As a couple looking for a female to play with, you have your work cut out for you, but I think this site is a fine place to give it a try. Here a few things I look for when picking out couples to play with:
--Pictures! I want to know that I'm really talking to a couple, so snap a few pics of each other. Doesn't have to be face pics, but a few of each of you shows me that your 'medium' body type really means medium, and proves to me you are semi-serious about playing.
--Profile - Your profile is nice and to the point, no complaints there but include your location. I only search for couples within a 50km radius of my postcode.
--Get out there and chat, send friend requests and be willing just to make friends. And it doesn't hurt to chat with other couples. Who knows, someone might be willing to share their wife with you and just watch.
Best of luck on your search!
If you are computer savy, try listening to the Dan Savage podcast, Savage Love. It's a free weekly podcast and he deals a lot with your issue (one partner is not getting enough sex). My husband and I have listened to it for two+ years now and it has really brought us around to the fact that monogamy is not for many couples.
Also, you could get a copy of Opening Up : A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino. She goes into the different types of open relationships and how to deal with some of the feelings that may result (jealousy, envy, etc). Read it and then give it to your wife to read...
good luck!
-jennifer
I know this topic is really old, but I thought i'd give my 2 cents.
I love Dan Savage and his Savage Love podcast. It's a free postcast and you can subscribe on iTunes or listen through the paper he writes for (The Stranger). We listened to him for 2 to 3 years now and it really has changed our opinion on monogamy and polyamory. I don't always agree with this opinions, but he is always well spoken and he doesn't hesitate to call people up on their bullshit. His advice, whether to gays, straights, bis and a-sexuals, seems to be relevant to almost everyone.
Always trying to be GGG,
Jen
