Are men simply stupid?

14 Apr 2014

I know this may offend some men but I have to ask, what is wrong with men? 3 times the past month I have men harassing me to chat, its always the same question's 1 - what are you into 2 - do you want to meet Tired of answering the same question over and over I decided for some fun to make myself a website, its kind of a place I can blog about my sex life, maybe have a few members and have a laugh, show some pics and write about some of my adventures, nothing too over the top. I decided to keep this to people I am happy to chat more too so its not a public site its invitation only. Anyway, 3 times now some moronic male has hit me up to tell all, rather than doing so I thought hey why not give them the link to my site, they can check my pics, read my bucket list, read some of my play dates and interact with me, obviously I was reasonably keen on them to offer the site link to them. The only catch to the site is you have to register, just a name and email, this is done to weed out kids and to stop the spam bots. Do you think these 3 guys took the 5 seconds to register? No!! Instead they go to the site, cant be stuffed spending 5 seconds to register and then come back here messaging me asking me for pictures of myself and asking if ill meet them. roflmao God men on this site are a waste of time, I truly think the number of morons is much higher on this site compared to other sites, and it really does lead me to ask, what the hell is wrong with men these days!! Sorry for my rant just very frustrated with some of the users on this site, if you really want a woman to meet you surely you would put in some effort.

14 Apr 2014

I'm ashamed to be a male sometimes... Reading profiles where it clearly states multiple times, in capitals no single men. Sure enough, you glance at the recent comments.. Filled with single blokes who haven't even taken a moment to read the profile. I can't even imagine guys would even consider clicking the link you provide let alone sign up if they can't notice large letters telling them they are not what the person they are contacting is looking for. There's no such thing as respect, and sometimes I think alot of male members here are just straight out desperate and just mass message in the hope to get a bit. I'm certainly not offended (to go back to your opening line) and I think anyone that is fits the description I gave above. Cheers, Shane

14 Apr 2014

Well Done Shane for actually having a level of understanding ... Sincerely I wish there were more PEOPLE (note I say people and not a specific gender) like you Shane ... with manners and respect ... I have to say I read the original post with a giggle and a shake of my head ....If people will not respect your basic wishes on here ... what would make us want to meet in real life ... honestly rolleyes

:roll::roll:

15 Apr 2014

To be honest, if someone on here gave us a link that that we had to register for to view more about them, unless it was a professional site we would be a bit suspect. We have an email address specifically for sites like this, but even so we don't give it out easily. We might check out a site of someone we had chatted to for some time and felt comfortable with, but if directing us to their site was one of the first things they did then we would steer clear. Maybe you could take some of the good stuff you described about your site and put it into your profile here? At the moment your profile is all negative "we don't like this and that". Having said that - yes we agree that soooo many single guys will not lift a finger to get laid. If they can't simply message a woman, ask her to "come suck my fat cock" and have her rush around to give him a blowjob, then it's too much work. No doubt people that lazy are a dud root anyway, so we're not missing anything by rejecting them.

15 Apr 2014

YES

15 Apr 2014

Stupid is, Is what Stupid does

:banghead::banghead::banghead::banghead::banghead::banghead::banghead:

15 Apr 2014

God men on this site are a waste of time, I truly think the number of morons is much higher on this site compared to other sites, and it really does lead me to ask, what the hell is wrong with men these days!!
perhaps your on too many sites and your perception of men is clouded...
as far as "are men simply stupid" i challenge you to walk hanson road for just five minutes to find out the true answer wink

and then ill join in on ya blog to read all about it lol

15 Apr 2014

Would have to agree with Shane there are a large proportion that are very disrespectful etc and are pretty stupid to act that way. Though as with TT would be a bit concerned about going to a site if it was given to me early in a conversation. Though your idea of a separate site is an awesome one Oki and it is great that you have taken the effort to establish it as well as protect it via ensuring a registration process. Cheers

15 Apr 2014

Nice angle Shane.. I hope it works for you pmsl

16 Apr 2014

The problem with the current contemporary male species is the lack of wooing skills.

