will be blocked.
MARRIED/PARTNER...we are NOT INTERESTED if your other half doesn't know what you are up to.
We also ticked 'single male' in the what we are looking for section of our profile.
We should have known what would happen next!!!!! Despite stating the above we have been flooded with unsolicited messages and access to private galleries. We immediately block them as stated in our profile.
Recently in another post a single male was lamenting why couples have 'no single males' in their profile yet contact him for play. In our case the aforementioned is why.
We are also very aware of the tactics single guys utilise to gain favour with us. This is why we block every single male who initiates contact with us.
You want to say hi, I like your photos etc. Say it in the main chat room, you don't need to whisper as it immediately raises a red fag with both of us. You want us to look at your cam? Don't tell us to, we will if we want to. Cams of guys masturbating do nothing for us.
If we sound a little bit jaded it is because we are sick and tired of the lack of respect shown by the majority of single guys we have had contact with on this site.
Don't bother with Viagra, Cialis is much better, has less side effects and lasts a hell of a lot longer. You can only get it legally with a script from a GP. Cost approx. $86 for 4 tabs. Comes in 5, 10 & 20 mg. Get your GP to prescribe 20 mg and break the tab in half. I certainly wouldn't buy over internet from overseas.
Reality is business's are there to make money and maximise profit. The operators of this site are no different and will either succeed or fail on the service provided to its customers. Raising the annual fee to what other service providers charge puts the business in direct competition with the others. Customers will then decide which offers the better service overall.
Whilst SH might advertise 160k+ members, the truth is most are not active swingers. One only has to look at a members profile to see when that member last logged on. Free membership is a marketing tool utilised to entice people to join and to inflate the membership base.
We have been on this site virtually from the beginning and in the chat rooms every day. Originally we had free membership but discontinued our membership briefly before re-joining as fully paid members. We have met and played with some wonderful people through the chat rooms.
What we find particularly annoying is:
the response (if at all) from admin over issues raised.
too many guys think this is a site to get free sex (no surprises there!!!!)
the flooding of chat rooms whenever there is a 'hot' cam on effectively shutting down chat.
the inability to join a chat room because of the above.
scant details on members profiles.
the inability to contact mods at times when an issue arises (there have been occasions when there hasn't been a mod in any of the chat rooms. Given that SH has decided to raise its membership fee perhaps they should look at providing a stipend to the moderators).
Filter option so that only other members who match your profile can see yours.
What we would like to see:
identification of all members to be verified by cam...if you can't afford a cam you cant afford membership plus just about anyone can digitally alter a photo these days for verification purposes.
no access to contacting members, cams or joining chat rooms unless a fully paid member.
requirement that couples differentiate themselves...hate opening a couple cam to find in most cases it is usually just the male.
We are currently moderately happy with site but will reassess when membership is next due.
Ok guys...as far as university research goes. I have undertaken a number of research studies utilising both quantitative and qualitative methodologies. All research must be approved by the university research ethics committee and all participants must have given written consent.
Participants in research studies are never identified personally by name or photographs. Your personal and work address, phone numbers etc are also not identified. General information provided by participants is used eg. age, gender, location, information particular to the research study.
Information gathered is stored securely for five years and cannot be accessed by anyone except those conducting or overseeing the research.
I have included in my profile the non consent disclaimer. This at least stops universities and other organisations from contacting me directly.
As I said, you can never be identified so there really is no issue.
How can u tell if a female is camming her private bits that they are actually hers?
Hi lonelydad,
I agree with you on this topic as I have been booted at times, whilst on cam - and if my home phone rings and I answer it, ie: out of the cam view while I take the call - apologies - knock on the door - sorry. I don't have control of outside interferences does this mean I can't cam "just in case"?????
The camming rules do need to be looked at - yes I understand privacy and safety reasons, but when I choose to go on cam it is my choice.
And yes dad, we were with you at your party and you were a fantastic host and there was always someone on cam.
Hiya Jen, can't make it now - but have a great day
Mrs Tay xx
Hiya Jen - we will be there!!!!!!
Didn't mean to single out single guys in that context...we have met some great single guys from the chat room. One in particular has become a very good friend. Am so sick of single guys however who turn out to be married and cheating on their partners. Sorry won't go there, same with playmates who want to use our place to meet but don't swing.
We like to get to know people through chatting first; it doesn't take too long to figure out who the keyboard warriors, fakes etc. are. We also find feedback from others in the chat room to be of great help. If we can't cam with interested swingers to check their bona fide then forget it.
At the end of the day if there is no physical/intellectual attraction we will not be interested in meeting up. We have built up a small trustworthy group through being honest, careful and respectful. Unfortunately the prospect of sex brings out the very worst in some people.
Just because we are swingers doesn't mean we will swing with anyone...and that's just not a thought but reality.
So true, been stuffed around too much.
Some people just like to have fun and games at other peoples expense.
Seems more chat than swing once you weed the single guys out. We have found a lot of couples here only for titillation purposes ie spice their own sex life up, or not interested in meeting more couples.
Having said that we have played with some people from this site.