16 Apr 2014

Stupid??? We prefer to think of them as misguided

16 Apr 2014

We prefer to think of them as horny studs eager to see Mrs TT naked and get their hands on her sexy body. boink

But, alas, to get that far they need to appeal to her mind and not many put in the thought or effort required to do that. :-(

16 Apr 2014

well this is a sex room honey

16 Apr 2014

Quote by allaready2
well this is a sex room honey

Really? We thought it was a swingers site.
And maybe call us odd, but we prefer our sex to be mentally arousing, not just mechanical. People who don't get that tend to be a dud root.

16 Apr 2014

well said tt btw folks ... there is a block feature for anoyying whisperers innocent

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16 Apr 2014

Quote by TemptedTwo
well this is a sex room honey

Really? We thought it was a swingers site.
And maybe call us odd, but we prefer our sex to be mentally arousing, not just mechanical. People who don't get that tend to be a dud root.
:giggle:

16 Apr 2014

Quote by Bob_Hunter
Nice angle Shane.. I hope it works for you
pmsl

I don't think being respectful is an 'angle', nor should anyone expect it to 'work'
Pretty simple to read a profile and ascertain weather you are what that person is looking for. Those with an attitude that this is a sex site and therefore it must and has to be a free for all and feel that thanks, but no thanks is not an acceptable answer should really take a good hard look at themselves.

16 Apr 2014

Quote by ThatShaneGuy
Nice angle Shane.. I hope it works for you
pmsl

I don't think being respectful is an 'angle', nor should anyone expect it to 'work'
Pretty simple to read a profile and ascertain weather you are what that person is looking for. Those with an attitude that this is a sex site and therefore it must and has to be a free for all and feel that thanks, but no thanks is not an acceptable answer should really take a good hard look at themselves.
Well said Shane.
Although I do think many single guys get tarred with the same brush it's those with attitudes of this being "a sex site" that make it hard for the ones that know that sex isn't just trolling profiles and thinking it's on tap.

17 Apr 2014

Quote by GoodandGreedy
Nice angle Shane.. I hope it works for you
pmsl

I don't think being respectful is an 'angle', nor should anyone expect it to 'work'
Pretty simple to read a profile and ascertain weather you are what that person is looking for. Those with an attitude that this is a sex site and therefore it must and has to be a free for all and feel that thanks, but no thanks is not an acceptable answer should really take a good hard look at themselves.
Well said Shane.
Although I do think many single guys get tarred with the same brush it's those with attitudes of this being "a sex site" that make it hard for the ones that know that sex isn't just trolling profiles and thinking it's on tap.
Thank you from a reasonable person Shane, well written and I could not agree more.
Quite correct GoodandGreedy, I find it quite frustrating that blokes act like that, not necessary, and kind of diminishes the people they want to interact with, and makes the ones doing look like boozos.
i

17 Apr 2014

Quote by allaready2
well this is a sex room honey

And they wonder why they get the tag "stupid" with a responses like this no wonder , Last time we looked its a Swingers site for like minded people to gain contact with others for possable social or play meets with others
Guys need to remember their biggest sex organ is thier brain not the little thing hanging between thier legs
We know there are a few genuine guys out there but the duds far out number them so then the good chaps end up dragged under the same umbrella and makes it hard for them aswell
Melbcpl01

25 Apr 2014

Quote by LotusinBloom
well this is a sex room honey

Really? We thought it was a swingers site.
And maybe call us odd, but we prefer our sex to be mentally arousing, not just mechanical. People who don't get that tend to be a dud root.
:giggle:
Agree,we have met some lovely guys here, they cared about me etc, so much so I seen then on more than one occasion. most men just think we are a bunch of desperate women, we enjoy sex and yes it starts in our you have no interest in me...then why should I have in you. If the men that wonder why they don't get any where on this site just spent time reading these posts they have a far greater chance of having fun and yes there are always a few strings attached..! Gabi (and Lynd)

26 Apr 2014

LOL This is a retorical question isn't it?

28 Apr 2014

sex site?? hhhmmm confirms my theory. some are just imbeciles . some have brains but lots dont use them. mr just said oooohhhh boobs lets fuck. wink

2 May 2014

Many guys who frequent this site seem to have swinging expectations based on porn movies, believing that women in here are all sex-crazed and will do anything with any guy who offers a cheezy or sleezy chat-up line. Most of the guys we receive whispers and messages from are quite polite and take an equally polite 'no-thankyou' with grace. We are continually disappointed though at how few of the males we speak to have checked our profile or even know that the Forum, Gallery, Local Swingers and Search functions exist. None at all seem to read the site instructions and rules or the many sub-topics that deal with so many aspects of swinging. A very common belief seems to be that all women in here are sex-crazed and starved and are looking for a 'younger guy' to alleviate their 'problem'. Cock size seems to dominate their thinking with 'bigger' always being 'better'. Meet and Greets are considered to be sexual meat markets where women indulge in non-stop sex with every male who attends, rather than social functions at which like minded people gather to find potential play partners. We see very few solo males at our Meet and Greets, Parties and Play Events, even those that are advertised in the Forum and elsewhere in the site. Once the reality of swinging is explained to them most solo male hunters return to fruitless trolling in the chat room, regarding socialising with couples and single women at a social event as requiring far too much effort. For the very few gents who do come along to socialise and flirt, rewards and fun are quite possible but never guaranteed. Despite the odd moronic comment from socially vacant males we continue to enjoy the site and chatroom. We have made some great friendships through swinging whether we have played or not and have enjoyed some excellent social and erotic adventures. Regards, Muffins

2 May 2014

Muffins You are so on the money. We wouldn't mind a single guy from time to time for Mrs Bay, but their attitude makes them so undesirable. A married female friend of ours recently got a message off a single guy the other day, stating he will be the best sex she will ever have. Seriously WTF, talk about a stupid comment. Obviously that single male got told to F off. We have been to a few meet and greets and yes rarely see single males there, at best maybe a couple. The Bays

2 May 2014

see above! im no killer bird either, nothings stopping you from saying stuff to mods in the rooms, reporting harrassers, blocking people. or just ignore them all together!

5 May 2014

Someone else stated earlier - well this is a sex site. That is true. It is a sex site. Not a dating site. Not even a make friends site. It is purely a recreational, sport fucking, sex site.

5 May 2014

Quote by Johnnyswinger
Someone else stated earlier - well this is a sex site.
That is true. It is a sex site. Not a dating site. Not even a make friends site. It is purely a recreational, sport fucking, sex site.

Thanks for proving the OP's point.

5 May 2014

Quote by Johnnyswinger
Someone else stated earlier - well this is a sex site.
That is true. It is a sex site. Not a dating site. Not even a make friends site. It is purely a recreational, sport fucking, sex site.

You are seriously not helping the cause for single male profiles.

5 May 2014

Quote by Johnnyswinger
Someone else stated earlier - well this is a sex site.
That is true. It is a sex site. Not a dating site. Not even a make friends site. It is purely a recreational, sport fucking, sex site.

The site can be many things to many people. There are both single's and couple's profiles in here that clearly state that the people concerned are seeking a quick hook-up without any socialising or preliminaries. Johnnyswinger's comments may apply to many of them. For us though and many others this is a social swinging site where friendships are formed that may lead to naked fun. Other profiles state that their authors are looking for relationships or perhaps just online friends. Even those who are seeking contact of an intimate or sexual nature usually have likes, dislikes and boundaries with some being soft swingers so are not seeking 'sport fucking' liaisons.
We have met quite a few people through this site at Meet and Greets, Parties, Play Weekends and in the Chat Room. We haven't played with all or even most of them but have always enjoyed meeting and socialising. We find it refreshing to be able to talk openly about sex and the swinging lifestyle in a social group environment and then perhaps proceed to explore some facets of those discussions.
We looked at many 'adult liaison' sites before choosing Swinger's Heaven. We eliminated those sites which seemed to be concerned primarily with anonymous sexual hook-ups, gang bangs and orgies, finally choosing this site as it appeared to offer good opportunities for social swinging activities where we could make respectful, sustainable friendships with the possibility of mutual sexual benefits. We have not been disappointed.
Swinging has been a surprisingly social activity for us and also one that requires a degree of organisation, patience and some varied approaches to the perennial problem of 'meeting in person' for the first time.
There is an old military adage that says, "Time spent in reconnaissance is seldom wasted". When applied to swinging it means that time taken to read profiles, meet and engage prospective play partners in discussions to determine mutual likes, dislikes and desires, usually pays off.
Regards,
Muffins